Post: #1

I have had an issue that has happened a couple of times now and it's come to the point that it is annoying. I'm not sure if it is due to lack of attraction or my fucking up.

I will have what looks like a good interaction with a girl and then when I tell her we should exchange numbers she whips out her phone (usually it's because I either don't cue taking out my own phone - feels too needy or because my hands are full - just got done shopping and awkwardly carry loads of stuff). I give her my number and she either texts or calls me (or pretends to). Usually with calls it is pretty apparent whether it is real or not, but sometimes the phone doesn't ring unless you hold the call long enough (or maybe she put in the wrong number). Anyway I can't check it at that time.

Just the other day I saw a girl I had had an interaction with earlier (random day game) but didn't number close because I didn't want to ruin my warm up set with an early in the day rejection (I used my hamster to rationalize to myself that I wasn't that into her). I see her the next day in my neighborhood and I am carrying a lot of stuff. It was quite a surprise to both of us so I proceed immediately to number close since there is a spark from the emotion spike. I come home to find out it's bullshit and she never actually dialed me properly even though I saw her do it.

Sorry for the longwinded story, but my question is, do girls you guys number close usually make sure you got the correct info or is this another area where the guy has to lead and risk looking needy by making sure she got the correct number and you have hers.

This happened to me twice this weekend both with girls who seemed very interested in the moment so I am super frustrated (granted one time I stupidly told her to take my number and didn't even tell her to text or call me there).

Also do you guys give your real name? I find if I don't do that right away some girls are giving a put off vibe of what do you have to hide… It seems to destroy comfort so I started not giving a fuck and giving my real name even though I am easily googleable (granted there isn't much dirt yet).

Post: #2

Just pull out your phone and tell her to put in her number?

Post: #3

You are making this way too complicated.

Talk to a girl. Tell her she seems cool and you'd like to grab a drink or something later. Take your phone out of your pocket, open it up to the "new contact" or number dial screen, have her put her number in.* Say goodbye and go on with your day.

You are the man. You are ALWAYS leading. You are always in charge. It is your responsibility to make things happen. Never expect her to call or text first. If she's interested, she will respond to your texts/calls. If she doesn't respond, it's because she's not interested. Simple as that.

*Optional: send her a text with your name so she knows who you are when you call/text later.