Post: #1

How would you go about building an extensive social network when all you have is a few acquaintances. Assume you are in the metro area of a major city. 20's post-college. How would you go about building your circle. I want to have 10+ people hitting me up each friday night for my plans. Is that possible in 1 year time?

Post: #2

Join a beer league sports team.

Hockey
Basketball
Soccer
Volleyball
Softball (mixed), lots of single girls playing or at least hanging around.

Something like that, or maybe a country club type thing. It's pretty easy to get to know people through an activity like that because you have something in common, next thing you know you are all going out for something to eat/drinks.

Post: #3

Start yoga or volunteer at Greenpeace or the Red Cross, those non-profits are over 80% women.

Post: #4

Check out member DistantLight's writing. He breaks it down (though geared towards the nightlife lifestyle).

http://10lifestyle.com

Post: #5

Get a badass bicycle and join a cycling club.

Join a bouldering gym.

Learn how to box.

Get into a shooting club.

Find a rowing team.

Get into a poker league, a pool hall, maybe even a dart tournament.

Do yoga. Try out some frufru shit like pottery or cooking classes. Join a dance club.

Volunteer at a nonprofit that isn't full of former drug addicts.

If you want to get real creative you could form your own Barstar club at the local park and post videos all over the Internet of you doing flips and shit.

Post: #6

After a break up and moving to a city where I've no background, 2015 was a lone wolf year for me. Will be following this thread.

I'm planning to use Meet Up more.

Post: #7

Join a ballroom dancing class. If you hit it off with people, you'll have company for hitting the clubs and going to dance parties.

Post: #8

I'm finding this much harder as I've gotten older (I'm 39 now). I've always been an introvert but never had any problems socializing when I do find myself in company, and when I was younger friends and acquaintances pretty much came automatically from primarily school/university and sometimes sports.

Making new friends is a lot more difficult for me now (and when I do I find friendships are often more difficult to hang on to at this age) - I'm working from home so no work buddies, don't care for team sports (weighing my other sports options, aside from the gym, at the moment, but not yet speaking the local language beyond the basics can get in the way where class instructions are a part of it), and I rarely drink anymore so posting up in a bar on a regular basis is not something I'm interested in.
I've gone to a handful of Meetups the last few months, but most groups in this city are inactive or very small, and so far I haven't met anyone there I felt I had enough in common with to want to hang out with elsewhere.

Post: #9

Meet up with other forum members.

And use grammar.

Post: #10

^^^This.

Start a tribal meetup, seeing as you live in a major city. You'd be surprised (or maybe not) at the quality of guys who read and post on this forum.

Post: #11

Building a social circle in a year's time is very doable.

The thing is, you have to start by building yourself so that you match and can keep up with the lifestyle you dream of.

Identify your interests and find something that you can link up with people who you have something in common with, but also allows people to cycle in and out of said group. Sports are great, playing music is great if you're not just a garage band and you play shows, etc. You can get into something because you think it's cool, but liking it allows you to continue with it after the initial spark of curiosity.

In my mind, the fastest way is to get in on the party circuit. For this, you must develop social skills. You need a motormouth and you need to know when to use it. You're gonna need to build up social endurance. You're gonna need to get sharp in the head.

To do this, I recommend a go hard approach. Go out as much as possible. Every time you go out you WILL learn something as long as you're looking to learn. Write down some things you know about yourself and own it when you go out if you have to: I've found that a lot of my social issues come from uncertainty about how I SHOULD respond to a situation, instead of just being secure in whatever approach I want to take regardless of whether it's really the best option from an objective standpoint. It's better to just get an idea of who you are and go for what you want than to self-analysize to the point where you think a million different things about yourself and you look up and the weekend is over.

Dress well. Making self-care and hygeine your GOD for 3 weeks until it become ingrained in your brain.
Take care of your physique.
Figure out what's cool.
Sounds corny, but believe that you can become what you need to become.

I use reddit to find absurd things to stimulate my mind and sense of humor. Same thing with youtube. Someone's sense of humor and what they laugh at (or won't) will tell you a lot about their back story.

I also use youtube to watch videos of people with desirable personalities. I notice what's good about them and remember how they were acting for myself so I can replicate it and eventually make it my own.

Post: #12

On top of all the above, if a girl you approach gives you a genuine "I have a boyfriend" reply, ask to be genuine friends instead.

Hot girls tend to be friends with ... Hot girls.

Post: #13

(01-02-2016 05:07 AM)262 Wrote:  On top of all the above, if a girl you approach gives you a genuine "I have a boyfriend" reply, ask to be genuine friends instead.

Hot girls tend to be friends with ... Hot girls.

I have difficulty intentionally getting friendzoned by a girl. Usually friendzoned by girls I like

Post: #14

(12-31-2015 10:21 AM)h3ltrsk3ltr Wrote:  Meet up with other forum members.

And use grammar.

But seriously, I second this.

In addition, if you're going to be social, please make friends with the forum's search function. We have covered this extensively in other threads. Show us that you're trying rather than merely leaching.

Also check out some of the party threads by forum member Suits. He has been a huge influence on me getting active on the forum and building a social circle of local forum members who quickly are turning into good friends.