Post: #1

I don't like to overcomplicated things, but after a long time of trying, succeeding, failing, thinking, revisiting, and trying again, I can describe my game in 2 overarching concepts. The beauty of this, is when you try to save a friend from loser-dom and virginity, this explanation usually kick starts them on the righteous path, and when you've had some game experience, this really helps tie everything together.

Anyway, in my opinion, game, at its core, is the combination of 2 concepts: aggression and empathy. Let me explain.

Aggression:
This is your masculine core. Your ambition, your drive, your horniness, your desires, your self assurance.
You use your aggression when you make a move on a girl or when you need to take it to the next level. Your aggression is behind every approach, direct or indirect, because in the end you want to sleep with a girl.

Empathy:
This is the caring, loving, spontaneous, "I tell you a story and you tell me a story" kind of energy. It's your ability to understand people and connect with them emotionally.


Now, the trick is that you have to use BOTH of these concepts in combination. You will fuck up if you only use one or go all out in one.

For example - too much aggression and you look like a horny teenager or this guy - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rMD9FnHSJ14
Too much empathy with no aggression - friend zone.


I typed this up at work so it might seem like im ranting a bit, anyone have any questions?

Post: #2

I don't know that I totally agree with everything. Aggression is huge; chicks respond to it and you need it, but its a fine line you walk with it. There's precious little difference between going after what you want and going too far.

Empathy...eh...

My game is basically making myself as fresh as possible; keeping in shape and keeping groomed, dressing well, this is how you undercut a huge percentage of your competition. Being aggressive (first paragraph) and just being honest about what I want. The girl knows why you're talking to her, you know why you're talking to her, so tell her what you're about and what you want.

I think friendzoning comes from not being opportunistic more than anything else. If you're decent-looking, semi-funny, semi-interesting and have some handle on how to play the game, most girls will give you a chance, so be opportunistic and learn to spot and take advantage of your chances.

Again, one area where the 'community' lags; it makes it seem like the 'game' it preaches will have the same results for everybody; false. Yeah, it'll probably improve things for most guys, but the flabby, out of shape cella dwella will get far less mileage out of things than a buff, tall dude. There is no one-size-fits-all game.

Post: #3

(03-31-2011 03:26 PM)Kid Strangelove Wrote:  I don't like to overcomplicated things, but after a long time of trying, succeeding, failing, thinking, revisiting, and trying again, I can describe my game in 2 overarching concepts. The beauty of this, is when you try to save a friend from loser-dom and virginity, this explanation usually kick starts them on the righteous path, and when you've had some game experience, this really helps tie everything together.

Anyway, in my opinion, game, at its core, is the combination of 2 concepts: aggression and empathy. Let me explain.

Aggression:
This is your masculine core. Your ambition, your drive, your horniness, your desires, your self assurance.
You use your aggression when you make a move on a girl or when you need to take it to the next level. Your aggression is behind every approach, direct or indirect, because in the end you want to sleep with a girl.

Empathy:
This is the caring, loving, spontaneous, "I tell you a story and you tell me a story" kind of energy. It's your ability to understand people and connect with them emotionally.


Now, the trick is that you have to use BOTH of these concepts in combination. You will fuck up if you only use one or go all out in one.

For example - too much aggression and you look like a horny teenager or this guy - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rMD9FnHSJ14
Too much empathy with no aggression - friend zone.


I typed this up at work so it might seem like im ranting a bit, anyone have any questions?

You're confusing aggression and assertiveness. See this article for example:

http://www.earthlingcommunication.com/a/...cation.php

Aggression has to do with anger and violence which I'm sure is not what you mean.