Post: #1

Coming from America where the mainstream sexual themes have evolved from Natalie Wood's "whatever the man says" to Judd Apatow's "if you're a guy and you want to find to true love, you have to give up all your friends" to Colombia definitely called for a recalibration to adjust to the new realities.
Understand: it's all about the family here. I really can't stress this enough. The family is so much stronger in Colombia (and, pretty much all of Latin America for that matter) than in the U.S., Europe or pretty much anywhere else in the western world. It may be universal (thanks, Chris Rock), but if you've been going out with a Colombian girl a couple of times and haven't met any of her friends or family, you are not her boyfriend.
The problem this presents for the traveler is that if you tell a girl you're traveling alone over Christmas, this immediately raises a red flag as she will automatically assume your values are out of wack and are a shady character, which you probably are.
Of course, there's a flip side to that coin. Especially during this time of year, Colombian girls are very open to new relationships because they can anticipate the empty feeling that will sink in as their hermanos and hermanas wrap their arms around their loved ones while she cries inside.
So, how do you present yourself as a good enough guy to bring home and meet her family? First off, don't be an asshole. Arrogance doesn't really fly here. Still, this isn't to say that you should get on your hands and knees for the first girl who smiles at you and asks where you're from or "donde quedas?"
The move is to ask questions that reflect the undeniable social realities that permeate Colombia. The first, and most obvious, is the ridiculous income inequality that turn the "haves" into arrogant prisses who don't give gringos the time of day and the "have nots" who you have to always be conscious of the possibility (or, certainty) that to them your most redeeming characteristic isn't your personality or your looks but your wallet. Also, Colombia is a very machismo society. I don't mean to imply that these themes are culturally exclusive, but I've never met so many single mothers or heartbroken beauties in my life-- and I've been here for one week.
Onto the game. Try qualifying her by asking questions about what kind of family she comes from or how her job is. Pull the old "Leon" from "Curb your Enthusiasm" move-- begin the interview with the boss asking about you and end it with you sizing them up. "So, what kind of company is this? What are the long term plans? So, you're the type of guy who just likes gringos for their money?"

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Post: #2

Good notes here

Post: #3

Interesting.

I have read many comments about colombian girls on the forum and so far my experience has been pretty good, I am actually impressed by the quality of the women here (not just looks).

Not sure if it is because I am coming from dominican republic but comparing this to DR, you can actually find some good girls here, in DR good girls are literally non existent.

I met this girl the other day and later on the same day she introduced me to her whole family. I actually think these girls make better girlfriends than dominicans or brazillians girls.

Maybe I haven't spent enough time to really understand this place (I think it takes few years for you to really understand a country) but so far, I actually like colombian girls and I can see myself dating one in the long run.

Any fluent spanish cats that can talk about relationships in Colombia? How was your experience with colombian girls in terms of dating them, good or bad?

Post: #4

Pitt - are you saying that DR lizards are generally untrustworthy and just good for pump and dump?

Post: #5

(06-21-2014 02:01 PM)Moma Wrote:  Pitt - are you saying that DR lizards are generally untrustworthy and just good for pump and dump?

Yes, no DR chick (or any dominican for that matter) should be trusted. It's pumping and dumping for sure with these hoes.

Post: #6

There are plenty of good Dominican girls. Hang out in different places if you haven't found any.

Post: #7

(06-21-2014 03:48 PM)Yeti Wrote:  There are plenty of good Dominican girls. Hang out in different places if you haven't found any.

Lol

No comments.

Post: #8

Pitt great to see your loving Colombia!!..I knew you would...Im leaving next week sadly after 1 year here ( that 1 month break in the DR made me appreciate Colombia even more lol)...make sure you check out Medellin when you can..Also are you doing any dancing in Cali??

Post: #9

(06-21-2014 05:23 PM)Freddy_1 Wrote:  Pitt great to see your loving Colombia!!..I knew you would...Im leaving next week sadly after 1 year here ( that 1 month break in the DR made me appreciate Colombia even more lol)...make sure you check out Medellin when you can..Also are you doing any dancing in Cali??

No. I was meant to enrol in some salsa classes but I haven't done it. I have two more weeks here, I am probably returning in few months. Yeah Cali makes DR look like a shithole, the only thing is that I find DR to be cheaper, not sure why, but I am spending more money here.

Post: #10

I think the almost universal playerism of the men in DR rubs off onto the women. It makes the women here either lock themselves away or copy the men's behaviour (hence all the women players in DR).

Having said that, there are still plenty of good girls in the DR. Problem seems to be that the good girls are too good to the point of being church ladies.

To find a DR girl with all of these things is hard:

-no kids
-educated
-good body and/or cute face
-reasonable expectations regarding relationship and money
-a decent job
-doesn't want to marry you for your visa
-doesn't act like a player (when you want a relationship)

You can find most of these things, but getting all of them has not been easy.

Post: #11

That's the thing, the good Dominican girls tend to be church ladies.

To the point where you'll find (as I did) a good-looking bitch in her mid-20s who remains a virgin.

But as mentioned in the thread about good girls, you can corrupt them to serve you sexually, and only you.