Post: #1

Why?

Long story short, I've always been a drinker and a partier, and this has worked pretty well for me throughout most of my life.

However, over the last few years since hitting my mid 20's something has definitely changed. Hangovers are lasting days and I've come to the realization that there is really no way I can continue to drink the way I have in the past and still accomplish all my goals fitness, career, and money wise.

Alcohol has definitely got to go, and I've already started making moves to eliminate it from my life. In the last month or so I've only been out drinking once, and this is about the frequency I'm looking to keep it at. Maybe even less as time goes on.

Unfortunately, during this time period I have also had a second realization. With the alcohol gone, my game has completely fallen apart. I'm basically at ground zero. Thinking back, literally every one of my bangs in the past has been alcohol related, and now I'm kind of at a loss as to where to begin.

Day 1

Tonight I rolled out solo and walked a mile to a bar I thought would be promising, but after a quick lap through the place I realized it was pretty much a giant sausage fest with only a few girls scattered around in mixed groups and left.

Normally in a situation like this I would post up at the bar, order a drink or two and just sit and wait for an opportunity. I feel like this is how I have always done things, just started getting drunk, chilled, and eventually an opportunity would come my way. No real game or strategy just get wasted and sometimes the cards would fall in place. I would stumble into the right girl, and spit the right drunk game randomly at the right time and then bounce them back to my place to drink more.

However, tonight I definitely felt a little bit like a fish out of water. All the seats at the bar were full where I was hoping I could just sit and grab a soda or something. I couldn't see any easy sets to open and was literally in and out.

Going to try again tomorrow night hopefully, and this time bring my car out with me instead of walking (never an option in the past). This will allow me to get around to different venues a lot easier and give me a lot more options in case I'm not feeling it in the first bar.

Also looking to start doing some day approaches, as well as online game, etc. Basically going to attack this from all angles, and see if I can't relearn how to game without alcohol.

I'll be documenting everything here to get some feedback as I try new things, and keep myself accountable. At the very least it should be an interesting journey.

Rereading Bang and Day Bang now.

Post: #2

My advice, start picking up some new hobbies and finding new ways to meet women aside from bars. You're never going to enjoy going out bar-hopping quite the same way again, so you might as well meet women doing something you enjoy and that makes you better. Take a few salsa classes, sign up for a cooking class, get involved in the community, or join a casual sport league.

Those first few steps are the hardest.

Good luck.

Post: #3

I want to start transitioning in this direction myself and this time of year is the best for it I think. Will get back to the states from Mexico in a few days. Been boozing a lot down here and it has started to get to me and affect my mood. Some guys can pull it off; take care of the shit they want to and while living that lifestyle. Unfortunately I'm not one of them. It isn't compatible with the shit I want to accomplish. I really can't help myself when it comes to smoking when I'm boozing, either. Especially if I'm solo. The potential long term effects of both linger in the back of my mind. I want to look 35 when I'm 45.

I have gone out solo a lot and gone out a handful of nights with the intention of not drinking, and I usually end up getting drunk anyways or just going home because my mood gets killed fast. I experience the same exact thing you described. I don't know what to do with myself when I get to a bar and I don't have anyone to talk to. Posting up at the bar and starting to booze to ease into the night has been my move for a while when going out solo. Just going where the night takes me, as you said.

I am going to look into the salsa dancing option and also meetups.com. Good luck with your project.

Post: #4

I don't roll completely sober when I go out on the weekends, but I limit myself to three drinks over five hours, maximum.

By the end of the evening I'm sober and can drive home to the suburbs safely. It keeps me honest.

Many of the bars around here also have live music - that gives you a reason to be there. You're not just standing around looking for women (well I mean you are) but you're there to check out the performance. So you're not just...standing around.