Post: #1

Many times we ask ourselves what's the best move in certain circumstances, right? How to approach, how to isolate, how to structure one on one, etc. Ok so next time you start wondering what to do or you already think about doing something ask yourself this..

How can I make this cool for the girl?

Or to be more precise.. Will that bring some sort of value or will that leech off the girl to get something out of her? Will that add something cool/fun/positive to the interaction or will that give me what I need regardless of the girl? Do I want her to feel good talking to me or am I focused only on myself? Whatever it is that fits the first option it's very likely to be the good move.

Simple examples...

How to open... this way is likely to work well consistently cause you bring something with your opening and give the girl opportunity to contribute. Whereas asking questions, telling a compliment and waiting for her to carry on, demanding too much compliance from the get go, letting the girl to lead the convo, etc, is much more likely to fail cause it's too selfish.

How to escalate... this way is likely to work well cause it's fun for the girl, it's short and sweet, it's done under certain logical excuse so the girl feels ok with playing along. Whereas groping, molesting, putting hands all over her for the sake of getting physical, being too pushy, etc, is much more likely to fail cause it's too selfish.

Basically you want to choose something that's fun for her too. And "fun for her" doesn't mean something that she logically would like to do aka 10 dates ended with a kiss on a cheek. It means choosing to do smart move that will either help her to comply with you or give her reasons to give in to you. In other words, giving her what she needs to hook up with you [and giving her a lot of it].

After all, everything we already do we do it for the girls we like so that we could seduce them. If we did it our way 100% then it would be like in cavemen days. So we already adjust to girls a bit in case you forgot.

The frame is "I'll help this girl have a good time with me". Or as Distant Light would say "I'm giving her the opportunity" [to have some fun which leads to intimacy]. I know it sounds freaking obvious but it's not. All I see is guys act like like total leeches trying to get get get giving nothing or post selfish bullshit wondering why girls don't like them.

Post: #2

You'd think I'd have figured this out by now...

I walked around it, mind, and I figured out that I wasn't letting myself "connect" with the woman. Even if it were faked on my part, I just wouldn't go there. I knew that was my block.

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Again, great stuff. Thank you!!

Post: #3

This is probably that missing piece I discovered when my approaches went from consistent failure (literally - I'd go through 30 numbers without anything) to fairly consistent results. I'd entirely agree with this. It opens such a connection with them.