Post: #1

Do you guys ever find yourselves in the situation, when you are dating a lot of women simultaneously and information they provide about themselves kind of blends together, and you can no longer be sure whether she said it or the other girl? Or when you get to ask same question twice on different dates and get caught?
Do you use some memory tricks or just avoid this sort of conversations where you get a lot of personal information about the girl?
I am not sure whether it is bad or good for reaching a goal. From one side she might just think you are dumb, from other point of view she may understand that your mind is full of other thoughts, or other girls.
Any thoughts?

Post: #2

Maybe a type of journal is what you need. What I do is in my phonebook is write the girl name, her age, city/website where I met her and that usually connects everything in my brain.

Post: #3

I have a very good memory, without trying, and with Millennial girls I have to pretend to not remember or misremember details, because they are a paranoid bunch who get taught from the day they were born that all men are creepy. They seem to like it more when I pretend not to remember, so they can talk about themselves again.

The same good memory serves me very well in everything else though, in the style of How To Win Friends and Influence People.

Post: #4

I usually write down key information from the wife material.

Post: #5

Yea, and it usually doesn't go over so well.

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Post: #6

Unless she's your long-term girlfriend, why do you want to remember what she says anyway? If you've hit it a couple times, she's just some girl, so don't care about what she says. Not remembering what she says makes you more attractive. It shows that you have more important things going on in your life than her.

This kind of indifferent attitude will send her into a tizzy about your feelings toward her that will only strengthen your relationship. It will give her endless things to talk about with her friends. And best of all, it takes no effort on your part.

So, don't write a journal to keep track of what your harem is chatting about. Let them figure out where they stand on your list of priorities. Give them the gift of sweating it out.

Of course, you do have to listen to what she says. Not listening and not remembering are two different things. You should connect with her emotions, and saying "Huh?" after she's opened up about something will kill whatever intimate moment you've built. But you don't have to remember something she brought up three days ago (or worse, three weeks ago). It shows that you've been thinking about her.

Post: #7

Writing a journal helped me a lot. Nowadays even if I meet a chick after a long time I can quickly look through it before the meetup and remember what we did, stuff they told me, things they like or don't like during sex etc

Post: #8

(07-08-2015 11:05 PM)LINUX Wrote:  Yea, and it usually doesn't go over so well.

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I have done this same mistake too sadly. At least try to remember the big stuff.

Post: #9

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Post: #10

In iPhone when you store a number, there are extended fields for information in the entry. There's a box called "notes" which is the place for this.

Post: #11

"Do you guys ever find yourselves in the situation, when you are dating a lot of women simultaneously and information they provide about themselves kind of blends together, and you can no longer be sure whether she said it or the other girl? Or when you get to ask same question twice on different dates and get caught?"

Yes, this has been a big problem for me and why I usually only date one girlfriend at a time. I have a great memory for facts, figures and technical stuff but a very poor social memory and yes, the iPhone is a help but not good enough to keep the spontaneous conversation flowing.

Post: #12

I had trouble remembering girls names when I just met them on nights out and I was drunk. Now that I think about it I doubt I knew most of their names. Some called me out on it but I salvaged it and the others were probably unaware.

Lost a guaranteed pull when I kept forgetting a girls name after the third time she told me.

Post: #13

I currently spin 2, and working to add to the rotation. Have spinned 3 in the past (Ah, the good times).

Some tips from my experience:
1. Use the same pet name on all the girls you are dating. It has to be the same so you don't call out someone elses name...
2. Journal is good advice. Using the smartphone is solid.
3. Try to stick with the same topics. I copy-paste messages to send to those I'm engaging.
4. Try, if you can, to make specific days for each girl. This will help you remember.
5. Practice. I know you remember what matters to you. So - try to repeat what a girl say if it is important (heh!).
6. Never, and I mean NEVER, apologize if you forgot. Brush it off, and if she insists say something along the line of "Got it. How about..." and change the subject.
7. Don't be afraid to lose the girl. I was caught once and told her she can go, and I understand. She was so shocked that I can drop her, that she continue to see me.

Hope this is helping.

Post: #14

Actually, remembering all the fine details will work against you, not for you.

If you forget most little things about her because you have your time tied up with multiple other chicks, then those subconscious communication signals will be read by each of your girls loud and clear. They'll feel it, and in more cases than most, they'll try and work harder to keep you because they know you probably have something better already.

I don't think you should be searching for an answer to this question. When you have multiple girls, pussy is just pussy and that's all there is to it. Unless you're looking for something more serious, in which case you wouldn't be having this problem anyway, as you'd keep seeing the same chick over and over again, or discard them fast because they don't meet your criteria.

Post: #15

I've had this happen to me many times. For the most part I've not been too harshly penalized by any woman for "mis-remembering" something about her. She will usually shit test me by saying something like "that must be one of the other girls you're seeing" and I do the standard agree and amplify response of "yeah, it's hard keeping all 200 of you straight!" What I've learned is that unless I'm absolutely 100% of my facts I don't say anything super particular about a given girl like:

"how's your sister who lives in San Francisco doing?"
"Um, my sister lives here...."

Post: #16

If (or rather when) I'm struggling to remember what a new girl may or may not have said during a previous date I usually just tell them - half jokingly, half seriously - that I'm always going to forget at least 70% of what they tell me, and for that matter what I might have told them.
So far no one has acted offended and most smile or laugh.

I usually remember most broad topics of conversations and some particularly interesting or funny details, but most details are lost to me minutes after they've been said, even when I actually make an effort to listen closely (always had a much easier time learning things by reading rather than listening for similar reasons). And in most situations I really don't give a fuck.

Since I rarely remember details I can generally keep track of who said what little I do remember.

Post: #17

I have this problem as well. I always study our text message history before meeting a girl. All of my dates really just blur together. Sometimes i have hard time remembering what they are studying, where they live(if i haven't been there) or what interesting conversations we've had on previous dates.

Post: #18

Honestly forgetting could be a great weapon since they're hamstering might get set off and will work for you (if you have the right strong frame)

I forget half the girl's names I bang - a few plates I had I struggled remember their last names.

I even forget the name of girls I'm on a first date with, I always pregame reviewing their online dating profile, the chats we had.

I've never taken notes but that's a great idea to put into a contacts notes on the iPhone.

Post: #19

It's not hard. They all say the same stupid shit. If anything ....forgetting is a DHV on your part. Like she's not worth your time or attention(which she is not).

Post: #20

Its funny but I forget bits and pieces of conversations I had. Yesterday, the girl was telling me something and I just nod my head and agreed and continued to drink. I couldn't even remember the freaking wifi password. I think it doesn't matter much if you forget. They'll work harder for you to remember.

Post: #21

I just pretend every date is like a first date. "Oh, you do what again? Cool. Has anyone ever told you that you talk too much?"

Post: #22

(07-09-2015 04:29 AM)JamesRodri Wrote:  

(07-08-2015 11:05 PM)LINUX Wrote:  Yea, and it usually doesn't go over so well.

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lol. How did you salvage this one?

"Of course I remember... I am also learning how to perform a seance..."

Post: #23

I always pretend I don't remember. It can be eerie. I often remember conversations down to the word, so I sometimes omit what I know so that people don't get creeped out.

Post: #24

I just say "I don't listen to you anyway".

Because I don't.

Because I don't care.

Bitches love it.