Post: #1

Hey guys. I was wondering if any seasoned players could shed some light on a question I've thought about for a while now. I have an fwb arrangement with a sweet girl. I'm by no means needy(wait for her to message me etc) but she often comments on how affectionate I am(touching, kissing caressing etc). It was this willingness to initiate contact that is a strength in escalation but I'm feeling that I might be showing weakness and hence fucking things up.

Any insights would be greatly appreciated.

Post: #2

Give us a bit more context. How long have you two been in this arrangement? How old is she? What kind of girl do you think she is other than sweet (like her notch count, etc.)? How often do you see each other?

Short answer: anytime you get hit with those "oh shit I'm fucking things up" doubts, overanalyzing small shit, you should get confident. Best way to do that is flirt with other girls a lot more. Because it's all mental. That mentality fucks things up—the mentality of worrying you're not doing this right or that right—more than a little too much touching.

But give us some more context.

Post: #3

If you're doing this because it's who you are, then don't stop, regardless of what people tell you.

I've never lost a bang because I showed too much affection, if anything, I've lost bangs because I didn't show enough. And besides, if a girl loses interest in you because you show her affection, you don't want to be or associate with this kind of girl anyway because she has nothing to offer you but a broken spirit that used to be feminine but eventually lost its way.

Post: #4

Without going into too much detail. She's 21 well educated but from my instincts is a serial maneater. She has "leaked" hints that he ex is still obsessed with her and I personally know two guys chasing her (have not said anything). I have a feeling she takes advantage of bitch boys for gifts etc and rides around in fancy cars. I don't care about these things. I have a relatively stoic approach to the situation but my question is moreso not a out the girl but interactions in general. We have had this arrangement for three months. She is the quintessential "innocent girl" that has presumably used her pussy to get her way. Despite her flaws she's hot and I enjoy fucking her.

Post: #5

Very valid point Linux. A girl who gets bored of an affectionate yet not needy guy probably has some issues I shouldnt even bother to explore...

Post: #6

I would say don't change anything. If you started being less affectionate since she said something for fear of overdoing it, she could pick up on it. With things like that it's best to leave it alone and do what you do and pretend she never said anything so you don't look too far into it.

The greatest players always seem to have this gift with maintaining relationships where they simply don't seem to process most of what girls say. They hit this sweet spot of complete attention and complete apathy where they are consistent in doing what they want and are not affected by words at all. They don't even seem to understand them. They only jump into action when they're being disrespected, otherwise words just don't sink in.

That's my observation. You see a guy, a real solid player, walk with his girl, and she says, "You look at girls' asses a lot." And he nods. Later she tells him, "You're a great kisser," and he nods. He changes nothing. It's that kind of attitude that I think would suit you best. Linux is right do what you do.

Post: #7

Thanks tex. That was really the affirmation I needed. If she walks out on it that's on her. As us Aussies say, "fair bump and play on"

Post: #8

Maybe it's just a way to ask for more rough sex.
Keep kissing her, but don't forget to pull her hair, choke her, slap her ass, ...

Post: #9

Yeah Mattius you're good. I was in something like your situation about two years ago. Young girl in her twenties with a maneater vibe using her looks to manipulate people. And I happened to lock that pussy up.

Change nothing and nothing changes. But if things do fall apart, know it was never because of anything you did. Girls like that just hate to do any thing the same for too long.