Post: #1

Hi all,

First post here.

First, I want to say thanks to Roosh for writing a great book. I recently got into the whole PUA scene, and bought a few different books. I think his book is the best one out there. It’s the first one that I’ve gotten some real good tips that I think that will help me out (mostly on the mental aspect).

Second, I do have a few different questions, but I’ll start off with one that I couldn’t really find an answer to in the book or the forum. What type of game should you be doing if you get approached by a girl first?

For instance, here are two different scenarios. First scenario, a girl comes up to you and says, “I just really wanted to tell you that I think you’re cute, or, I think you are so good looking!” What should I say? I normally just say “Thanks” and act dumbfounded (which is obviously wrong).

Second scenario, you’re sitting at the bar watching TV and minding your own business, and a girl comes up to you and starts talking to you.

I know in the book there’s a lot of good info on approaching women, but I get held up when I get approached by women. I get taken off guard, and can’t really think of something clever to say (especially the cute comment), and usually screw it up by saying something stupid.

Thanks for your help and the forum.

Post: #2

(11-14-2010 02:13 AM)shanefalco Wrote:  For instance, here are two different scenarios. First scenario, a girl comes up to you and says, “I just really wanted to tell you that I think you’re cute, or, I think you are so good looking!” What should I say?

1. You know what, I just came back from Italy last week and a lot of beautiful girls were saying that to me. They said I looked Italian, and were really impressed to know I'm now. Any chance you are from Italy?
(if she looks really smart - replace "Italy" with "Kathmandu")

2. Funny, typically I see guys coming to girls saying that and then buying them drinks. So, are you going to buy me a drink too? I'd like stoli on the rocks please.

BTW, are guys actually being called "cute"? It sounds kinda gay to me.

Quote:Second scenario, you’re sitting at the bar watching TV and minding your own business, and a girl comes up to you and starts talking to you.

Hi, you wanna buy me a drink?
(I pulled it once, and I actually got a drink. Didn't fuck her, but getting a drink is better - there are more girls who'd fuck you than girls who'd buy you a drink)

Post: #3

Mmmmm... how about open your mouth and start talking to them. It's funny that you ask this, because 90% of AFC's (average frustrated chumps) are hung up on approaching girls, most guys don't get approached, and if you are I don't see why you'd have anxiety or act nervous. The fact that they are approaching you, is a huge IOI (indicator of interest), and most likely means that they are attracted to/intereted in you, therefore all you have to do is engage them in some form of conversation and make some kind of move depending on the vibe/situation (i.e. insta-date, number close, kiss close, etc.) Roosh always stresses the importance of being able to hold a conversation with a girl, and I agree, girls will only do so much work, if you aren't able to converse, and come across as boring, nervous, awkward, etc., a girl will be turned off even if she initially thought you were good looking or cool.

Post: #4

Situation #1

Answers

A. "Thanks". And chat her up with random conversation = Desexualizing the interaction that she attempted to sexualize. Congrats. As far as she is concerned, you have no penis.

B. "Thanks. I think that your cute as well." or a variation thereof. Look her up and down, taking in her body, and then meet her eyes and hold contact. = mutual Sexual connection/expression. Your sexuality is confirmed to her.

Then its a matter of non-needy sexual tension, and a modicum of leadership, that will get her pants off that night. Everything else is just filler. It doesn't need to be clever, and really, you don't have to say too much if you have your masculinity and sexual tension down.

Situation # 2 = Same as situation #1.

Dude, if you're re getting approached regularly enough to warrant your questions, then the battle is 95% won. Just learn how to 1. Not be needy. 2. create sexual tension. Both much easier than learning how to approach, open, and take rejection. Although, you will without a doubt need to learn those skills as well. But landing the girls that approach you will do a lot to keep you going. Just don't get lazy with your development.

Post: #5

(11-14-2010 08:54 PM)OGNorCal707 Wrote:  Roosh always stresses the importance of being able to hold a conversation with a girl, and I agree, girls will only do so much work, if you aren't able to converse, and come across as boring, nervous, awkward, etc., a girl will be turned off even if she initially thought you were good looking or cool.

This part here honestly sums up the answer so many guys are looking for I think. Everyone wants some magic line or clear cut steps on how to pick up women but there it is. If you cant hold an interesting conversation than youre D.O.A., getting great at anything just comes downs to reps so get as many as you can and figure out what works for you by adjusting after approaches.

Post: #6

Thanks All,

It's a matter of just getting over my nervousness, and just saying something. Pretty simple but one I never did b/c I was just too shy.

Now it's just a matter of doing.

Thanks again!

Post: #7

I think a lot of time when guys actually get approached by a woman the think to themselves... "Okay, she opened me now it's time for the attract phase." However, if she actually went up and talked to you, that part of the game handled.

It's just a matter of not fucking things up at this point. Be a cool dude, continue the conversation, vibe and escalate escalate escalate. I think a tendency guys have is they feel the need to do something or say something cool or say something interesting since most of the time, when they're cold-approaching a woman out of the blue, they're working an uphill battle.

But if the girl is already into you (to the point where she actually walked up to you) anything you say is going to be cool to her. It's just a matter of not being weird, conversing like you would anyone else and escalating.

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Post: #8

Do you mean escalate the touching?