RE: That deer in the headlights look
It was a good sign, should have teased her some more, gotten more physical.
Looked her right in the eyes and slowed down your speech, smirking slightly, building that bubble where it feels like it's just the two of you.
When looking her in the eyes don't switch between the two, just focus on one (I usually look into the left).
Amping up the sexual tension.
Teasing is very useful.
Generally there are a few different looks I get from women:
-face/body/eyes instantly "light up"
-deer in headlights look
-warm, smiling eye contact
-eyes open up really wide, have a bit of a shimmer to them with how they catch the light
-generally I find they don't want to break eye contact with me and they just get lost in it, if they do break it, it will usually be downward if we're just passing by each other
I can relate to what you experienced, it's happened to me more often than I would like to admit where I'm not even trying to game and when a girl just completely zones in on me when I wasn't expecting it, it definitely catches you off guard and throws you off a bit. Being prepared but relaxed at all times is something I'm working on as well as remembering to take action as sometimes I get too relaxed and don't act fast enough.
One example is when I bought a textbook off of a girl earlier this year and I wasn't trying to game her at all. Based on my previous experiences buying textbooks off of people, they're usually kind of awkward and anxious so I just keep it to a minimum, get the book and bounce.
I went up to her and said, "I'm here for the book." That was my "opener" and she immediately looked up from her phone and got all giggly and flustered. She hooked instantly, from that point on she never broke eye contact with me. As you can imagine, it was completely unexpected by me as my previous experiences buying textbooks weren't like this at all.
The weirdest part was when I gave her the money she didn't even look at it, she just held the eye contact never breaking it. I don't even think she remembered it at all, all she was focused on was me.
From my experiences, if you have rock solid subcommunications (vibe, body language, vocal tonality/projection, eye contact, etc.) then you will find girls "hooking" instantly sometimes even before you say a word.
(This post was last modified: 12-02-2013 09:17 PM by freewheeler.)
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