Post: #26

America. Honestly, Americans are friendly and fascinated by foreigners. I will give you some evidence if I remember but they really like people from the Anglosphere.

Let's avoid expat mentality because I'm assuming you're asking as an expat.

Speak the language. If not, get out of your compound, foreigner mentality, etc. Learn bits about culture there, and express interest.

This is all anecdotal:

Canadians seem great, they are warm people who are extremely agreeable.

Serbians are awesome to me. They are super open to meeting foreigners, but again, I met almost everyone through social circles.

Brits seem really chill to have a beer with, but it always fizzles from there.

Germans in Germany are not chill at all. Meet a German traveling and they are super nice.

Central/ South Americans seem pretty nice and warm, and most importantly, laid back.

Middle Easterners (we're talking about a large region here, just like C, SA), can be great if you meet them abroad, and express your interest in ME affairs. I've found they're super nice, polite, meeting them in the states.

Post: #27

(05-23-2018 12:05 PM)Ice Wrote:  I never understood what the deal is with these clubs in Germany. Why should I need to join a club if I want to meet people?

(05-23-2018 11:32 AM)semibaron Wrote:  .. we have clubs for soccer, tennis, table tennis, music, wandering, voluntary fire fighters, theatre, and carneval. If that's not enough for you, the next village might offer Jujitsu, (beach) volleyball or bowling.

I'm not interested in any of these things above in the least. Yeah right I'll join a bowling club ..

That's the thing with Germany, many people need some kind of "official" structure where they feel like they are "allowed" to meet new people.

If the club culture is the only way to meet people in Germany I'll pass.

Maybe we have different definitions of what a "friend" is. Real, long-lasting friendships that include mutual trust are formed over the course of many years. It's like body building or learning a new language. You always can make quick "friends", but those won't be there for the rest of your life or would help you in the most critical situations.

The thing is, those clubs give you a common framework you and the other members adhere for years. Every Tuesday evening you are going to play soccer with the same guys from 8 - 10pm. So, you already have a common ground and you will meet these people regularly on an activity that's fun. From here you can invite them for other things and build trust over the months and years.

Yes, there are a lot of other countries where it's easier to meet people. But let's be honest, what are you doing all the time with them? Meeting in bars and talk shit? Doing tourist stuff? Language exchange? My verdict: gay. Most probably those kind of contacts will be fun to be around for a while, but nothing with lasting effect.

There are several threads in the life subforum about people not having friends such as "I have no friends in daily life". This seems to be a non issue as almost any German is integrated in some sort of club (s), which provides them with long-lasting and stable social contacts. There must be a reason why "go find a MMA / rugby club" is the most common advice in those kind of threads.

Post: #28

Don't know about the top tier countries being friendly, but I can definitely vouch for the countries which are in the last. kuwait and Saudi Arabis are probably the shittiest countries to make friends. I stay in Kuwait, and here it's basically 'I scratch your back and you scratch mine' mentality. Also a lot of groups and herds of the same kind flock like pair of geese. Also, if you are non-muslim you really can't be true friends with a mullah cause it's haram.

Post: #29

In Ukraine there is a mish mash of expats, most of the guys who live here permanently came because of pussy, either they met a Ukrainian woman online, or they just came here for a bang mission which turned perpetual. There are also many other guys who come here on and off as they are not able to sustain themselves outside their own country all year, or can't handle spending too much time in the country.

You end up hanging around with oddballs of all ages, the types you wouldn't consider hanging around with in your own countries, but you have some common ground because you love Ukrainian pussies

I need to rotate my foreigner friends here because they are such a mixed bag, one guy is coffee in the morning only, another guy only around in the afternoons, another one only goes to pubs and never to clubs, another only to clubs and never to bars, i'm one of the few that is up for anything

With regard to the local guys, Ukraine is a low trust society, they only have time for their close friends and family. Sometimes in a bar/club a guy from a group will talk to you because he's drunk and wants to show off to the girls in his group, "hey look at me, i'm cool with the foreigners speaking English" but the interaction usually ends after a couple of minutes

Also there is the financial issues, a foreigner can go out and blow 100 Euros in a night without thinking too much, whereas he makes that in a week. Even sitting down and having a coffee and a slice of cake requires consideration for them, whereas we are laughing at how cheap it is

Post: #30

(05-23-2018 11:32 AM)semibaron Wrote:  snip

Will have to speak with my compadre about the "Vereinskultur". He is living in a bigger city full of inmigrants.