Post: #1

I have a lot of free time at the moment and so I decided to get serious with game. I am going to do the 100-approach program this month (Currently, I am at around 50).

Background:

I am 23 and I graduated college last June. I moved back to my parent’s place in Los Angeles.

Appearance:

I am not handsome, yet I do not think I am ugly either. I probably say that I am a 5 or a low 6. I also know that I haven’t maximized my looks yet. I am tall and lanky, and I haven’t been hitting hard the gym due to the fact that I have a hip impingement (FAI) on my right hip. This condition has been really annoying since I can’t really go hard on the squats or deadlifts. Last summer, I had a surgery to treat the condition and so far it is improving. Nonetheless, progress is slow and my doctor said that my hip might not ever fully recuperate.

Unlike my body, I have much more control over my style and wardrobe. I have made some recent improvements on my wardrobe by buying new a pair of new shoes, namely a pair or dark brown chukka boots. Nonetheless, my wardrobe still needs improvement, i.e. new pants and better shirts. However, I think that in few months my style will be a lot better.

A few final notes on my appearance: I started to drink juice (thanks Mike from D&P) and have started to seen some improvement on my face. Some of the acne is disappearing and my facial tone is improving. Furthermore, I am also doing his alpha posture exercises which have helped my overall appearance and confidence.

Game, Personality, and Social Skills,

In college, I took the Myers-Briggs Test with a counselor. I scored between an INTJ and ISTJ. Overall, I agree with the test and it explains why I have always been the oddball in middle and high school. I have always struggle to communicate properly with people given that I am usually direct and blunt in my interactions.

As for my social skills, I think they are a lot better than a few years ago. However, I still have trouble with some of the basics. For example, I still struggle with eye contact. Half of the time, I remember to make eye contact and maintain it. The other half I completely forget about it.

I have practiced game before. However, I was never consistent with it. I am getting better at approaching and quelling my approach anxiety. Nonetheless, I still have difficulty on what to do after I approach a girl. Furthermore, I have always had trouble in successfully showing sexual intent towards a girl. Currently, building comfort and showing sexual intent are the two obstacles I am having difficulty with.

Plan of action:

The majority of my approaches are going to be from day game since I currently do not have enough money to go out at night on a weekly basis and, more importantly, I want to really develop my game and self-confidence without the aid of alcohol or other drugs. I really want to develop the extroverted part of my character.

Anyhow, I am not going to write down all of my approaches since in a lot of them I don't really go anywhere (mostly because the girl is in hurry to go somewhere). So, I am going to write down the ones that went well or horribly wrong.

I would also like to add that, although the main objective is obviously get laid, the main takeaway I want to get from the first 100 approaches is to beat my approach anxiety as well as the ability to build, hold, and lead a conversation.

At the moment, I can say that I am in better control in my approach anxiety and I am making good headway in the conversations I have.

Post: #2

Good luck bro!

Post: #3

To be honest, I have been kind of lazy with updating this thread. However, I have approached around 25-30 girls this week. I think I could have approached more girls if it weren't so hot in LA this past week.

Furthermore, I think I could have pushed some of the interactions further and possibly gotten a number but I bitched out. At the moment, my two biggest obstacles are creating, holding, and leading a conversation as well as closing.

As for my approach anxiety, I don't think I killed it entirely should since on some days I still bitched out a lot. However, after the ninety or so approaches I made so far, I learned that the biggest way to overcome any sort of anxiety is to take action and start approaching. I know that may sound obvious to the veterans here, but that was a big realization for me this past week when on certain days I didn't feel like going out. However, once I started approaching, I realized that I would start developing momentum and this way would carry me to better approaches and interactions with girls.

A good example of this is my last approach today. I was going back to my car when I saw this cute girl in yoga pants walking in the opposite direction. I opened her indirectly with a question on where a particular place was. She was friendly enough to look it up on her phone and then I started to ramble on a little bit. I know that I should have closed but I didn't. Anyhow, if this was my first approach I know that I wouldn't have gotten that far. And that is what exactly happened in one of my earlier approaches where I opened successfully but I was kinda of stumped in what to do next. I mostly blame this on the anxiety and nervousness I feel when I am in not in the mood. Overall, I think I just need to push myself further until this feels normal.

Having said all of that, I do have one question.

Last Saturday I went to the supermarket and there were a lot of cute girls. It caught me off by surprised actually. I tried to opened at least one girl but I couldn't. I didn't know what to say. I was just wondering if any of you guys have any good openers when you are at the supermarket?

Post: #4

(08-28-2015 08:56 PM)quino_16 Wrote:  To be honest, I have been kind of lazy with updating this thread. However, I have approached around 25-30 girls this week. I think I could have approached more girls if it weren't so hot in LA this past week.

Furthermore, I think I could have pushed some of the interactions further and possibly gotten a number but I bitched out. At the moment, my two biggest obstacles are creating, holding, and leading a conversation as well as closing.

As for my approach anxiety, I don't think I killed it entirely should since on some days I still bitched out a lot. However, after the ninety or so approaches I made so far, I learned that the biggest way to overcome any sort of anxiety is to take action and start approaching. I know that may sound obvious to the veterans here, but that was a big realization for me this past week when on certain days I didn't feel like going out. However, once I started approaching, I realized that I would start developing momentum and this way would carry me to better approaches and interactions with girls.

A good example of this is my last approach today. I was going back to my car when I saw this cute girl in yoga pants walking in the opposite direction. I opened her indirectly with a question on where a particular place was. She was friendly enough to look it up on her phone and then I started to ramble on a little bit. I know that I should have closed but I didn't. Anyhow, if this was my first approach I know that I wouldn't have gotten that far. And that is what exactly happened in one of my earlier approaches where I opened successfully but I was kinda of stumped in what to do next. I mostly blame this on the anxiety and nervousness I feel when I am in not in the mood. Overall, I think I just need to push myself further until this feels normal.

Having said all of that, I do have one question.

Last Saturday I went to the supermarket and there were a lot of cute girls. It caught me off by surprised actually. I tried to opened at least one girl but I couldn't. I didn't know what to say. I was just wondering if any of you guys have any good openers when you are at the supermarket?

Post: #5

"Is that a good papaya?"

Post: #6

I wanted to update this a few days ago but I got busy with work and school. The DDOS attacks didn’t help either.

Anyhow, last Monday was important day for me for the following reasons.
1. I completed the 100 approaches on that day.
2. Last Monday, also marked a month of no masturbating and porn for me (I still haven’t masturbated or watched porn since August 1)
3. I got a phone number after 10-15 minute conversation.

Here is a quick breakdown of how I got the number. I decided to take a few classes at my local CC. Last Monday, on the first day of school, I was approaching a few girls on campus. The first three were quick warm up approaches. Afterwards, I approached a girl who was sitting down and smoking a cigarette. I sat next to her and opened her. However, her reaction towards was not really positive so I left. I walked around a bit more than I found another girl sitting by herself, playing with her phone. I sat next to her and opened her. We managed to have a long conversation (about 5 – 10 minutes). I am pretty sure that I did a thousand things wrong while I was talking her, but, nonetheless, I think it was a great step for me since I always struggled in talking and meeting people. As for the conversation itself, it was light and fluffy. We talked about class, the weather, professors, and other trivial things. Having said that, I didn’t really “game” her per se. I just tried to be a normal cool guy and didn’t try to neg her, qualify her, or do any of the stuff one would see on most youtube pickup videos. I guess the best way to describe it is Basic Guy Game as Chris from good looking loser describes it.

Despite all the mini accomplishments, I did have some setbacks. On the same Monday, I realized that my frame is still really weak.

Additionally, on Tuesday, I felt kind of shitty and I think that I didn’t completely push some of my approaches.

Then, on Wednesday, I texted the girl from Monday to hang out. Unfortunately, she said no and, to be honest, I did get a upset. I wasn’t really upset at her but mostly at how slow progress has been. I know that I shouldn’t be complaining, but I guess I had a moment of weakness. At times, I still feel doubtful and uncertain if I could really fix my social/sex life. That was one of them.

On Thursday, I did better. I approached around 6 or 7 girls. The last approach was a girl from my evening class. She is cute. Unfortunately, I didn’t get her number because I didn’t have much time to talk with her. Nonetheless, I’ll try again next time or I'll talk to one of the other girls in class.

After my first 100 approaches, I think it is time that I should revise my goals.

1. Although I still get a little nervous, I no longer have the same amount of approach anxiety as I did before. Nonetheless, I still bitch out a lot. So, I think the next step forward is to remove my limiting belief that girls are not approachable at certain times. For example, I still bitch out in approaching when there are lot of people my given target. I need to get rid of this belief.

2. Continue working on my conversational skills, namely building, holding, and leading a conversation. I think I am getting better at building and holding conversations but I still need more practice leading them.

3. Push for the number close more often. Like I said earlier, the first 100 approaches were just getting my feet wet in the game. Now I should go a little deeper.

I’ll do have some questions.

1. What is the best way to game girls in class? When I was at the university, I usually always approached the few girls in my class (math major here). However, I never really got anywhere with them. I always got stuck in the friendzone. There a few cute girls in my classes and this time I want to go farther.

2. I noticed that some girls have looked at me from head to toe. I have worked on my style and, even, my close friend said I look good/sharp. Is this an indicator of interest?

3. Sort of related to the above question, do you think I should start approaching girls directly?

4. When I am daygaming, sometimes I run into successive girls after an approach. For example, after I approach a given girl then another one is walking in the opposite direction. Should I approach these girls? I don’t want to give out a creep vibe during a daygame session. So, I usually pass on these girls.

Despite the moments of weakness during this week, I think that things have gotten better. There is no turning back now. Here is to the next 100 approaches.

Post: #7

1. I think class is hard to pick up girls in general compared to other routes. Studying, inviting chicks to a party, or campus club event you belong to are about it.

1a. Join a campus club there. Language especially Spanish and French tend to have lots of chicks.
2a. Drama theater etc... being in a play could open up a lot of options.

2. Yeah that's good.

3. Yeah give it a shot. I was about 400 life time approaches deep before I got very very comfortable with direct approach to the point I feel strange going indirect now, except when it doesn't make sense like waiting in a line or on public transit.

4. Go for it, these girls will probably just think you are talking to a friend, in fact it would probably work if she noticed you as a DHV. Also remember when you are out doing pick up or day or night as a beginner you think lots of people are noticing you and watching. No they aren't they don't give a shit, never did, and never will. Everyone is wrapped up in their own life.

Get to 300 you will feel totally different about everything.

Get to 600 you will feel totally different again.

100 is the number used as an easy to remember measure. In my experience the big steps are made every 300 or so. Then beyond my experience level I am sure there is another level reached every 1000 thereafter.

Another quick note is whatever friends you end up making try to spend as much time with male friends that are very social and great talkers to both sexes. This will help second to approaching.

You should also try recording the sound of the approach on your phone while it is in your pocket. Go over them after to see how you talk, what you can improve.

It takes a lot just to get to 100, this is great work. Things will only get better. I think if you make it to 300 you will see light and never have thoughts of turning back.

Post: #8

I have been wanting to update this thread for a while.

I haven't been counting the number of approaches since the last time I posted here, but I think that I have approached at least 50 girls (probably more).

The biggest improvement I have made so far is in regards to my approach anxiety. I still get a little nervous before approaching girls. However, I think I am at point that I no longer have to worry about it.

The next big improvement is my style. I no longer wear baggy pants and stopped wearing my nike sneakers. My friend has complemented on my style improvement and I noticed that girls are much more receptive when I dress up.

I think my conversation skills also improved but not as much as the above two skillsets. Yesterday, I was really vibing well with a girl from my class. Looking back on it, I realized that I centered the conversation around her and I was focused on trolling her and pushing her buttons. I think that I should adapt this mindset when I am out approaching.

Despite all of the approaches, I don't really think that the majority of them led anywhere - the majority of my approaches lasted less than a minute. As for the ones that lasted longer than a minute, I didn't think that girls were attracted to me or vibing well with me. There were a few instances where I think the girls were interested but I bitched out from asking their number.

I also would like to add that the majority of my approaches were indirect street approaches during the day. So, this could partially explain why the quality of my approaches have been low. The approaches I made where the girl was either standing still or sitting still have been better. Nonetheless, I didn't feel any attraction or interest from the girls. So, I didn't ask for their number.