Post: #1

I've been talking to this girl for a little bit and we had a conversation. At one point she mentioned that a lot of guys said they like something about her and then she asked me if I agree with what the guys said.

I basically told her I only give compliments, but not when you beg for one. She got mad about it. Should I have just agreed or tried to word my response differently?

Post: #2

Agree and Amplify I have found is key, women don't want a straight answer or a stern answer 99% of the time.

"A lot of guys like something about me? do you agree?"

"Yeah you have good taste in men, smirk / change conversation"

Anything slightly cocky / witty will suffice, keep it playful.

Post: #3

"I'm not like the other guys" should have done the trick.

Post: #4

I am not easily impressed

Post: #5

Or

Post: #6

You're right that she was fishing for a compliment.

You made the mistake of taking her seriously and responding logically. She's emotional, respond to her emotions.

Frame wise, you might not want to put yourself in the same box as the other guys, her orbiters...

To me, every time a girl gives me an opportunity like the one she gave you, I take it in a direction that she doesn't expect.

What you actually say and do depends on context.

If this is in person, you have a lot of options.

If this is via text/online - you have to think carefully because things you say are easy to misinterpret.

And the thing itself is also important.

Generically - imagine this was your daughter showing you something she made in class looking for fatherly validation.

Oh you value my opinion?!? I'm flattered. Somebody's getting on my good side.
Your X is great.
Feel better pumpkin?

So she gets the validation from you, but you take the frame of the final decision maker.

There are other ways to play it, but overall you should take away the basic principles of not taking these sorts of things too seriously.

And then the response is one where you reframe her thing in a nonverbal way as being as trivial as it truly is.

I deal with feminists, "strong independent women", vegetarians, Christians, and Republicans the same way.

WIA

Post: #7

"I think they like you for you. You are definitely...the you-iest you I've chatted with tonight."

Post: #8

"To be honest, my last girlfriend was a model, so I need quite a lot to get impressed." if she's talking about her physique.
"Yeah, all girls say they're super hot in bed...but it's rarely the case." if she's talking about sexual performances.

Post: #9

"I really like how you don't need validation from others"...smirk