Post: #26

"Hey man, are you having a good time?"

I hate when people ask me this when out. Yes, I am having a good time, I just don't feel the need to chat up everyone in sight with a big, goofy grin on my face.

I don't often do nightlife, but when I do I must find something to stimulate me, be it music or approaching girls, to get away from the idle bar chit-chat. I just can't do that shit.

To answer your question of can you "just enjoy the night out?" If it's just normal bar banter, probably not. If it's in a new city with good friends and a great environment then definitely. It seems the beer drinking ritual is designed for extroverts to meet their necessary amount of social energy--they socialize like clock work. For me, and other introverts it really depends on energy levels, horniness, time and other factors.

Post: #27

As an introvert I feel as though I have an advantage. I may not be the life of the party but I am able to naturally connect deeply with people. This helps with women, in business and all avenues of life. My nature and game will never appeal to drunk club skanks but they will never appeal to me, I do better with traditionally raised good girls and that is what I want. @OP, be your own man, don't let society or your friends pressure you into being something that you aren't or make you think that you are less then because your pastime isn't getting drunk in loud rooms on the weekends. Find some some social activities that are more congruent with your true nature and stop forcing yourself to "get it". Instead put yourself in more social situations where people will appreciate and get you.

Post: #28

(08-11-2016 06:27 PM)HectorLavoe Wrote:  As an introvert I feel as though I have an advantage. I may not be the life of the party but I am able to naturally connect deeply with people. This helps with women, in business and all avenues of life.

Lemme just highlight the important part.

WIA

Post: #29

The first thing I'd ask even though you say you're strongly introverted is do you actually enjoy your own company? Are you comfortable in your own skin? If you do enjoy your own company and are content then you can genuinely enjoy a night out because regardless of what happens you'll have a good time. This as you can expect will help immensely with getting girls and overall allowing you to enjoy the night.

Now if you don't enjoy your own company then you probably do have some stuff to work on because you're introverted so you spend a lot of time a lone and you can see how that might be bit of a problem. I am introverted and I have a ball when I'm going out at night. I however don't go "hunting" but I can spot a good opportunity when I see one when they come and when they don't it's no big deal. Make the goal not to enjoy the night but to enjoy yourself during the night as night carries on.

Post: #30

(08-11-2016 11:17 PM)Jackreacher Wrote:  The first thing I'd ask even though you say you're strongly introverted is do you actually enjoy your own company? Are you comfortable in your own skin? If you do enjoy your own company and are content then you can genuinely enjoy a night out because regardless of what happens you'll have a good time. This as you can expect will help immensely with getting girls and overall allowing you to enjoy the night.

I enjoy my company somewhat but I'd much rather do fun things by myself in my house for free than pay for transport, pay for drinks, sleep late etc in a bar by myself.

Thanks for the responses, the rest of you. I figure that the nightlife scene is just not my cup of tea.

Post: #31

I am going to say this loudly, but only once.

Shhhh, listen up.

One word......

Post: #32

(08-11-2016 02:15 AM)Cattle Rustler Wrote:  ....until a cop shined it's light at me as he saw me walking out of the lounge (330am) and I managed to outrun them. Why I ran? I dunno, for the lulz I guess. Found a cozy dark street to sleep inside my car and took a nap until my buzz went down.

What was wrong with the cop and why did you run? You were walking, not driving. Do they arrest people in Texas for walking out of a bar after having a few drinks? If they do, that's really fucked up.

Also, you said the worst thing would have been if you drank at home alone, but if the cops are such assholes, that's not the worst thing that could have happened. The cop could have caught you and arrest you on some bullshit wtf charge (drunk walking?).

Post: #33

As it was said before, being an introvert I too agree that:
Yes, alcohol helps, but only as much as will leave you in control of yourself.
Yes, you need to go with a different people, perhaps a mix of extroverts and/or ambiverts who will give you jolts of "let's do it" energy. Yes, I know that it sounds terrible "on paper", but that totally worked for me quite a few times.

However, I still suggest that you pick the venue ahead of time and, if possible, research the "program" for the night to be sure there won't be something out of your "I can handle this" zone.

BUT, with all that being said, if you completely dread nightlife to the point where you get depressed in first half hour being out, there are plenty daytime events you can ease yourself into while meeting people and women. Such as Meetup website groups. Some are quite fun!

Post: #34

Disregarding extroversion and introversion, I now find daylight activities to be more fulfilling in meaning and production. Your IQ literally takes a temporary drop when you drink. There's a limit of discussion worth being had under such a state. Add to that the theoretical legal limitations of being intoxicated that's inescapable across the globe. No 1st world country grants people the same amount of rights while intoxicated as when sober. Your range of activities has a ceiling too.

Daytime life provides more opportunity for variety and ability. You can participate in many hobbyist sports, more public attractions and niche interests during the day. Unattractive women that only have a chance with pounds of makeup in low light environments are generally less numerous in day time public events versus night ones.

I for one enjoy the simple park outing or the coffee shop better than night outings of any stripe these days. When I have excess time again, I'll be joining some recreational motorcycle riders for day time cruising and exploits. Something interesting always happens when riding, usually to a greater degree than night clubbing.

Post: #35

Being introverted has nothing to do with it. I'm introverted and LOVE night game, even when I don't pull. If you're a good looking guy who constantly gets attention from bitches, it's impossible not to enjoy bars and clubs. Walk into the venue like a rock star, act like you own the place, and reap the rewards. If you're on the lower side of average or ugly, then I can see why you wouldn't like such venues. You just need to find something else that takes your fancy. A niche and some friends with other interests would be a good start.

Post: #36

Yeah, I agree that night game is mostly about getting drunk, listening to music, and talking to girls (if the place isn't dead). It takes some practice getting comfortable with the situation and also maturing with age. If you had a job as a bartender or waiter, then you may be more experienced with that type of atmosphere. But if the purpose is the pick up girls, some bars may be dead or may not have any hot girls. If you think day game is better, easier, and more successful then pursue that and get bangs or a steady girlfriend. No one is telling you that you have to be a partyier every weekend if you want to do other things, but its the most common way young people meet girls. For older men, there are classier bars and restaurants to hang out in and meet women. Hotel bars are interesting places. For clubs, it helps if you like dance or techno music and are somewhat familiar with dancing. It takes practice and effort to be good at night game.

Post: #37

Many times in my 20's I enjoyed the night after the 3rd beer, smoking another Marlboro red, drifting off in the music and chatter, and waiting for an approachable moment or girl. Then you lose focus...

There is an enjoyment stage and a work stage. Limited timeframe for each. Good to know the peaks and valleys and then choose a girl worth approaching and situate yourself nearby, before you drink more and your momentum is scattered.

Post: #38

OP, why do you care what other people want you to enjoy?
Do whatever you enjoy doing, don't force yourself to be at places you don't want to be, you'll just waste energy.

Post: #39

You can just sit by the bar watching a game of soccer. If you are good looking some chick will try to pick you up.