Post: #1

The campus is small , at least at my faculty most people know each other (grew up in the city), gossip is in full swing and the vast majority of people in uni are native to that city.

I can't exactly approach as that assumes a high rate of rejection, and the chance of rejection increases exponentially after each one. (ex: a girl might like you, if she heard you were rejected by two girls before , she will also reject you)

I guess the only thing left is social circle game and/or a few approaches outside my faculty.

Any ideas?

It's the first few weeks so no going out customs are formed yet and i doubt they will (as far as partying goes) , at least in my class. The only patterns i observed so far (one week in) are these:

-during courses (all students from that year are present), the interaction is minimal and usually between those that already know each other

-during the breaks , most people stay inside and interact, people that smoke get out and socialize (i am part of those, but there are many more guys than girls that smoke), the exception is when classes switch, then the particular class stays/interacts outside

- during seminars there is only one group/class present - and mine has about equal sex distribution, with , i assume many girls having boyfriends (because they are native to that city) with some girls not being worth talking to because of various reasons (like having bad attitude)

Anyone have any experience with rejection within a small gossipy community? Does it work the way i think it does?

Also many people are pretty shitty (think white trash) so i can't just exactly be friendly with everyone, i have to select a group or two and be social with those, i don't know if the girls or the guys, so far only the guys since i'm rarely present in class during breaks.

Any ideas how to carefully go about social game or even approaches in this envoirment?

Post: #2

Think about engineering acceptance, not avoiding rejection.

Gaining rejection and acceptance inevitably go together.

Actually, the more you do to gain acceptance, the MORE rejection you will get, so you could
actually make getting rejected a goal, that would be more effective than avoiding it, but it forms a poor
foundation for tactics.

And you used the word "carefully" Girls don't like careful guys, careful guys won't kill the enemies or hunt the game their babies need.

Post: #3

I guess you have managed to find one of those situation where you either get a ltr or wait until you graduate to game...

Post: #4

(10-12-2013 08:32 AM)iknowexactly Wrote:  Think about engineering acceptance, not avoiding rejection.

Gaining rejection and acceptance inevitably go together.

Actually, the more you do to gain acceptance, the MORE rejection you will get, so you could
actually make getting rejected a goal, that would be more effective than avoiding it, but it forms a poor
foundation for tactics.

And you used the word "carefully" Girls don't like careful guys, careful guys won't kill the enemies or hunt the game their babies need.

I used carefully as to not become the "creepy guy that hits on girls" or not create a bundle of rejection.

I'll move on to other venues if this is not fruitful , but this scene has the numbers, though like i said it's insular.

Post: #5

(10-12-2013 08:45 AM)Not-found Wrote:  I used carefully as to not become the "creepy guy that hits on girls" or not create a bundle of rejection.

I think it makes sense to not get blown out so much that you
get depressed and stop trying.

But the ONLY way to get more girls than you do now is concrete action, physical action in the world.

For example, you can't actually find out what "creepy" is in this situation until you do some tests.
Being incongruent is one thing to avoid. Only you know what you are genuinely feeling and thinking. TO remain congruent, develop the skill of expressing yourself genuinely, but in a way that doesn't repel.

For instance, if you are really horny, it might work to stare deeply into a girls eyes while talking about the weather-- but if you do it while NOT talking to her at all it might creep her out. I wouldn't even use creepy, it a word for teenage girl morons. You need to think about action not what idiot girls "think".

Actually, I should repeat something I've said before, "Women don't have minds, they have reflexes."

She looks like she's thinking because she talks, but it's like a two year old talks, she's just enjoying the sound of the words more than understanding their meaning. All she really notices is how popular and cool you are. Witness Hitler surrounded by throngs of glazed-eyes, enraptured women.

When you're dealing with a woman you're dealing with a skittish animal that has no idea what you're thinking, as it can't think itself. It can be shepherded into a mood where it wants sex however.

She knows on a general level you want sex, but she gets more or less completely distracted by that when talking, as talking is about all
she can manage intellectually.

Dealing with them is more like doing a ski jump than playing chess. Primarily physical action based on relying on your inner instincts with moments of overcoming fear, more than studying, studying, studying until you pass an intellectual test.

You might try reframing rejection as important experimental results.

Post: #6

One idea is to just build your social circle first, and worry about the rest later. Become friends with anyone you can -- girls and guys.. Then host parties at your place or organize people to go out to an event (party, whatever). You'll DHV over time, and you'll have such a big social circle that you can easily just go for any of the girls in your circle or close to it.