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How to Work a Room (Tips and Questions)
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How to Work a Room (Tips and Questions)
I think we've all been in this situation. You're at an event, gaming a girl and you spot another strikingly attractive girl across the room. The girl you're with feels like a number close with a bang on the first date, so you want to wrap things up, congenially part ways and then hit up the next girl...all done smoothly so you can potentially date both girls without them too aware of what's going on.

I was at a pool party in Malibu last Saturday and found myself in this situation frequently. I'd be doing well with a girl, isolating, a bit of kino but just feeling that we're hitting it off and the bang would come when we're both in a private environment on a date. I grab the number with a simple, "Put your number in my phone, we'll grab a drink sometime." And then I'm wondering...what to do next. I want to bounce, but the girl I'm with is solo and has no where to go. Here's what I've done and I'd like to know what other experience players recommend

- Move around a bunch. I.e. Grab a drink at the bar, use the restroom, get a glass of water. Just move her around with you, even dive into a group and casually part ways with an excuse. Disappear and she most likely will too.

- It's ideal when they're already leaving the venue or have a group to latch on to.

- As you game another girl, do it subtly. I.e. chat up some guys for a bit, then hit up the girl who is in close proximity. It's a balance of gaming the new girl, not giving a shit what the other girl things, but being smooth about the whole operation. Still the frame is: I do what I want, no matter what.

- This is a big one: Realize that you CAN'T game all the girls that strike your fancy. There's only so much time and the girls will be at the party for only so long. Start from the top and work your way down while making time to hang with buddies, new friends and always take time to make good with the hosts.

So I pose the question:

- What do you guys like to do if you're at a bar chatting up a girl, go for the number close and feel the need to leave that girl, mix in with the crowd and game another?

- At a big house party or event like I described, what's a good game plan you guys have tried and tested to get the best results?

Thanks for any tips.
- Chef

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04-07-2014 01:30 AM
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RE: How to Work a Room (Tips and Questions)
You can chat up, and follow up after, with any girl you like if you're hosting that event. If I had to count then maybe 60-70% of my bangs came from being a situational alpha at either the initial meeting or d2. If in neither case being a situational alpha happened then by that metric alone I fucked up and in retrospect did not get any. So unless I have a chance to do, then I don't even bother. Call me lazy

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04-07-2014 02:45 AM
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RE: How to Work a Room (Tips and Questions)
Quote:What do you guys like to do if you're at a bar chatting up a girl, go for the number close and feel the need to leave that girl, mix in with the crowd and game another?

I excuse myself for a phone call or a cigarette. Then I leave for 2-3 minutes and casually spark up a conversation with another girl. I am pretty much open about it, I want her to feel jealous.

Quote:At a big house party or event like I described, what's a good game plan you guys have tried and tested to get the best results?

If it was my birthday party how would I act? I would introduce myself to everyone and pretty much be the host. The same applies for every party. This is what promoters do and they work the room. Confidence + Smile + Charm = running the show.

Even better if you know the hosts or are one of them. You are connected and high up the food chain. You can sort them out with whatever they need, booze, drugs whatever. Of course, use this to your advantage, no freebies.
04-07-2014 01:27 PM
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RE: How to Work a Room (Tips and Questions)
(04-07-2014 01:27 PM)Kikz Wrote:  I excuse myself for a phone call or a cigarette. Then I leave for 2-3 minutes and casually spark up a conversation with another girl. I am pretty much open about it, I want her to feel jealous.

I don't smoke, but making a call sounds chill. My time is precious, so no point in wasting unneeded time when other opportunities present themselves.

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04-08-2014 12:39 AM
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I usually don't try to work a room. I'm more of the chill, laid back guy. I really believe the saying, "The loudest man in the room is the weakest."
04-08-2014 02:06 AM
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RE: How to Work a Room (Tips and Questions)
Go to the bathroom, go get a drink, shift into another group then leave her there.

I do it really easily if its busy (high-volume), but its harder to pull off at a kick-back or smaller house party.

Key is to make seem like you wanna keep talking, but then "got distracted". Talk to everybody- guys, girls, grandma, old people, etc. Its give you plausible deniability.

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04-08-2014 02:40 AM
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RE: How to Work a Room (Tips and Questions)
(04-08-2014 02:40 AM)DVY Wrote:  Go to the bathroom, go get a drink, shift into another group then leave her there.

I do it really easily if its busy (high-volume), but its harder to pull off at a kick-back or smaller house party.

The perfect combo: Say, "let's say hi to some of my friends." Shift into the group, then bounce with drink or bathroom excuse.

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04-08-2014 09:48 PM
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