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I went on my first date ever and almost got a kiss(serious advice needed)
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I went on my first date ever and almost got a kiss(serious advice needed)
Hey guys,
I have gained a lot of confidence after reading these forums and watching some "simple pick up" videos. Therefore, I managed to ask a girl from my school to grab some lunch with me. She agreed to come as long I accompany her to pick up a book from her professor. In total we spent four hours together. The girl is a solid 7.

Part 1
We went to the science lab so she could talk to her professor.I managed to crack a few jokes about vegetables. I was saying things like "Carrot top surely loves broccoli!" I don't even remember what I was saying; I was simply trying to look alpha in her eyes.

Part 2
We went back to her car and I left my backpack there.This was genius and just an accident. This way I could return to her car to pick up my backpack, after lunch. Then we walked to the town. While walking I simply started kino escalating. First taping her shoulder and then the occasional hug.

Part 3(Lunch)
We went to a Italian local restaurant. Think of my game as 70% Jesse(from simple pick up) 20% Kong(SPU) and 10% Mystery. Here I think I did the strongest. I made a lot of statement instead of questions. Like " I think that your favorite country is X." The statements instead of questions were working. Afterwards, I tried to introduce the "Us mentality" saying things like if "we get married what kind of dog will we get?"Finally, I manage to grind her a bit by teaching her how to dance. I thought about going for the kiss here but there were tons of people watching us at the restaurant. Therefore, I thought about waiting until the end of the date.

Part 4
I was trying to get her to the nearby park. However, she resisted telling me that she needed to do homework. Despite this, I acted very alpha and instead of walking with her I went my way. We ended up meeting at a midpoint and I almost convince her by saying "Just give me 5 minutes!" She almost budged, however, MY FUCKING PHONE WAS DEAD. She resisted by telling me how are you going to keep the time? I think I lost the set here.

Part 5
We walked back to school. I did a lot of mid kino escalation, tickling her, arm to arm locking and having my arm around her the whole time. I just tried to make here stop by saying phrases like "What if it's destiny?" "Baby Jesus just spoke to me and he told me to kiss you" and "What if it's meant to be?" I was trying everything GODDAMMIT! I didn't know getting a kiss was so hard. I actually kiss her on the cheek. Also she was wearing shades and I saw she was blushing.

Part 6
We arrived to her car, and I tried to ask her for another date. She is going to think about it. I actually was very dominant here. I told her "You are coming, and you are going to like it." I think she likes it when I talk to her like that. I tried to kiss her again but she told me, I see you as a friend. However, I told her "You are never going to meet someone like me again" and she said "Well you are very charming." I tried to go for a kiss again but she resisted. So left and I told her "WELL I AM GOING TO GO CUT MY WRISTS IN MY ROOM!" and she said " I had a fun time"

What should I do now?
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01-08-2015 06:04 PM
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RE: I went on my first date ever and almost got a kiss(serious advice needed)
Probably shouldn't have said you are going to cut your wrist, makes her think she is more important than she is. One of the greatest pieces of advice I got from this forum is to have an abundance mentality. If you went for the kiss twice and she said she saw you as a friend. I would have told her i don't do friends and left. Good thing you went in for the kiss to establish a baseline of what you wanted. To answer your question: You can either play text game with her and try to go out again or cut your losses and meet new chicks. More fish in sea brother, always more fish.
01-08-2015 06:35 PM
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RE: I went on my first date ever and almost got a kiss(serious advice needed)
(01-08-2015 06:04 PM)nadaSurf20 Wrote:  What should I do now?

Go out and Approach more Girls. Get Numbers, Dates. Do a Study go on 10 dates and push all to an Isolation Spot lets say your room and see how far you can get. I bet you will bang one of the three that you take to your room.

Classic case of Oneitis I call it. Don't try to convert her to like you as a sexual partner, If she does alright, If she doesn't there are plenty more fish in the sea.

Happy Hunting ........

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01-08-2015 06:40 PM
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Is Nada Surf still a band? Too much begging, women want a man of high value, men of value have many options, and men with options don't beg for a walk/dance/kiss. I would say that unless she's drunk in a club kissing (especially one that leads to more) is a comfort activity. Even if she found "What if it's destiny?" "Baby Jesus just spoke to me and he told me to kiss you" and "What if it's meant to be?" funny, transitioning straight to a meaningful kiss from there would be difficult. You're doing this to get laid, not for Youtube hits.

She needs to lock her arm in yours, you just put your elbow out and look at her like "well?". You lead, she follows, or you walk. Should have left once you committed to it.

That was a bad way to end the conversation, needy and passive agressive at the same time. For the next girl try being lower energy and don't play the clown. When you believe that it doesn't matter if she walks with you or kisses you, or sleeps with you she will.
01-08-2015 06:56 PM
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RE: I went on my first date ever and almost got a kiss(serious advice needed)
I know this thread was probably by a troll, but I feel like lots of guys who are severely afraid of women will still click on it. So let me give you some advice when your in this situation with a girl, as a guy who just overcame this fear: if you think you should kiss her, then you should kiss her. There's no magic line or anything like that. You stop her from walking or whatever she's doing, and you kiss her. You'll be surprised and quite pleased with the response you get.
01-08-2015 09:38 PM
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(01-08-2015 06:56 PM)Gorgiass Wrote:  Is Nada Surf still a band?

Nada Surf is still together, but I don't think they are still relevant. If I'm not mistaken, they were a one-hit wonder with that "Popular" song back in the 90's.
01-09-2015 02:05 AM
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RE: I went on my first date ever and almost got a kiss(serious advice needed)
Q: What should I do now?
A: Stop trolling RVF forum.

It smells like a troll 1000 km around.
However, in case you are in the 1% chance that what you said is real...

She said she sees you as a friend. You've been friendzoned, eject.
She denied the kiss, this is the utter form of disrespect, seriously this is extremely insulting and she doesn't deserve a minute of your time, eject.

All you said was very beta too.
"You'll never find someone like me"
"I'm going to cut my wrists"

I'd suggest you start learning game from the very beginning.

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01-09-2015 08:51 AM
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RE: I went on my first date ever and almost got a kiss(serious advice needed)
What the guy above me said. You sound less like a guy trying to learn game and more like a clown trying to imitate it.
01-09-2015 08:56 AM
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RE: I went on my first date ever and almost got a kiss(serious advice needed)
(01-08-2015 06:04 PM)nadaSurf20 Wrote:  saying things like if "we get married what kind of dog will we get?"

Facepalm

This is a bad question even if she bites!

(11-15-2014 08:53 AM)Little Dark Wrote:  But guys, the fight itself isn't the focus here. How the whole thing was instigated by 1 girl is the big deal.
01-09-2015 09:09 AM
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