(11-29-2013 01:46 PM)Giovonny Wrote: (11-28-2013 03:04 PM)Mon Wrote: NLP-like patterns
Please share some examples of these patterns?
Thanks
What I do generally involves the "Milton Model" of NLP. This was based on Richard Bandler's, John Grinder's, Robert Dilts's & Judith Delozier's in-depth study of Milton Erickson & his seeming "miraculous" feats of healing with therapeutic hypnosis. Some of the primary tools for which he was best known were pacing, leading, utilization, and embedded commands & questions.
I also play around with submodalities & anchors.
I usually get a chick to play little "mind games"... the type of shit that fun, adventurous chicks generally like to do.
Keep in mind that this shit works along the same principle as salivating when you think about sucking a lemon, crying when listening to a really sad story, having a "wet dream," and bitches becoming orgasmic while reading
Fifty Shades of Grey. It's the mind focusing inwardly, turning mental pictures or words from a narrative into real, physical sensations.
Always bear the following quotes in mind when considering this stuff:
"Research suggests another way that women's brains are different than men's when it comes to sex: women can 'think themselves off'--induce orgasm without any physical stimulation." ~ Barry Komisaruk, Ph.D. from his research entitled,
Pleasures of the Brain: Neural Bases of Sensory Pleasure.
and...
"We have documented in our laboratory that women can have orgasms from imagery alone without touching their body." from
The Science of Orgasm by Barry Komisaruk, Carlos Beyer-Flores, & Beverly Whipple
APPLYING THE ABOVE KNOWLEDGE/PRINCIPLES WILL HAVE THEM BOWING BEFORE YOU. You're the one guiding her through the type of experience no other man has even considered.
So one example of what I did with this chick, and many others, after I noticed her using lots of phrases like, "I
see what you're saying" & "...
painted a clear picture..." was to play around with her primarily visual thinking and synesthesia (where neurological stimulation of one sensory pathway leads to experience in a second sensory pathway... the most commonly known being seeing certain numbers and/or letters in specific colors). The predominance of those kinds of led me to realize she was more a visual person than the other "representaion systems" (auditory, kinesthetic, etc.) of NLP.
THIS MAY BE LONG, BUT YOU ASKED FOR IT.
We'd already talked a bit, established commonalities, talked about why I left the Midwest to move to Cali, etc., etc., etc.
Also,I'm writing in ways that I would speak it. Run-on sentences are VERY common in "conversationally hypnotic" language patterns, as you are not addressing the "logical mind."
The ellipses represent my pauses. I "bold" some of the obvious embedded commands, where I may slightly change my voice tone and/or volume.
So as we talked I turned on the radio and some wack ass rap shit came on that she said she loves.
I asked if she likes to dance and she said, "Yes."
ME: "Show me."
HER: "What? No"
ME: "Show me. Pretend I'm not here."
HER: (Laughing) "No... I can't pretend you're not here, because I know you're here. Plus, we're in a car; there's no room to show you how I dance."
ME: "Why not? You must be the type to go into full twerk-mode."
HER: (Laughing) "Maybe. Show me how you dance."
I grabbed her hand and started doing some stupid-dance shit in the front seat.
As she laughed I said:
ME: "So let's see your moves."
HER: "No."
ME: "So I can tell by the words you use and the direction that your eyes move when you talk that you're a really visual person. You think a lot in terms of colors and brightness...stuff like that. Am I wrong?
HER: "You're right. How'd you know that?"
ME: "I told you."
HER: "Yeah... but how'd you know that by looking at my eyes?"
I went on to tell her that I was at "a workshop" once and we learned that visual people move their eyes in ways that predominantly auditory people don't. Blah, blah, blah. That's when she told me that she's in school for graphic arts. She's also a painter.
I told her that I want to show her something "really cool" that I learned in the "workshop." Wanted to show her how the pictures in her head can be turned into feelings in her body.
HOW COULD A 20-YEAR OLD ARTSY CHICK REFUSE?!?!?!
ME: "Ok, so you gotta do everything that I say. Got it?"
HER: "Yes"
ME: "Sit up & close your eyes."
She did.
ME: "I get the feeling that you're the type who meditates, yes?"
HER: "Yes; I meditate everyday"
ME: "Perfect. You're perfect for what we're about to do."
HER: (giggle)
ME: "In a minute, not now, but when I tell you, I want you to imagine there's a circle underneath you that is as wide as your outstretched arms. Do that now and only wiggle your left index finger when you have it.
She did
ME: Excellent. Now when I tell you to... not yet, but when I tell you to, take a deep breath and as you inhale, let your awareness fill that circle. When you exhale, let that awareness contract to as small a point as possible in the center of your chest. After six cycles of this, take a really, really deep breath, making sure to fill that circle with your awareness, then exhale forcefully (I demonstrated) and allow that breath to sweep away all tension, nervousness and anything contrary to you being able to
fully relax... now...start breathing
As she went through the first few breaths, I coached her with, "deeeep breath in, see your awareness fill the circle. Exhale, bring all that awareness to a super small point.."
On the last breath I said, "Exhale and all that remains is relaxation."
ME: "Wiggle your left index finger to let me know you're fully relaxed."
She did.
ME: "Excellent. Now... I want you to remember a time when you felt real...pleasure. This could be the pleasure of eating some crazy-sweet dessert, that heart-warming feeling in your chest when you hear an inspiring or romantic story, or that feeling in your body... you know the one... the one where the neighbors call the cops because you're screaming and moaning so loudly... the one where you rip the sheets off the bed. You know the one."
Her face seemed to start turning red (sorta dimly lit) as she smiled.
ME: "Good. That's the one we'll use. Now what I want you to do is see everything you saw, as if it were a movie screen in your mind. See the colors; notice any motion; notice the quality of the light; notice the quality of the colors; notice what things are near or far (So on & so forth). When you have that full, visual, clear picture...wiggle your left index finger."
After maybe 30 seconds of sitting there with her face reddening and smiling, she wiggled the finger.
ME: "Perfect. Visualizing really gets you to
go back to that moment, I see. Let's add some detail so that you can
feel even more pleasure now remember what you heard. Hear everything you heard as you
continue to see everything you saw. The more you see what you saw, the more you
notice any sounds and silence that you heard. Notice what sounds are loud... what sounds are quiet. What tones are there? Notice the rhythms notice any voices now as you remember all the sounds.. all the silences... all the background sounds that you notice now and as you are transported to that moment... seeing all the sights... hearing all the sounds, wiggle your left index finger to let me know when you
see and hear it all."
After about 30 seconds of sitting, smiling and making little quiet, "mmm" sounds, the finger moved.
ME: "Excellent. Now as you remember those sights... remember those sounds, you are now going to
remember everything you felt at that time. Remember what position your body was in. If you were moving, remember how you were moving, or maybe you were still. Remember the temperature of the air on your skin, fill the weight of your body as you stand there or lie there or sit there or whatever you were doing. Allow your body to
feel how you were breathing... feel your heartbeat... feel it all as you see everything you saw, hear everything you heard as you feel everything you felt."
She started shifting in her seat and her breath rate changed. I could see her eyes going crazy under her eyelids.
ME: "When you are there, fully immersed in that moment of pleasure... seeing everything you saw... hearing everything you heard... feeling all those feelings in your body... now just wiggle your left index finger and let me know."
She was smiling a closed, mouth smile, from ear to ear, making quiet moaning sounds, breathing more heavily, and doing a lot of shifting in her seat. After doing this for 20 - 30 seconds, she wiggled her finger. I then anchored that pleasure by saying:
ME: "Now you are feeling that
pleasure" (grabbed her arm lightly behind the elbow with my index finger, middle finger, & thumb.
HER: "Mmm hmm."
ME: "Now as you
feel that pleasure (elbow anchor again) notice where in your body that wonderful feeling begins. When you notice where that pleasure (anchor)... begins, point to it."
She pointed to her solar plexus area.
ME: "Excellent. Now notice the
kind of feeling it is. Is it tingling, vibrating, pressure... tell me the
kind of feeling."
HER: (in a quiet, "trancy" voice) "Pulsating. Definitely pulsating."
ME: "Good. Does it have a noticeable temperature?"
HER: "Really, really warm. Not hot, but really warm."
ME: "If this pulsating, really warm feeling... right here (touched the area she pointed to; she gasped) had a color, what color would it be?"
HER: (after about 5 - 7 seconds) "Like lightning... like that blue-ish color when you see a still photo of lightning"
ME: "Excellent. Now a lot of people don't know this, but you're about to learn that for a state... a feeling in your body to maintain over time, it has to move... it has to cycle. So notice how this pulsating, really warm, lightning blue-ish feeling right...here (touched again; she gasped a really quiet "sex-ish" sound) moves. The best way to get this is for you to put your hand over it, and in honest, unconscious movements--without consciously thinking about it--allow your hand to move in the direction of this pulsating... really warm... lightning blue-ish feeling."
She moved it back & forth, from right to left."
ME: "Now take where this pulsating, really warm, lightning-blue-ish feeling begins, loop it around your body so it touches end to end. When you've done that, wiggle your left index finger to let me know.
She wiggled the finger.
ME: "Perfect. Now... begin to move it faster & faster around your body and notice how you feel even more
pleasure (fired the elbow anchor). You feel that?"
HER: "Mmm hmmm."
I coached her through this for maybe a minute or so. Guiding her to move it "faster & faster" as she felt "more & more...deep, deep...
pleasure."
ME: "Now, I want you to stop the movement and put the feeling back where it belongs.... right... here (touched) her. When you've done that, wiggle your left index finger and let me know."
She moved the finger.
ME: "Now on the count of three I want you to open your eyes,
still feeling this (touched her) wonderful feeling. Still feeling this
pleasure (elbow anchor) and realizing that as long as you
feel this (touch solar plexus area) pulsating, really warm, lightning blue-ish feeling... as long as you
feel this pleasure (elbow anchor)... you want to feel it more & more.
So on the count of three, open your eyes and look at me. 1... still feeling that feeling, 2... still feeling...
pleasure (elbow anchor), 3... open your eyes
wanting to feel those feelings more & more."
She opened her eyes and took a DEEP breath, saying, "OH MY GOD...that was soooo trippy."
ME: "You like it?"
HER: "OH MY GOD, YES!!!"
She cupped her hands over her face, moved her hands and said, with a sincerely puzzled look on her face:
HER: "What the fuck was that?"
Then we both laughed REALLY hard:
ME: "Have you noticed that you still feel it... how you want to feel it even more."
HER: "I do still feel it. That's so crazy."
ME: "I wanna show you something else... how I can make it
feel even better. How I can take this feeling... right...
here (touched solar plexus area; she moaned) and this...
pleasure (elbow anchor; she moaned again & shifted in her seat. I said, "that's right")... how I can make it
feel even better now, you ready??
HER: "Ok"
ME: "You gotta ask me for it."
HER: (laughing) "Can you please make it feel better?"
ME: "Good girl. At the count of three, I want you to close your eyes. When you do, you'll feel ten times more relaxed than before, which means you will feel ten times more pleasure because you know that the more you
do as I say and
obey my commands, the more you get to feel pleasure (elbow anchor; verbal and physical reaction).
1, 2, 3. Close your eyes. Ten times deeper... ten times more pleasure. Right?
HER: "Mmm hmm"
ME: "Good. So now that you know that this feeling (touch solar plexus) can move, I'm gonna show you that I can move it to wherever I want it to move in your body and make you feel...
pleasure (elbow anchor; visible response) anywhere in your body that I want you to
feel... pleasure (no elbow anchor; still the verbal & physical reaction because simply hearing my voice say the word gives her the feeling[s]). I can intensify it and make you
feel it deeper, deeper, and even deeper.
So I'm gonna touch you lightly, right... here (touched solar plexus area) and as you listen to my voice
notice how the more you hear my voice, the better this feels... the more you
deeply you feel this pulsating, really warm, lightning blue-ish feeling pentrating your body... going
deeper, deeper, and even deeper. Notice as I move my hand, you
begin to feel this feeling moving to wherever I move my hand now as you feel it penetrating deeper... intensifying.
FUCK, I didn't realize I'd typed this much. Fuck this word-for-word shit. I hope that's enough.
I pretty much touched her everywhere, moving the sensations wherever I wanted.
Told her to turn the feeling into a symbol (she chose a pulsating, very warm, lightning blue-ish deer). Then told her that once I removed my handfrom her body (it was over her heart at the time), I was going to take the feeling(s) away from her body in the form of her deer that I could hold in my hand. SHE BEGGED TO HAVE IT BACK. I did a swallowing motion and told her the only way to get the pleasure back was through my tongue putting it back through her left nipple.
By then, she was putty in my hands. Licked the nipple and "gave her the pleasure back." She clutched the back of my head & neck.
Did more fractionation (hypnosis jargon for bringing her out of "trance" then putting her back in). Subjects seem to go deeper each time you bring'em out & put'em back in.
I moved the sensations around her thighs and to her pussy, which by then had soaked through the back of her dress.
Moved it up to her lips and left it there. Told her that anything she does with her lips, while she's with me, will result in "
deeper... and deeper... and even deeper... pleasure."
I brought her out, "still feeling those feelings that you love to feel... which makes you want to feel them more... and more."
She started rubbing my dick, kissing all over my neck, and decided that a blowjob was the perfect way to feel more pleasure.