Post: #51

For me, the moment she asks for a favor and doesn't lay out exactly what it is, the answer is NO. When you say yes to requests like this you leave yourself open to "mission creep", you agree to an open ended contract that's always changing, always escalating. In a woman's mind when you say yes to one thing, you're saying yes to everything.

To the OP, I don't know what you do for a living, but I don't think you're a moving man for hire. This isn't your girlfriend, your wife, so her asking you to take a couch, put it in your truck and take it somewhere, is her telling you she doesn't value your time and that she doesn't respect you. The evidence is not only in the initial asking but also in the subsequent reaction.

As to chicks asking for you to pick them up from the airport...No way, take a cab sweetheart. Waiting around, traffic, seriously, who agrees to that? If I offer that's another thing.

OP, trust your instincts, the asking for money part was bad form, but your initial resistance IMHO, was your instincts speaking to you.

Post: #52

I don't mind helping them out if it's something small. If they throw something like dog sitting or moving them to a new place I'm going to pass.

Post: #53

An hour of ass licking?! Holy fuck

Post: #54

(01-28-2016 03:59 PM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:  

(01-28-2016 03:31 PM)RatInTheWoods Wrote:  Would it kill you to help a chick out who lets you play with her sweet young body?

Agreeing to moving furniture is how you become a boyfriend, aka reliable source of labor, money, and entertainment.

These helpful behaviors define squares. Continually bailing out chicks of drama they create for themselves. She got it done anyway, so that means she has other minions. But she wanted HIM to do it..She wanted to exercise power over him.

Rare is the man who says no to an UNREASONABLE request.

Now in this particular case OG is realizing that he has feelings after only a few bangs. His animal instinct kept him whole for a second, but the social programming us kicking in.

But the overall question about doing manual labor/favors for a girl that you're just banging is one where a player says hell no.

Especially when the man has never asked for her to do anything. Now if she has done you a solid, like your friends do, then you return in kind.

But chicks are the first to ask you for something.
And when the relationship starts to get rocky, you think she's going to do a mental calculation over all the stuff you did for her?

Of course not.

Drinks, appetizer, condoms, hotel, red box, occasional dinners ...

But if she hasn't done nothing but spread her legs and ALLOWED you to make her climax....You do nothing for her.

WIA

+1

Post: #55

(01-29-2016 03:08 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  The last time a girl asked me for a favor, she ended up licking my ass for about an hour.

Aww...what a sweetie.

Beyond All Seas

"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.
To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you'll be lonely often, and sometimes
frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Kipling

Post: #56

Looking back I made the right move on this one, my gut instinct was telling me not to do it for some reason, that's why somewhere mid-conversation I implied to her that I really didn't want to do it, it's like my brain was hitting the eject button because I felt like something wasn't right.

Basically I think things were going to have gone in one of two ways, she was feeling me out for boyfriend status, which I wasn't into, I liked her, but not enough to be a couple in a real relationship, or conversely we were hitting the end of our streak and she was fishing for me to do a favor for her before breaking things off.

Either way it would have been lose/lose, I wouldn't have wanted to be the "boyfriend" and I would have felt like a chump if she got me to go out of my way to do a favor for her, only for her to end things after that.

I think I felt bad because I did like her as a person, she was nice, cool, and easy going, so in a way I kind of feel like I acted like a dick and "let her down", and I also subconsciously knew that she was the only poonanie that I was getting, and I didn't want to lose my supply.

Who knows what would've happened, but for whatever reason my gut was telling me not to do it, and I kind of sensed that those were the possible outcomes.