Post: #1

Ok - so here's what's happening.

My dad and his wife are travelling to see me from interstate this weekend, as they haven't seen me since Christmas.

When I was speaking to my dad a couple of months ago, I revealed over the phone that I was in the middle of dinner with a female friend (he got the gist). My dad is one of those guys that kind of revels in the fact that I'm dating hot and younger women - I guess it's a case of living vicariously through his son, since he would most likely not stray at his age (but honestly, idk).

Anyway, fast forward to last week. He tells me they're coming, and would like me to organise a restaurant booking. He asks me about my girl, seeing if we're still dating - I say yes. He seems enthusiastic to meet her, and implies that I should bring her out for dinner, to which I kind of agreed to. He knows that I've been dating women on a short term basis recently, so wouldn't have a preconceived notion that she's an LTR prospect.

Also, I'll state the nature of this FWB situation. We see each other once or twice a week. Text every day or every other day. Sometimes, she'll sleep over (maybe one out of three occasions). I wine and dine her once a fortnight. She understands and accepts that I see other women, and I don't care or think about what she does in her spare time.

I decided that I probably should bring her along (which she's agreed to without any coercion), as I don't feel there's much harm in me introducing her to my family, even if it is most likely a short term relationship. Like I said, my dad will get a kick out of it, as she's a hot little Asian, so will be a bit of a novelty as he's a country dude (we're Anglo). My dad's wife is pretty relaxed too, and won't be concerned.

I guess there's a small part of me that thinks I shouldn't be introducing her to my family, but overall, like I've said, I don't think it's too much of a big deal.

TL;DR - Would you introduce a FWB to your family?

Further info:

Since I’m recently divorced, he knows I’m just sampling chicks at the moment, so no explanation necessary about the relationship.

There is no prior behaviour that would suggest a lock-down move from this girl, and I have indicated that the meet is more about me not going stag than me changing gears and going into serious mode. She’s a lot younger than me, and is just “sampling” too.

She has been the only regular chick over the last few months. I’ve slept with others (mostly ONS, some a few times) over that period, but she has been the mainstay.

Post: #2

I would only introduce her if it was "facebook official" type of deal and would explain the FWB thing as such to your father. Don't be ashamed about it.

All women are different, but if she met your parents it can send the hamster a wrong message about your intentions. She may want to attempt to lock you down. This is a bigger problem than what your parents think. Is she the only chick in your rotation or do you have a harem?

I would avoid such a meeting if possible.

Post: #3

Frenchie - post updated above.

Post: #4

(10-28-2013 07:03 AM)Windom Earle Wrote:  We see each other once or twice a week. Text every day or every other day. Sometimes, she'll sleep over (maybe one out of three occasions). I wine and dine her once a fortnight.

She has been the only regular chick over the last few months. I’ve slept with others (mostly ONS, some a few times) over that period, but she has been the mainstay.

That's called a girlfriend not a FWB. And by your use of the word "fortnight" a girlfriend in 1865.

Post: #5

I've done it before. I don't recommend it. It was because I was younger and had no where to take her to bang. I have my own place now so it's not an issue. What happens is this: First your mother has coffee with her. Then the occasional cigarette. They start to bond. Then you start getting subtle hints of marriage from your family. It's a big hassle. You should only bring serious girlfriends around your family.

Post: #6

^ Valid points Kenny P, but for all intents and purposes, this is a FWB. There are no hard and fast rules about how such an arrangement should be conducted, as there is always room for variation on that theme, whilst avoiding the girlfriend/boyfriend label.

Fortnight is an often used term in Australia - in the current day. It means 14 days.


Parlay44 - I can see the conundrum there. I'm situated 600km's from any of my family, so no chance of that happening.

Post: #7

(10-28-2013 07:55 AM)Windom Earle Wrote:  ^ Valid points Kenny P, but for all intents and purposes, this is a FWB. There are no hard and fast rules about how such an arrangement should be conducted, as there is always room for variation on that theme, whilst avoiding the girlfriend/boyfriend label.

Fortnight is an often used term in Australia - in the current day. It means 14 days.

Ha, right on man.

Entertain your Dad with the cute girl. My Dad and Uncles love meeting cute new girls I bring around. The problem is usually with Mom and this sounds like your Dad's wife, not your Mom.

edit - that is still the description of a girlfriend not a FWB. It is more important for you to honestly address your situation with the girl than debating if she can meet you Dad.

Post: #8

Yep - mom free zone.

That's the angle I'm going for more than anything, providing entertainment to the old man whilst he's in the city.

Post: #9

Honestly, it doesn't seem like it would be a big deal. I think acting all unnatural about it would do far more damage than the possibility of her hamster taking it as a signal to latch on.

Heck, if I was out with any person of any gender that I was doing anything pleasant with (having dinner and fucking certainly counts) and my parents invited me to "bring my friend", it would seem only natural to bring him/her.

Your relationship with the FWB seems warm and stable yet unattached, so I don't think she'd take meeting your parents any more wrong than she could take your dinners together.

Post: #10

let her meet your parents. no big deal for me. as long as she knows it isn't any official engagement.

I've had multiple girls meet my dad...he knows how the game works.
it sounds like your dad does too.


when I was younger..my dad would "randomly"pick up my room if he knew it was messed up and would hurt my chance of getting the bang.
(not saying I was a bitch and didn't pick up after myself)(dad was more of an emergency wing man)

Post: #11

I never introduce any females to my family. Reasons below.

1. Most of my family is crazy and so are most of the girls; its like adding water to acid.

2. My family knows all the women in my life are temporary, and I hate to see everyone putting on a fake smile, especially at family gatherings, where she is the odd duck.

3. The ltr's I have introduced them to were scary, and now they expect the worst.

4. When you drag a girl along to see family, you are also babysitting, and I'd rather spend quality time with those that really love me, instead of sitting around in an uncomfortable silence.

5. The men in my family live vicariously through me, and are expecting whoring stories, which I can't tell with one of them sitting beside me.

6. Introducing them to your family makes her think of commitment which will bite you in the ass later.

7. If the chick is a loose cannon, she will contact your family and spill the beans. That makes it embarrassing during the next family reunion.

Bottom line, keep your sex and family life separate.

Post: #12

Rarely bring any of my girls around any of my family-I think once in the last three years

Fortnight=14 days

Stone=14 lbs

Post: #13

No.

Unnecessary drama, questions and trust me on this: your FWB will take this a lot more serious than you would. Don't start planting seeds, unless you're willing to water them.

Post: #14

Not a chance in hell. Only girls that im with long term are going to meet anyone in my family.

Post: #15

I would if I was just introducing her as a friend. My rents saw and met a slew of girls I was banging out. They know the deal.

Not grandma tho, I only took LTRs I thought I was truly in love with to meet grandma.

Its only a big deal if you make it one.

Post: #16

Considering there seems to be distance between you and your family I'd say there's no harm in it. It could make it more difficult to get rid of her in the future though.

Post: #17

(10-28-2013 11:35 AM)Aliblahba Wrote:  Bottom line, keep your sex and family life separate.

Post: #18

I've decided to err on the side of caution here, and have retracted my invitation (tactfully of course).

Thanks for all the input.

Post: #19

You did the right thing. No need to introduce them with an official dinner date.