Post: #1

i remember when reading the rational male tomassi rollo talks about that a girl doesn't fall in love with you when you're around, it's when you're not around that she does.

If you have a girl that you want to stick around has anyone ever experimented with deliberately not seeing her for an extended period of time to increase her feelings for you? this strategy has obviously got to be done when you're already a number of dates in. This is also a bit of a trade off/ gamble as you're giving other guys an opportunity to meet her..

im thinking about doing this to a girl im dating at the moment, not see her for around 3 weeks so she can just stew in her own thoughts..

Post: #2

Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

But also out of sight out of mind.

Post: #3

how long have you been seeing her and what is her attachment level to you?

I was fwb with this girl for months. saw her nearly daily. we started drifting apart and one day she couldn't hang out but wouldn't say why. I called her out and said she was on a date with some other guy. she apologized but argued we weren't dating.

radio silence after that. a fewweeks later she started messaging me like crazy. After about a month I decided to see her again and the sex was phenomenal.

now if I would have done this with a girl I'd know for a few weeks and only saw a few times total she'd just assume I'd dumped her. You need a girl who is madly in love with you to pull such a long time off.

if you have a more casual girl you have to play It with a lighter hand.

have a good text conversation and play to her wants. stop replying just before you'd say something about how much you care for her or thay you want to make plans. don't say anything for a few days and when you do talk act like nothings wrong. bonus points if you do this before a weekend.

another instance would be giving her an insane orgasm/fucking her well. or even just a "romantic" type date and then walking out shortly after. again talk to her again after a couple days and act like nothing s wrong

Post: #4

Fortunately the opposite is true for a guy.

If you hang out with a chick after sex too much you get hooked on oxytocin.

This is a chemical reaction that causes you to have good "feelings".

So, don see her. It's a win-win.

Post: #5

Honestly, I'm not a fan of these types of games.

First of all, when it comes to games, what I do is contingent upon the chick. If I have a chick who's fully cooperating, no drama, no bullshit, then I don't see the need to come at her with a game that might turn her off.

This clearly isn't a secure relationship you're talking about, so going MIA for three weeks might work against you. Is no one else going to hit on her in that time? Is she not going to get lonely for male companionship at all during that time? Is she not going to want to go out even one weekend?

Don't feel yourself so hard that you think she's going to sit idly around for an extended period of time and just think about you.

I get what you're trying to do, and in certain situations, I don't disagree, in fact, what you're talking about doing is exactly what I'd be telling you to do if you were trying to get a girl to give you some space. However, if you actually like this girl, I'd plot a little more carefully.

Sometimes when you're playing too hard, you end up playing yourself.

Post: #6

I agree with Jariel.

This is playing games not having game.

Furthermore, there's more to this story that's vital for diagnosis.

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Have you banged her?
How long have you been seeing her?
How experienced are you? Is she?
Is she falling in love?
If you go ghost on her, are you going to be sitting on your couch ignoring her phone calls, texts, and social media? If her feelings do deepen, can you watch her twist in the wind as it happens?

Those questions are just to start.

The only guaranteed way I've seen this "work" is you've got a full dance card with other chicks. Losing this one doesn't matter to you, and whether she wants you more is immaterial. Absence works when you do not want it too.

If you're trying to deepen your hold, engaging her is a better move than praying that withdrawal will work in your favor

WIA

Post: #7

See this Roissy-post:

https://heartiste.wordpress.com/2008/03/27/dread/

Think about where you are in the seduction/relationship.

Post: #8

(02-19-2015 04:57 AM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:  Absence works when you do not want it too.

WIA

Ain't that a damned thing too!

Post: #9

I had a FWB a short time ago. We'd spend an average of 2 nights a month together, and this went on for a few months. I wasn't looking for anything too serious and neither was she. The casual thing was working great for both of us.

I went away for 6 weeks. Before going she told me to text her when I was back and that we would get back together.

She went MIA when I texted her after I came back and I wouldn't bang her again. She was a cool girl, oh well.

I'd run into her a few months later on a night out. She was not quite the same. She cut her low back extending hair to above the shoulder length and she was walking with a different, less positive vibe in her step. Looks like I had her during her peak, and now at 21 with such a poor habit I don't see her ever reclaiming her prime again.

Nothing in me going away was really deliberate on my part. But trust that extended time apart will either help you or completely distance you from each other, there doesn't seem to be a middle ground.