Post: #101

(05-25-2014 09:30 PM)Beyond Borders Wrote:  Some Korean bird just hit me up and said she's coming too town too. I've noticed a good deal of those out here - Chinese, Korean, Thai, Filipina, Japanese tourists coming through and hitting me up. So that's another angle to work - PP is really on the map for Asian tourists right now.

Oh shit .... a critical mass is building ... to take me down...

I imagine chicks are to me what alcohol is to Fisto.. I love them but they don't seem to really love me back...but I keep going back lolzllzlz.

But seriously, the best way to avoid a few years of reflecting on your life in a prison where roaches are as big as rats -- is to get social reinforcers in place to discourage it.

That's why 12 step, AA works quite well despite the lack of philosophical sophistication. Competent mental health workers admit they don't like the dogmatism, but it works for many people-- if you actually do the program you keep checking in with non-drinkers, and you know your social rewards are linked to not drinking.

Also people here mentioning Islamic countries is based on a similar principle but indirectly.

No matter how much we tell ourselves "I'm my own man" and "I don't care what people think" social control is immensely powerful.

If being 5 pounds overweight was like having slimy, oozing sores all over your face in public, virtually no one would be overweight.

uhhh. what's the best area to get an apartment? lzolzlzolzozzl I've got beta bux!!! All hail GBFM

Post: #102

(05-25-2014 11:15 PM)G_global Wrote:  BB, how do you connect to them, though, before they arrived?

Generally they message me on online dating sites. Or I see them checking out my profile and I message them.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not getting hammered with messages from these broads left and right. Maybe once a week or so. It has increased since I changed my online dating pic - as has my general success on these sites.

I've also met some of these girls around town. Banged a Filipina for a little while and hung out with but did not bang a couple Japanese.

I've yet to go on any dates with the online ones that have messaged me, mostly due to bad logistics. But looks like I'm set for a go with the Korean in a week.

I would like to figure out how to meet more of these girls once they're here, but at least for now, I do think there is a possibility of a bit of variety here and there.

I think the key is to make yourself very visible online so they can find you in a lot of different places.

If you like Japanese, try Japanese restaurants and bars. They tend to congregate together, and some of these places even staff Japanese. The Filipinas also like to go to Japanese places.

Oh, and there are Vietnamese all over the place. Pro and non-pro.

Beyond All Seas

"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.
To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you'll be lonely often, and sometimes
frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Kipling

Post: #103

(05-25-2014 11:32 PM)Beyond Borders Wrote:  ...
I've yet to go on any dates with the online ones that have messaged me, mostly due to bad logistics. But looks like I'm set for a go with the Korean in a week.

I would like to figure out how to meet more of these girls once they're here, but at least for now, I do think there is a possibility of a bit of variety here and there.

I think the key is to make yourself very visible online so they can find you in a lot of different places.

If you like Japanese, try Japanese restaurants and bars. They tend to congregate together, and some of these places even staff Japanese. The Filipinas also like to go to Japanese places.

Oh, and there are Vietnamese all over the place. Pro and non-pro.

Have you had much experience with Koreans / Japanese in their countries? Are they more open to casual sex when on holiday abroad?

Post: #104

^ Nah, I have zero experience with them in their own countries, so I wouldn't know.

Beyond All Seas

"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.
To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you'll be lonely often, and sometimes
frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Kipling

Post: #105

^ Good question.
Fisto, what's your experience with these girls? I'm sure you have seen a lot of smoking hot Koreans on vacation in SEA. Have you had any success with them?

And BB. I hear you. Your advertising of Phnom Penh here hasn't gone unoticed
It sounds like an awesome place to live in right now.
Maybe it's the place for me!

Post: #106

(05-26-2014 12:47 AM)Northern Wrote:  

(05-25-2014 11:32 PM)Beyond Borders Wrote:  ...
I've yet to go on any dates with the online ones that have messaged me, mostly due to bad logistics. But looks like I'm set for a go with the Korean in a week.

I would like to figure out how to meet more of these girls once they're here, but at least for now, I do think there is a possibility of a bit of variety here and there.

I think the key is to make yourself very visible online so they can find you in a lot of different places.

If you like Japanese, try Japanese restaurants and bars. They tend to congregate together, and some of these places even staff Japanese. The Filipinas also like to go to Japanese places.

Oh, and there are Vietnamese all over the place. Pro and non-pro.

Have you had much experience with Koreans / Japanese in their countries? Are they more open to casual sex when on holiday abroad?

I'm no expert on either Korean or Japanese girls, but I've been to both countries and I'm currently in Japan. Japanese girls can be pretty conservative in Japan, especially when their friends are around. As with most girls they're easier and more open to random hook ups when on holiday- this applies to both domestically and international holidays. I find that in Tokyo girls are a lot more friendly (and often more pretty) when they're from the countryside or a different city.

Japanese girls in New York are usually so lost and confused that they'll be down to hang out with a local.

Pro tip: if an Asian girl ever says that she's studying English, then you'd be a fool not to pursue her.

Maybe some guys with more expertise on J girls can chime in.

Post: #107

(05-26-2014 02:02 AM)travolta Wrote:  ...
Pro tip: if an Asian girl ever says that she's studying English, then you'd be a fool not to pursue her.
...

+1 from my limited experience

Post: #108

(05-26-2014 02:02 AM)travolta Wrote:  I'm no expert on either Korean or Japanese girls, but I've been to both countries and I'm currently in Japan. Japanese girls can be pretty conservative in Japan, especially when their friends are around.

I suppose it goes without saying that there is a huge range of Japanese girls, but here is an observation that may put this in context. I have met 5 Japanese girls who think it is appropriate to shower right before sex. (I read about this somewhere and made a point of trying to confirm it). That does not leave a lot of room for spontaneity. Of course I did not observe that custom

(05-26-2014 02:02 AM)travolta Wrote:  Japanese girls in New York are usually so lost and confused that they'll be down to hang out with a local.

In my experience Japanese girls are often in love with the idea of NYC (and Paris - look up Paris Syndrome if you haven't heard of it - most people afflicted are Japanese according to wikipedia). This is an overly broad generalization but they want to believe that they will meet rock stars and graffiti artists. Many of them want an American boyfriend so that they can pretend to experience what it's like to be American. I have seen many of them wind up stuck in Japanese expat groups because of poor English and timidity.

Post: #109

(05-24-2014 08:09 PM)Fisto Wrote:  She said "i just want to be your favorite".

It made me feel bad.

The other day I was with a girl who bled all over the sheets. When I realized I immediately kicked her out of bed and spend 30 minutes cleaning up like a madman. I was 20 minutes late to my next date.

An hour and half later I was in bed with a wonderful beautiful sweet girl. When we were done she started crying. I asked her why and she said "I just realized I don't even know if you're my boyfriend". I had an unfamiliar feeling, but I think I may have experienced an emotion......

Post: #110

Quick question for you guys - do you ever friend girls with your real facebook account? Do you ever tell them your real last name?

Post: #111

(05-26-2014 03:23 AM)bigbait Wrote:  

(05-26-2014 02:02 AM)travolta Wrote:  I'm no expert on either Korean or Japanese girls, but I've been to both countries and I'm currently in Japan. Japanese girls can be pretty conservative in Japan, especially when their friends are around.

I suppose it goes without saying that there is a huge range of Japanese girls, but here is an observation that may put this in context. I have met 5 Japanese girls who think it is appropriate to shower right before sex. (I read about this somewhere and made a point of trying to confirm it). That does not leave a lot of room for spontaneity. Of course I did not observe that custom

(05-26-2014 02:02 AM)travolta Wrote:  Japanese girls in New York are usually so lost and confused that they'll be down to hang out with a local.

In my experience Japanese girls are often in love with the idea of NYC (and Paris - look up Paris Syndrome if you haven't heard of it - most people afflicted are Japanese according to wikipedia). This is an overly broad generalization but they want to believe that they will meet rock stars and graffiti artists. Many of them want an American boyfriend so that they can pretend to experience what it's like to be American. I have seen many of them wind up stuck in Japanese expat groups because of poor English and timidity.

I like it when girls shower before sex. It makes me 200% more likely to want to eat out her pussy.

And yeah, J girls literally get wet whenever I drop the fact that I'm from NYC. In fact a lot of girls from many countries thinks it's extremely cool that I'm from NYC. I like to give them hope that maybe someday I'll take them on a trip to NYC. Little do they know...

anyway, I didn't mean to derail the thread.

Post: #112

Short answer: NEVER!

Here's a tip: create a secondary FB account specifically for girls you meet both domestically and internationally. Of course use a fictitious name, both first and last name.

I personally don't even give my first name to girls I meet here.

(05-26-2014 03:33 AM)bigbait Wrote:  Quick question for you guys - do you ever friend girls with your real facebook account? Do you ever tell them your real last name?

Post: #113

How to avoid a bangkok haircut. Wear your cock cage!

Post: #114

(05-26-2014 01:54 AM)Chaos Wrote:  ^ Good question.
Fisto, what's your experience with these girls? I'm sure you have seen a lot of smoking hot Koreans on vacation in SEA. Have you had any success with them?

My only interaction with them was when I went to Boracay in the Phils.

Holy shit did they look good. But they were always with a guy or their families and they just walk around pointing at things without ever actually doing anything.

I'd like to crack that code myself.

Post: #115

(05-26-2014 01:54 AM)Chaos Wrote:  And BB. I hear you. Your advertising of Phnom Penh here hasn't gone unoticed
It sounds like an awesome place to live in right now.
Maybe it's the place for me!

Well, I wasn't exactly trying to advertise it. And I don't know how I feel about encouraging other guys to come here just to chase tail - for me, it's about the adventure. In fact, you may have noticed that I personally never mention venue names. But I guess I don't mind breaking some of the stereotypes that exist.

Also, one thing about this city is it feels rather small sometimes. I know it's far bigger than the areas within it that I've explored so far, but I've already made some enemies with some girls here, and I don't think it'd be unheard of to be spotted out with others, even if you stick to day-time dates. This would be my biggest concern about juggling a few here at once. These women have huge social circles too, as many never leave this small country in their entire lives, and so friends could also spot you out.

I've held since I got here that this place is better for doing the relationship thing than the playboy thing. You can still do both, but BKK is better for the latter, in my opinion. For the amount of girls that are open to dating foreigners there and because it's a city that it'd be easy to be anonymous in. And because Thai girls are often doing the same thing, while women here seem to mostly be looking for boyfriends to stick with.

I've been just having fun so far because I haven't met anyone I want to stick with yet. I do have one or two I'm working on that I would consider for dating material if they are as cool as they seem to be so far, so we'll see where that goes.

Another thing about here that I've held strong to since the beginning is that some of the girls really are conservative. Don't know that Fisto has run into that, but I've experienced women that are deathly afraid of any physical contact at all, even while showing that they're really into me and texting me every chance they get, etc. And then I've also met a small handful that either don't want hang out at night at all and at least one from a restaurant that wants to spend time getting to know me (to see if I'm a "good man" - fuck, I'm screwed) before she'll even consider meeting anywhere alone.

And as you can imagine, such a girl is probably expecting a relationship. Personally, I'm not into encouraging guys to be dishonest with those types of women and lead them on with something they'll never give. That's just me though. I'm a big believer in leaving people better than I find them, especially when it comes to women that are still old-fashioned, and I'm finding that hard to do here. The tourist girls thing is especially a plus for me since I can still play with some Asians but at least they know what they're getting theirselves into, seeing that their time is limited.

So if I seem like I'm trying to pump people up on coming out with the intention to tear through the local flavor, I'd like to make it clear that it really wasn't really my intention. I just like sharing my travel stories, especially when I'm buzzed up or coming off a hangover. And that's obviously when they're the most debaucherous.

For me, this forum has always been more about the international lifestyle more than anything else. The chasing tail is just another part of living an enjoyable life to me, and I trade stories just like I would with my buddies back home.

Sorry if I'm sounding prudish on the matter. Just wanted to throw that out there in case I'm giving the wrong impression... If you do decide to come check it out, I'd be happy to meet up and show you around. And there's most certainly something for everyone out here too.

Beyond All Seas

"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.
To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you'll be lonely often, and sometimes
frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Kipling

Post: #116

BB. No reason to apologize. I was just fucking around like we often do here.
We are all loving your stories and you better keep them coming because a lot of bored guys like me are enjoying the heck out of them!

Been to Phnom Penh twice on shorter visits. Both times before I knew anything about this forum.
( Didn't know WTF to do there)
Knowing a guy like you who are living there with the boots on the ground is an invalueble source of information. This is what makes RVF a very special place.

Next time when I'm around I'll definitely be in touch.
Until then...Keep your head up and keep delivering quality stuff!

Post: #117

(05-26-2014 06:51 AM)Beyond Borders Wrote:  I'm a big believer in leaving people better than I find them, especially when it comes to women that are still old-fashioned,

I've always been LTR oriented, I don't want to be a constantly receding cipher, and I want to know a chick and feel she's not a constant goddam liar, and see her happy.

but using your real name before knowing anyone less than a couple years in SE Asia=bad idea.

Post: #118

Last few days have been slow. Just writing a bit and working out. Aside from the girl the other night at the rooftop, no new girls but thats because my phone is out of credit and the two girls I want to see are back in time like bb and have flip phones.

My birthday is coming up and I am planning to stay sober.

Good girl is coming over tonight and I've got some new tentative travel plans.

Im looking at going to KL for a few days, then Jakarta, then Bali, then to the Phils.

I wanted to handle getting a visa for vietnam but it might be too out of the way for me this time.

By the way, do i need a visa for KL?

In the next few weeks I plan to hit Odong mountain, the royal palace and museum, Angkor Wat, some places here that do fine custom clothing.

I hate basing my plans around girls but there is a full fledged stunner in KL I've been chatting with and its cheap to fly there from here when my visa is up and cheaper to fly to Jakarta than here as well.

Post: #119

^^No Visa required for US citizens going to Malaysia.

Post: #120

(05-27-2014 04:09 AM)Fisto Wrote:  back in time like bb and have flip phones.

You still going to Zamboanga, Fisto?

Post: #121

(05-27-2014 04:09 AM)Fisto Wrote:  the two girls I want to see are back in time like bb and have flip phones.

While I can see they're an asset with the ladies, the more I see you smartphone folk with your heads stuck in them, the more I question my urge to go buy one...

As bad as I am on social media and shit when my computer is open, I don't know that I could resist being the same way either. I'd have to leave it at home a lot or something.

Beyond All Seas

"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.
To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you'll be lonely often, and sometimes
frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Kipling

Post: #122

^

Just do what I do. I have a really basic smartphone and I don't have a data plan. When I was in the US, I would just get really limited data plans so that I could only use the internet when I really needed it.

Even if you don't use the rest of the phone's features, you've got to ditch that outdated keyboard. A full QWERTY keyboard and a Swype app will save you so much time messaging it's not even funny.

Post: #123

^what phone do you use?

Beyond All Seas

"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.
To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you'll be lonely often, and sometimes
frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Kipling

Post: #124

(05-27-2014 04:47 AM)Enigma Wrote:  

(05-27-2014 04:09 AM)Fisto Wrote:  back in time like bb and have flip phones.

You still going to Zamboanga, Fisto?

yeah I plan to

Post: #125

(05-27-2014 05:03 AM)Beyond Borders Wrote:  ^what phone do you use?

I actually have a ZTE Avail 2, but I don't really recommend it.

I'd suggest checking out some of the cheaper or older models available out there, and look through some reviews. You can get something pretty basic for like $50 that will just handle your basic apps and some limited browsing now and then.

Pretty much anything you get will blow your mind coming from what you're using now, and once you get used to the touch screen and keyboard you definitely won't want to go back.

(05-27-2014 05:32 AM)Fisto Wrote:  yeah I plan to

Damn, I'm tempted. I've been thinking about spending some time in CDO too. Are you rolling out there solo?