Post: #1

Those are not rules to obey. It's just few things worth finding out or noticing to have an idea who you deal with and where you stand. If you got this down you no longer need to tweak your game based on girl' nationality etc before talking to her. You can just go in and treat a girl like blank slate and see what she responds to in real time which allows you to figure it out.

Calibration comes down to your awareness of....

# Yourself

- What you feel and how your energy affects others - how is she reacting to you? what's her face expressions and body language? is enjoying talking to you or is she closed? is it positive experience for her or not?

- How emotionally independent/fulfilled you are - are you leeching off her to feel better or are you fine regardless? are you adapting to her or are you setting your own rhythm? are you taker or are you giver? are you bringing the fun/party/positive emotions to them or do you lack it and want them to give some of it to you?

- How congruent you are - is your inner state and outer behavior aligned or do you try to act as if and fake it to look cool? are you trying to fake being positive/upbeat in the interaction to hook it or are you going with whatever you're feeling at a time? are you saying/doing stuff to get a reaction or is it just outer expression of your inner state?


# Her

- What type of a person she is - low/high self esteem? personality type? is she more quiet shy introverted or bubbly fun energetic extrovert? classy or white thrash?

- What type of game she responds to - going hard and dominant/aggressive or nice/friendly slow play? what stimulus is likely to reach her better?

- What she feels at a time - what's her emotional state at a time? is she fun or moody? how far can you push it without freaking her at a time?

- What type of people she clicks with - are they positive / negative / happy / abusive / nice / dickheads / independent / weak / etc?

- What type of influence she surrounds herself with - positive or negative in general?


# Social cues

- Eye contact, body language - is she facing you or talking over the shoulder? is she holding eye contact? are her eyes lighting up at some point? is she comfortable around you?

- Mutual touch and physical comfort - is she reciprocating your physical advances? is she comfortable with you touching her here and there? is she initiating physical contact from time to time?

- Social pinging - if you poke her does she poke you back? if you tease does she playfully punch you in the arm?

- Talking/listening ratios - is she talking back? is she initiating convo after you or something breaks it? is she starting to talk when you shut up? is she asking you personal questions?

- How open she is - is she revealing some personal info about herself or is she distant/aloof?

- Texting back/calling - does she pick up the phone when you call or is she a texter? how long does it take her to respond to you? does she respond with short message or long essays?


# Group dynamics

- What's her group status - is it tight knit group or just friends of friends and acquaintances? is befriending the group a lot required or not really?

- What's her status within her group - is she the leader who makes decisions in her group or a follower who accepts others' decisions? is she likely to part ways and go with you or is she likely to stick to them no matter how cool you are? is she key member of her group or not really?

- What's your status within the group - how do others view you? what do they feel about you? are they likely to help you or fuck up your game? do you trust you? how responsive they are towards you? do they want you to stay with them or just tolerate you? do they offer you to go to an afterparty or not?

- How you affect her status - does her image upgrade or degrade by hanging out with you? does she view you as cooler than her or not? would her girl friends get jealous of you or not?


# Your advances

- What are your attraction/comfort levels - how much is she attracted to you? how much does she trust you? what should you focus on more?

- How much she values you - is she likely to be stolen by some other random guy or not really? does she follow you lead? does she get more or less submissive? is she questioning your decisions a lot? does she feel she has the upper hand or not really?

- How much compliance you get - how far can you take it forward at any given moment? what is she complying to and why?

- How much resistance she gives you - is the resistance you are getting token or real? what is she resisting against and why? where's her threshold? Is it you or is it about her issues/rules that make her resist?

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Post: #2

i would like to include that i enjoyed reading this post.

Any way you can give a in-depth breakdown on the response to each one or how to handle them?

example: it's hard for me to Determine "How much she values you"

because thats exactly what im struggling with a girl right now.

Post: #3

Always enjoyed this thread. I'm looking for some examples too if people can provide. I'm struggling in assessing some of this.

Post: #4

(04-24-2014 12:24 PM)simonafc Wrote:  Any way you can give a in-depth breakdown on the response to each one or how to handle them?

I honestly don't understand what you mean by "response to each one".

(04-24-2014 12:24 PM)simonafc Wrote:  example: it's hard for me to Determine "How much she values you"

because thats exactly what im struggling with a girl right now.

In other words "how much she likes you" or "how cool you are to her". When she's hooked hard and feels 'connected' you can do a lot more with her [and to her] and it's fine. So when you want to meet new girls still holding her hand to make her jealous a bit you can pull it off cause she likes you a lot. Earlier when it's not really 'on' it doesn't have the same effect. When she values you she submits to you more and more and interprets your behavior as cool even if it's not.

(04-24-2014 01:18 PM)Cobra Wrote:  I'm struggling in assessing some of this.

Which ones?