Post: #126

I think how a girl flakes matters. I have had situations were a girl has cancelled but they gave me as much advanced notice as possible and had a seemingly genuine sounding excuse (it could be true or it might be bullshit but the effort they put into the lie matters) and actually genuinely apologized and seemed remorseful and quickly and readily agreed to another time and date to meet.

Compare that to the "I don't give a fuck" flake where you can just tell that a girl just has contempt for you. If its the first case I say reschedule and give the girl a second chance (while as always having a plan B and being ready for her to flake again) whereas if its the second case I then just ignore her and delete her number. Arguing with her or telling her she is a cunt, etc is a waste of mental energy. Besides don't give her the satisfaction of letting her know you are angry. By ignoring her it hurts her feelings because it signals that you don't give a fuck about her and she ain't worth chasing or raging over. Also, deep down she probably already knows she is a worthless narcissistic cunt.

Also another important point to mention is that even if you do not have enough girls in your pipeline to double book a date still have a plan b and never schedule a date at a place where there is nothing to do. For example if its good weather schedule the date at the beach and if the girl doesn't come go for a walk along the beach and go for a swim or game some girls at the beach. Or for example speak to your friend the day before and say "I am supposed to meet this girl at 11:00 a.m. tomorrow but if she flakes on me I will give you a call and we can play some tennis?"

Never schedule a date that interferes with other important things in your life and always have a plan B.

I have called girls out for flaking in the past it never achieved anything. Especially in Western countries where women have zero sense of guilt or shame or empathy and their narcissistic hamsters are running on overdrive.

Not replying to their texts and deleting their number when they flake is the biggest insult you can give them. A second option is if you think the girl is likely to actually turn up if you reschedule the date, then reschedule the date (without calling out her behavior) and flake on her last minute or better yet pull a no show on her and ignore her texts. That will give her a taste of her own medicine.

Post: #127

It's almost certain every girl without severe deformities has more options than she knows what to do with.

In some cases she picks the "best" of the options, in many other case she picks the most convenient.

How does this relate to cold approach?

1. You have a limited amount of time to make an impression on her. Unless you are Justin Bieber, being very good looking and having a great vibe and great verbal "game" will have a surprisingly modest impact on her decision to choose you for dates later on. Even if you are the "best", there is a big chance she won't know it, less so "feel" it at the time of deciding whether to turn up to a date with you or not.

2. There are always some guys in her social circle who want to bang her. She is slightly apprehensive of meeting a relative stranger (you) and is not as certain of that stranger's value either, while she has known guys in her social circle for months or years. She decides to go out with the guy in her social circle instead.


Given the above, it is not always a single-faceted decision as to whether she flakes or not. Having "high SMV" or having "great game" is only one of the many factors to be considered. Even if you took out the guys in her social circle, and she had no other option on the day and time of your planned date, she may flake for a variety of reasons. There was a good list on GLL's website about "the numbers game". The final reason I would add is "women are crazy". Sometimes they flake for the most trivial reasons or for seemingly no apparent reason, reasons which they cannot even articulate themselves. Their brains are all over the place.

Would I like to see ALL men and ALL society in general (i.e. other girls) shame women for flaking? Hell yes but that is never going to happen. As above all forum members here could collude to do that very thing and it would be a mere drop in the ocean.

Cold approach is part skill and part numbers game. Part things you can control and part things you cannot control. If you enter cold approach, especially where there are more time bridges to be crossed i.e. "dates" to be setup, then you are exposing yourself to more external factors impacting your desired result. No matter how good your "game" is, under cold approach in the dictionary should be listed "flaking" and "randomness".

That being said I sometimes find it therapeutic to go nuclear on a bitch by text. I see it as my small contribution to the futile global goal of reducing flaking. But for the most part I don't even do that anymore. I tell myself if I want less flaking go join a community college or something and get into a social circle with a good amount of hot girls in. No, I say, I cold approach. Well then, prepare for the randomness, no matter how good you are.