Post: #1

I saw a girl for 2 months and broke up with her. Afterwards, she got a 'friends' number and went out with him and other people. She came back to me crying so I said we should work on it.. While I remained single and banged other girls. I wouldn't commit so she pitched a fit and won't give it up any more. Basically leaving (trying to validate herself) while I continued to see other girls.

I recently sent an angry text saying something along the lines of "lol you blame me for this? I should have trusted my gut and not let you come back in life after your actions"

I think this will work in my favor as she will blame herself. Is this a good technique or will it make me look less indifferent?

Post: #2

Just forget her and move on.

You're wasting your time and have oneitis, otherwise you'd tell her to kick rocks.

Move on, you'll be happier that you did.

Post: #3

No need to lock it down. Just push on with what you have elsewhere. She is not worth having in your life, considering that she insists that you downgrade your lifestyle in a way that benefits her and her alone.

Post: #4

(01-24-2015 03:01 AM)polymath Wrote:  She is not worth having in your life, considering that she insists that you downgrade your lifestyle in a way that benefits her and her alone.

You are the prize. I have a hard time internalizing this, but this is the truth.

Post: #5

Anger will almost always invalidate you with a women. Mostly because in their eyes it makes you look weak. I've come to believe this reaction is so hardwired, its biological. Occasionally you will find clingy co-dependent ones who at first, are only concerned with keeping you happy, but over time, anger will destroy her respect and love for you. And for ones who are not emotionally connected you can kiss them goodbye at the first angry outburst.

You need to do the exact opposite - Go away. Literally; no contact, no texts, no calls, just disappear and completely ignore the shit out of her. If you are interested in keeping this kitty around, you need to think more strategic. Be aloof, force yourself to learn this.

Post: #6

Thanks, a lot of wisdom came from your posts. I need to just forget about it and move on, her loss. Unfortunately I work in the same building as her so I will just casually avoid seeing her. If we run into each other, I'll just give a playful "hi" and that's it so I don't appear to be angry.