Post: #26

SOLUTION
Be realistic...

THESE WOMEN ARE RANDOMS, stop going on dates or trying to set them up. Instead, invite her along to something your doing. Focus on actually living life...

For me it's a "I don't know you, you peak my interest so you should come along". I don't know if I'm really willing or interested in having sex BUT as of right now she has a change.

As a result, I simply just text chicks what I'm doing and that she can come through if she wants. I ALSO, "lock in" different activities and simply funnel people into it.

It's win/win for everyone, I lost NO TIME and whether she comes or not has zero bearing on what will be going on in my life. For instance...

Imagine, your a girl and I text you...
- "You xyz what's on your agenda tomorrow? Rounding up a crew to hit up xyz brunch party...your welcome to join me if your free"

or

- "I hope your ready!!!! Gonna most likely have another sick adventure tomorrow...Few friends coming with me to brunch, if you want come stop by.

As you (the girl) see it and decode however you want. (IMO, it's irrelevant) This is YOU MOMENT (as the girl) to take responsibility for your social/sex life and come out. You already know what I was about when you met me, just having fun socializing with people.

So you sit there pondering whether to text me or not, blahblahblahblah all irrelevant thoughts. Now imagine you said NO or simply ignored me. Continued on with your life...

3 Months later

Your BFF comes along "OMG, this guy Distant light, I was out with him the other night SOOO MUCH FUN!!! I've been hanging with him for the past 3 months now, check this out"





Then you realize that was the GUY you met 3 months ago who had invited you to brunch...

MY LIFE didn't change, I gave her an opportunity and she didn't jump at it for whatever reason. It isn't my job to "decode" why she didn't come along. I still had a fucking blast, still met new people, still had sex. Only difference, she had nothing to do with anything.

To Put Things In Perspective
I have ZERO INTENTION of going on a date, that's not my thing...

All I ever did was socialize, i met you, you peaked my interest for whatever reason and I invited you to come along so I can "see more". You didn't come out BUT there were other people like your BFF who was willing to come along and for the past 3 months we've been having a great time together. Maybe we fooled around, maybe we didn't. AT THE LEAST she was able to have some fun maybe meet some other guy who she meshes much better with.

P.S...Imagine if a chick seen the video before hand and knew what she was getting into...That is the presence I come up with "I know what I'm about, I have nothing to prove...Hopefully you don't fuck up your own opportunity."

Post: #27

Great. Distant light- what is that vid?

Post: #28

Man this thread is full of wins. Lots of good info analysis

Post: #29

(03-06-2014 07:46 AM)Valhalla Wrote:  I've commented on this in the playerlog

Attraction is really the biggest thing, if you're attractive enough women will give you zero resistance

Agreed. I don't concern myself too much with passing "shit tests". I'm too old for that shit and if they're into you, they won't give you this crap anyways. Oddly, I think my lack of interest in passing them is what gets me to pass them and I notice the attraction skyrocket. That being said, I'm genuinely not interested in passing them, not just telling myself that to help me out. I think this is due to a long dry spell I went through. In essence, I felt like I lost all hope of trying to pull so I stopped caring about other people and just did/said what I wanted and didn't put up with anything I didn't want. It's amazing what happens when you lose all hope. Figure out what you'd say/do/put up with if you lost your dick, this will get you in the right direction.

Post: #30

(03-18-2014 03:54 PM)soup Wrote:  Great. Distant light- what is that vid?

It's a personal facebook video I made back in 2012 highlighting 4 months of my life (Apr - Jul)

P.S...I've been recording different moments of my life since 2011 AND also doing the TED talk project "1 sec everyday" hopefully for the rest of my life.

Post: #31

When you get that "today's not good for me," text, just smile, look at yourself in the mirror and say "Her loss." Then go out for a drink and game some new girls