Post: #1

Ive met women at bars and on few occasions, they told me where they work ( retail stores) and said pass by and look for me.
Has anyone encountered this? girl just wanting attention and her social proof at work?

Post: #2

Girl wanting to increase her sales/commissions, pure and simple.

Post: #3

Most likely what he said. However, do take note of where they say they work. If it's Anything you need you can take a pass at using them to Get a good deal.

Post: #4

(11-10-2015 05:38 AM)pico Wrote:  Ive met women at bars and on few occasions, they told me where they work ( retail stores) and said pass by and look for me.
Has anyone encountered this? girl just wanting attention and her social proof at work?

Pass by and spend all your money. Don't forget to compliment on their blue hair, piercings and recent weight gain.

Oh wait wrong forum.

Anyway, I'll bring up another angle. Should he pass by (without buying anything) to see if it's legit or is it a shit test and he loses by passing by (letting her lead)?

Although I read the OP again and the interaction seems way off context. I wouldn't unless I was going to visit that store anyway. Still would like to hear other opinions on this.

Post: #5

What are you saying or doing to encounter this?

You are a busy person and should not have time to go to a mall to scope a girl. If you do go, make sure you have a few bags and make it seem like you were in the area.

A quick hello, get the phone number and move on.

Do not make it seem you went out of your way to go visit them.

Post: #6

(11-10-2015 02:08 PM)rudebwoy Wrote:  Do not make it seem you went out of your way to go visit them.

That did it.

Post: #7

If you've already met them in person and they suggest you stop by your work it smacks of them wanting validation from both you and their coworkers. You're firmly in the orbiter category.

On the other hand if it's someone you've only communicated with online it's a perfect way to do a SIF check, assess their overall vibe and get to talk to them for a few minutes without having to commit to an actual date. In this situation it's a very valuable tool to have in the arsenal and one that I've used more than once.

Post: #8

If a girl is not indicating that she wants to see you in a place where you can theoretically stick a finger inside her, then she is not serious. Ignore.

In fact, many times girls do and say things that are the equivalent of junk mail. They will just spam "offers," but they have no interest in buying. We can throw out all the junk mail flyers we receive without hesitation, but many have trouble doing this with women. The key to doing this naturally is to 1) be busy doing meaningful things, and 2) having multiple women, and preferably both.

Post: #9

This is actually a pretty important topic if it hasn't been covered in other threads. A variation of this is a girl who is a bartender or stripper telling you to come in for a drink. You and the other fifty guys who she told to come in will probably be wasting your time. I usually avoid those types completely.

Post: #10

If you can get the employee discount off of merchandise it may be worth your while if they sell something you're interested in.

Post: #11

Sure, let me take some valuable time out of my day to provide you with cheap entertainment and validation to pass the time.

How about you come to my office and we make out on my desk instead?

Post: #12

If she works in a retail store, she's likely to have attractive co-workers. If that's the case, ignore her and game her co-workers. I bet the look on her face would be priceless.

Post: #13

I've actually done this and its worked against me. Won't do it again. First the girl is on her turf, she feels like hot shit if you stop by. She might even try to show off to her coworkers about this guy who came to "say hi". Not a good look. Second, you'll seem desperate, there is no excuse as to why you stopped by, "you were in the area" doesn't really cut it. Maybe if its a bar but if you live in a city there's other bars with other girls. She'll know she has you. Third, she'll put you in the orbiter or in the regular customer zone which you don't ever want to be in if you're actually trying to fuck.

Post: #14

(11-11-2015 12:36 AM)xxMarco Wrote:  I've actually done this and its worked against me. Won't do it again. First the girl is on her turf, she feels like hot shit if you stop by. She might even try to show off to her coworkers about this guy who came to "say hi". Not a good look. Second, you'll seem desperate, there is no excuse as to why you stopped by, "you were in the area" doesn't really cut it. Maybe if its a bar but if you live in a city there's other bars with other girls. She'll know she has you. Third, she'll put you in the orbiter or in the regular customer zone which you don't ever want to be in if you're actually trying to fuck.

Stop by and ask her if the offer for sex from the other night is still good. Turn it around on these bitches. One time out of three you will get a date with the retail sloot. I have done this and it works. I am out a lot though so it's no big deal or out of my way to pop in. Minimal investment and the entertainment value is high for me.

Post: #15

(11-11-2015 12:36 AM)xxMarco Wrote:  I've actually done this and its worked against me. Won't do it again. First the girl is on her turf, she feels like hot shit if you stop by. She might even try to show off to her coworkers about this guy who came to "say hi". Not a good look. Second, you'll seem desperate, there is no excuse as to why you stopped by, "you were in the area" doesn't really cut it. Maybe if its a bar but if you live in a city there's other bars with other girls. She'll know she has you. Third, she'll put you in the orbiter or in the regular customer zone which you don't ever want to be in if you're actually trying to fuck.

This is the correct answer. I've had girls who have worked in retail and they are dying for you to come and see them to relieve some of the boredom, and to show off how popular they are to their co-workers.

We need a bit more context before knowing their true motivations though OP. Did they give you a solid phone number or kiss you before saying this, or was it a way of blowing you off and not having to give you their contact information?