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(02-06-2015 09:37 AM)lowside Wrote:  

Funny meme IW, but let me clarify.

This girl in question isn't the same girl that inspired the original post. Totally different girl in another shop. This is the first time I just happened to wander into this shop and the first time we ever saw each other.

So, there's no stalker aspect here.

The point was, how do you escalate from helpful chat banter to the 'shock' of being interested in her. Especially if she's all by herself in the shop.

Post: #28

Robreke, good on you for going back and taking a shot. Like the other guys said, forget this one.

I was at the mall yesterday doing some approaches. One thing I find that works to reduce anxiety is observation. Observe the store, build a story. For example I was shopping for a shirt and asked a girl about which of 2 ties go better with the shirt. Opinion extractors. Then go into "oh you must be a Leo/fashion designer/artist/insert identifier" (didn't use this time but will in the future). Another one was me shopping for shoes for my mom (women's shoe store which I otherwise would have no reason to go into). White lies. Get more used to these.

Getting back to observation, check the vicinity. See where and how you can isolate. Then approach. More stationary and slower the girl, the easier the approach. And to reiterate from others, focus more on customers. If it's girls working there you have to isolate or better to catch them in the food court on break. I suppose even with that, there are people that may know them.

And you should always always go for the number at the very least. With workers, try going for the kill fast because they are less likely to give out numbers and you want to spend time approaching more girls. I'll post my mall approaches in the approach thread soon.