Post: #1

Didn't see any thread on this already.

Sure, it can be easy to teach a girl new positions, or try new things sexually.

But for some reason I have a harder time teaching her to be more seductive in the bedroom before sex. For example I've banged a few strippers in my life, and also women with alot of experience, and some women just seem to be able to move and tease much better in the bedroom than others. This has been an issue because sometimes I can hook up with hotter women who are open to any positions I introduce them too, and are open to new things, but just dont have that "it" factor, and aren't as seductive during foreplay.

Telling women to try being more seductive or to try to tease me with their body during foreplay just doesnt seem to work that well, it usually comes off as awkward when they try it, or they just don't get what I mean.

How do you guys do this? Take them to strip clubs and have them watch the strippers? Have them watch porn with you? What works best?

I hope I explained this well.

Post: #2

(10-11-2015 03:17 PM)Repo Wrote:  Telling women to try being more seductive or to try to tease me with their body during foreplay just doesnt seem to work that well, it usually comes off as awkward when they try it, or they just don't get what I mean.

You can't tell but you can teach by changing the behaviour and the approach.




Like Kaotic said in the Bondage/domination thread

(07-31-2015 06:11 PM)kaotic Wrote:  Red,

You need the gameset and the mind first THEN the tools.
Fuck her mind, sub her, use the tools of the trade on her.
Don't have tools, improvise.
You're right it's about the deepest impression you leave, fucking in new places is great.

One of my old plates, I banged out in a Denny's style diner, I didn't make her cum, and all she could do is say "I don't want to eat, lets fuck again"
I used deep sexting before a girl comes over, literally came over fucked her, cummed on her face, and sent her on her way, WITHOUT HER SAYING A WORD.
Finding out their sexual fantasies is a double edge sword so tread carefully, but always be the dominant player in bed.

RoK have a great article about changing the approach: The Dominance experiment and it worked like a spell.

Post: #3

This is a tough one.

I think its just a personality and culture thing. Some women have that swag and some don't. The one's who don't can perhaps learn some swag but it will largely have to be on their own accord and will require substantial self-effort to make it work. I find most American chicks don't have it naturally and are not capable of learning it. A fuckin shame. Once you've met a girl who knows how to be seductive, banging non-seductive chicks doesn't even seem worth the time.

I recall one girl where her and I played a seduction game for about 7-8 hours from late afternoon until like midnight; constantly trying to make the other person go nuts sexually and cave. We would whisper dirty stuff to each other in public, she would rub my cock under the dinner table with her friend right next to me, I'd bend her over in the next room with a guest over and rub her clit, extended foreplay with clothes off but with no fuckin and let me tell you: when my cock finally "slipped" in ("cause she moved forward"), it was some really hot stuff. She squirted a goddamn puddles worth of fluid immediately.

Once you have had a day like that, it's game over for non-seductive women.

Post: #4

One solution to this is to bang actual strippers and camwhores (as in befriend/pull them, not pay for one). I did once. When it comes to showing you their credentials they're quite happy to oblige. They might not be that great in bed though, especially if they're an 8. Kind of the hot piece of driftwood syndrome.

Post: #5

Thanks, I think the Black Knight has a good idea of what I'm trying to say.

Blck, its not that I don't have control of these women or that they aren't trying to please me, its just that they simply aren't as good at it. They seem to want to learn, but it jusr doesnt come off as natural as some strippers and other skanks I've banged before.

Mainly my goal with this is I don't like risking myself with diseases with sketchy girls, but with more upper class girls who are usually better looking they just don't seem to have the same moves. Always exceptions of course, but as a generalization the rule seems to hold up.

Post: #6

This is a side effect of the hot girl syndrome. Because she's hot, she never really had to try hard at anything, including seducing a man.
This applies, mostly, to 8's and up that are not strippers, have not seen much or watch any porn, and girls that may or may not be slurry but have less or no experience pleasing a man.
To them, the men literally do all the work and they are content to just lay there taking it, hoping for an organism. They know the mechanics of doggystyle, cowgirl, and reverse cowgirl but they don't really know how to "work it" to make the sex better. Instead, relying on the man's skill (and/or size debatable ) to be pleased herself.

The best way to teach her is to set up a there some with a gurl that you KNOW, knows how to fuck. Her leaderslut-skills will kick in when you say," slut, teach new girl how to work it in doggy style."
Unfortunately, this is a difficult thing to manage, let alone achieve and set uo the situation in the first place.

It's funny because we want a girl to know how to suck our dick, and be good at it, without having to teach her how to do it. Which would be awkward and uncomfortable (atleast for me.)

My best advice for you is to find resources you can both learn from. Watch some porn together, let her pick one out and then you pick one and you pick one. Make a game out ofb it to see if you both can replicate exactly what your seeing in each video. Also, don't be afraid to buy her any sexual edu xation reading material. There are many kama sutra books (great for positions) and quite a few that go in to detail how the motions for the man and woman should be executed.

It's a gift to her and for you.
If she's akward, wierd, or just plain uncomfortable in talking about it, reading, watching or learning about this then tell her and assureBehr how satisfying and orgasmic your sex lives will be when you can work together to acheive climax.

I must say, pwrsonally, that the best sex i ever had was with a girl that knew how to work her body and pussy in unison and coordination with my hips and cock.
Not to mention, achieving orgasms together and at the same time is an extremely effective, physical, mengal and emotional sensation... atleast emotional for her. Really.
It's sex that neither ofyou will forget.

Good luck

Post: #7

As a man it's your job to train your girl to please you in the way you want. In the way she dresses, looks, behaves and acts. But, you can't expect her to know these things if she hasn't been taught.

Girls generally are much better than men at following orders and instructions. This is why they do better at school than boys. This also explains why younger girls are attracted to older confident men. They crave guidance in most things from a strong leader.

Be a stern (but patient) teacher. Make her pratice over and over again until she gets it right. Use punishment and reward. Praise her when she does a good job. Go cold, ignore and don't touch her at all when she is lazy and not making any effort.

A woman really into you will want to work and improve herself to please her man.

Post: #8

(10-17-2015 02:08 PM)Mercenary Wrote:  As a man it's your job to train your girl to please you in the way you want. In the way she dresses, looks, behaves and acts. But, you can't expect her to know these things if she hasn't been taught.

Girls generally are much better than men at following orders and instructions. This is why they do better at school than boys. This also explains why younger girls are attracted to older confident men. They crave guidance in most things from a strong leader.

Be a stern (but patient) teacher. Make her pratice over and over again until she gets it right. Use punishment and reward. Praise her when she does a good job. Go cold, ignore and don't touch her at all when she is lazy and not making any effort.

A woman really into you will want to work and improve herself to please her man.

Exactly, just tell them exactly and explicitly what you want them to do.

99 times out of a hundred they'll do it.