Post: #1

Again, the disclaimer that this is not for the ONS crowd. If you're dealing with repeat customers, minis, harems, etc then this is more for you.

In the first lesson I talked about how to value a woman: behavior over looks. Obviously you want to maintain high appearance standards for the women you open to begin with so you're always drawing from an attractive pool. Of those attractive women, only involve yourself with the ones who act right.

We also talked about the best disciplinary tool: the door. Powerful weapon that, but only if you have the fortitude to accept that you may have to replace her after using it.

Now I want to talk about the larger issue of how to keep a woman in check, long term. The answer is fear. Not of your fists or your wrath, but of your absence, your rejection. A woman should always feel as though she has to prove her worth to you and that you can replace her at any second.

Never Show Anger.

This is crucial. When you lash out it gives her an opportunity to escalate. It shows her that she can affect you emotionally in the same way that you affect her, which is a net loss for the person in control: you. Fire begets more fire, heat begets more heat. But cold cuts like a knife, right to the bone. The old add: never let them see you sweat.

You should primarily show two sides of yourself with a woman. Warmth when she behaves and surgical coldness when she does not. Hot rage validates her negative emotions. Cold indifference makes her question her own self worth. She will come to fear being out in the cold and always seek to return to the warmth. Condition her that the only way to get there is to serve you as you see fit.

Women naturally crave safety and security. They gravitate towards warm, comfortable places. Provide these comforts when she behaves. Be affectionate, say cute things, buy her dinner. When she's fucking well, sucking enthusiastically, and generally behaving sweetly she is displaying positive attentions seeking behavior and should be rewarded with praise and positive attention. When she acts up she is seeking negative attention. Deny it to her. It is the only way to curb negative attention seeking behavior.

When she's seeking negative attention ignore her completely. Use the door if she is present. Leave or make her leave. Do so coldly, as though you're putting the trash bins on the curb. If she's sending crazy texts, or calling then ignore them. Send her a very simple message at the start that she's being irrational/crazy and you will not speak to her until she is calm. Then ignore the crazy that follows. Eventually she'll apologize, then proceed as normal to correct her. If she starts in with crazy, back to ignore.

*A note of caution* There is a downside to this technique. It can make women form an intense neediness for you. It will make them behave spectacularly when you're together but make them very difficult to break things off with. She has started to conflate her self worth with your happiness. If she can no longer please you she can no longer value herself. So beware and be warned.

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Post: #3

(12-15-2013 03:22 PM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:  You with a broad NOW.
But she doesn't fear you.

What steps do you take to change the game?

Cause anything out of the ordinary, and she's going to exert her upper hand on the relationship.

WIA

Excellent question, Arch.

First I'll stay that the best option is always to train a woman early. Get her housebroken as soon as you start seeing her. For all new minis and harems, this should be you priority during the first few sessions with her.

But following your premise, lets assume someone is already connected to a bitch and she's either pushing boundaries, or outright out of control.

The most important thing is to not care if you lose her.

This is crucial, crucial, crucial. You must always remember that this bitch is replaceable, and with a bitch that's both cuter and nicer. She needs you, way more than you need her. Always have this in mind. Female sexual power is a mirage because a player has more value in the sexual marketplace than a woman does.

1. Her value on the open market is tied to her looks, and her value in an arrangement is tied to her behavior. In both instances a player has the upper hand.

2. The player can generate value in the open market without looks, while at the same time her good looks are fleeting.

3. The player has the ultimate say inside the arrangement because the value she brings him is replaceable, but the value he brings her is not. As I said in the OP, you can connect her self worth to your happiness. The reverse should never, EVER, be so.

Having laid that ground work, here are some practical measures. Women are creatures of habit. Once they've pissed on a certain area of the carpet, they'll tend to do it again and again until corrected. Patiently wait for her to step out of line, and don't "set it up" or provoke it. Just let it happen naturally. Then slam the door on her. If in public, do NOT do this in front of other people. She will act out to get attention, and they will attempt to defend her. Pull her aside. If she refuses, leave immediately. Don't get angry, just say "Ok" and calmly walk off as though she was a stranger who just gave you the time.

If can talk to her one on one look her in the eye when you speak, hold her face up if necessary. Scold her as a teacher would a child. Coldly, sternly. "You seem to be making a habit of (insert issue: lateness, sass talk, public disrespect, etc.)" "I let it go because you're going through (insert bullshit emotional issue she's having, she'll always have at least one)." "But that is the last time. Period. Understand?"

One of three outcomes is typical.

1. She tries to explain herself. But you've already covered this ground by ceding her bullshit issue. She may throw out a few more. Does not matter. "I understand all that, but it's still the last time. Understand?". Repeating this question will solidify in her mind that she has nowhere to go but to comply. All doors lead to the same question, "Do you understand?"

2. She will fight. Sun Tzu has an excellent solution here. If she wants to fight, immediately retreat. This will frustrate her to no end. As soon as she goes into her rant, say nothing. Simply turn and walk away. Leave the house, or if at home walk to the door and open it. "You're being irrational, and I can't deal with you when you're like this." She will blow a gasket. You've won.

A more manipulative woman will change tactics at this point. She may even completely capitulate. Accept it, but with your foot on her neck. Walk her though your demands and make her verbally concede to each one. If she submits, open up the warmth again. Show affection, tell her how good a woman she is to do the right thing. If goes through the motions gritting her teeth and glaring, accept her apology and send her packing. "I'm glad you understand, but you're obviously tired and upset. You should go home and get some rest."

3. She simply gives in at the first sign of dominance. These are the easiest women to deal with. They don't want to make waves and often push boundaries because they're simply not thinking about the consequences. Women are children, and should be treated as such. When she gives in, reward her with attention/affection. Explain that doing the "right thing" is what makes her a good woman. This ties her own view of her self worth DIRECTLY to your happiness/approval. Because, of course, the "right thing" is always whatever it is that you want.


***This is a generic solution to a generic scenario. Given a specific issue I can offer a more detailed solution***

Post: #4

Brilliant shotgun styles.

Post: #5

Yeah, props, this is a good reminder. My downfall is always getting sucked into reacting to her.

Post: #6

Completely underrated tactics you're spitting here.

Most guys get hung up on exactly what to say, and step by step methodology. This is not the correct way to do it. You have to absorb the mindset, be mindful of the frame, and control things on such a level which is above the course of a normal conversation. Since when do most people even realize who is controlling the frame?

If you do, you'll be one step ahead of every other herb out there. Because you understand game at another level.

Post: #7

I am looking forward to lesson 3.

Some solid ass info so far that seems to mesh with my personality and way of seeing things perfectly.

Post: #8

(12-17-2013 03:31 PM)AfgScarface Wrote:  I am looking forward to lesson 3.

Some solid ass info so far that seems to mesh with my personality and way of seeing things perfectly.

Lesson three is very much in the works. Next few days, probably.