Sooth
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RE: Are you a father, or do you want to be?
As far back as I can remember a family has been on the cards for me.
"Motherly" traits in women have always been far more attractive to me than the highly sexualised physical appearance of the "progressive" west. I'm attracted to women based on the future. I think they look best in a dress with minimal make up. I don't rationally think about her being a mother, that's just where my subconscious steers.
I hate lots of makeup, huge tits, crass attitudes, piercings, tattoos etc. I would rather slam my dick in a car door.
At the moment I want kids but I'd also be happy going alone providing it was for a cause worth fighting for.
Any man can have a kid, but not every man can be a father. The fatherhood our grandparents knew disappeared decades ago. Sure, there are great fathers today, but by and large fatherhood has become obsolete and the majority of men become less capable of it.
Successfully raising a large well rounded family who go on to achieve great things is the biggest FUCK YOU to this increasingly degenerate society.
The west is being taught to hate children. We are murdering them before they're even out the starting gate.
On the contrary Muslims have the highest fertility rate with a population growing twice as fast as the west.
The children being born now will be in control of the world in a few short years.
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The Black Knight
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RE: Are you a father, or do you want to be?
For the past year, the whole idea of having a family has been floating around in my mind far more often than in the past. At the same time, my desire to bang random sluts who don't have any value beyond being a wet hole and a fun night has tanked considerably. If a woman doesn't even have some basic LTR potential at this point in my life (even if only for a mini-relationship), I almost rather not bother.
However, I think trying to raise a kid/have a family in the US is simply not worth the effort and risk involved. There are enormous cultural and legal pressures constantly working against us and I don't see any clear indications of it improving substantially anytime in the near future.
Legal: I am not comfortable working a lifetime to build wealth just so some girl who gets bored after a few years can cash out and live off my alimony/child support payments for years. The current US legal system incentives people to divorce for financial gain; it is anti-family to its core. If you're the high earner of the two, the other person can blow up the family anytime and collect the cash and prizes. You can choose to not get married but are still open to child support payment rape. Even Halle Berry is paying like 15K/month to her ex with the kid. That’s insane. Perhaps if reasonable caps existed, that would change the game somewhat but when has a politician come out in recent history and proposed to reduce/cap child support payments? I'm not even going to explain the abuse of false DV/rape/child molestations charges to manipulate divorce proceedings; which the mere charge often is a career ender in many fields.
Cultural: how often do people in the anglosphere/USA honest to god meet a potential "mother of my children" candidate? I'm just talking basic attributes excluding chemistry: Non-feminist, good family/moral values, intelligent (not masters degree "intelligent" if you know what I mean), submissive, strong sense of loyalty, no short hair/tats, not a raging slut/former slut, takes care of her body/health, and is comfortablely ready to settle down before 26? I have met maybe a handful and that's with an asterisk or two in every case. I don't think women like this exist anymore in the USA except maybe within the Mormon community and in rare random isolated cases. The USA is great for about to hit the wall/post-wall mid-30s entitled feminist careerists if that’s your thing though. For the potential family man in me and what I look for at a BASIC level, it’s a wasteland.
That all said, my game plan knowing all the aforementioned is to simply bide my time, have some non exclusive mini-relationships, build up my resources, learn Spanish, and set myself up to have the option to exit the USA/anglosphere if I want to go down the family route in about 5-10 years. I have noticed over the years from reading the forum and in real life that many guys get the same urge Roosh is feeling around their mid-late 30s and I’m planning best I can in case I feel the same way when I get to that point as well. I might never have kids but I want to be properly prepared (as best I can be, at least) if I decide to go down that road.
And to be frank, if the legal system was amended so that the financial risk was mitigated, I would consider doing the family deal here in the USA; perhaps even much sooner than within 5-10 years. I can deal with cultural bullshit and filtering out shit women. However, losing half my shit after decades of hard work due to a corrupt and ridiculous legal system is nightmare inducing and is simply not an acceptable risk. Ever.
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Phoenix
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RE: Are you a father, or do you want to be?
(10-02-2015 11:46 AM)Courage Reborn Wrote: I'm finding the under 22 crowd too focused on university & career to consider being mothers yet.
After university, they're experienced carousel riders...
So don't go for the ones who go to uni.
University to women is like a 'car wash' that promises to improve the appearance of your car, but it comes out all covered in shit, scratched up, and broken, and it doesn't want to drive anymore like it's supposed to, and instead wants to do something useless like recite poetry or make political complaints on facebook. That fathers still pay to send their daughters to such a place is well beyond me.
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Kaizen
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RE: Are you a father, or do you want to be?
(10-01-2015 07:59 PM)Travesty Wrote: I made a thread about lying to your LTR in the beginning about your age to get a younger chick etc...
The conclusion was yeah go ahead and lie if she likes you enough she won't care if she finds out later just laugh it off.
Well if you are looking to have the mother of your children, what is your guys' take? Do you want to risk doing that when meeting what could be a gem?
Do you want to accept a girl that is okay with a guy lying to them about something like that?
Go ahead and lie. I met the first quality broad in a very long time a few months ago, ukraninan chick. I always lie to young girls i just want to bang. This girl seemed a notch above, so I was honest (16 year gap).
Great date, great connection, ended with french kissing.
Couldn't get her out again.
Could be a number of reasons. But I'm sure she had a chance to dwell on the age gap plus talking with friends.
So moving forward, Ill always lie. If I have to come clean later and the girl is in love, it won't mean anything. And the fact she overlooks that won't mean anything either.
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Stack Thornehawk
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RE: Are you a father, or do you want to be?
Have to agree on the university slags, they don't know what the fuck they're doing in their lives. Met a bunch out tonight and its psyche this special ed that HR this admin that hospitality this mangament that. Gah! They are great for hooking up, but we all should be taking corrective measures to stop this slutty culture from devolving into a bunch of stinking apes that just fuck and shit and eat and sleep... oh wait too late lol.
The college cooz don't have one iota of what it takes to be a mother, unless they are already married and are going in to support their family and not their idealistic crusade of you-go-girlism, but those are a rarity in human statistics.
Either way, western children must be bred, and the hordes of orcs must be held back, I remember reading on one article of ROK that "it's not muslim guns to be afraid of, it's muslim genitals" they are outbreeding our stock at an ever increasing ratio. This desire to be a father that I find in myself, just like most of you do, is also biologically explained because whether we sense it or not, nature does sense that our kind is on its way out and is being exterminated gradually, so self-preserving mechanisms set in: breed or die.
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RE: Are you a father, or do you want to be?
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Onto
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RE: Are you a father, or do you want to be?
(10-04-2015 06:19 AM)Fury Wrote: Found this article on CNN. A commercial that actually aired in Denmark to urge people to purchase sex vacations to combat the low birth rates. Hahaha.
http://edition.cnn.com/2015/10/01/travel...index.html
That's a funny commercial promoting out-of-wedlock children, but somehow they left out the after-part where the guy then gets most of his disposable income taken from him in child support and can only see his child every other weekend, and has no say in the raising.
Maybe that doesn't happen in Denmark?
I've raised a child here in the U.S. under some of the toughest circumstances, in that from day one it was a fight with a woman who, for all her life, had an ax to grind with the Father. It drained me emotionally and of course financially.
That said, those every other weekends raising my son were certainly the best moments of my life. I tear up thinking about them.
At 44 yrs old, and with only a few years left of significant child support to pay, I too am thinking about finding a wife and having a real family.
My current plan is to stack up enough cash so when I'm just about to reach 50 I am financially secure enough to travel the world, find her, and settle down in a country that makes sense to do so.
When looking for wife/mother material, it's really best to have open conversations about how you would raise your children and what the roles of the man and woman should be.
Even better to first have these conversations indirectly, by using other couples or characters in a movie you're watching as a backdrop. This way her guard won't be up as much and her responses would more reveal her unconscious attitudes.
(This post was last modified: 10-04-2015 08:18 AM by Onto.)
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Vicious
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RE: Are you a father, or do you want to be?
I'll be a father in just a few months. Closer to 40 than 30, now's the time. I'll still travel but at the home field it's time to assume another role.
Slubu had a real good and thorough post on the topic above. Interestingly enough he was one of the first guys on the forum I had this discussion with when we hung out in person in NYC.
(This post was last modified: 10-04-2015 02:43 PM by Vicious.)
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