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eidt

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Maybe she isn't interested.

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Sure. But then I don't get why I got deleted. Or why she tried to flirt.

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Your second txt was huge compared to her answer. Also if you know she deleted you, why are you rewarding her with qualification and kind comments? She must ask herself why you arent at least pissed off, or if you are gay.

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Well, the "indifferent" part is hidden a little bit... it is in the phrase "Take care" (or "Take care of yourself...") Now this, coming from a woman, is seemingly nice, but it can also be the kiss of death.

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(10-03-2010 04:03 PM)rumguzzler Wrote:  Who gets pissed off at being deleted from facebook? I liked it. It means she's getting emotional. In game, indifference is the worst. Love/Hate are almost equally good

Nah - I'm not rewarding her, I didn't respond to her flirtatious behavior at all, which might've been a mistake. She wrote me a 3 page email and I basically rejected her ass, so I've regained my dignity.

What I don't understand is why she didn't respond to the last - is it because of a lack of interest as BadStuber said? I fear so. That would be indifference. And that is the last thing I want.

But I'm beginning to think so. Crap.

Better luck next time, I guess - but if anyone has any tips for what I can do for this particular situation towards her, that'd be appreciated.

You make a point about the love/hate, but remember that a LJBFed guy who makes a sexual move will be hated too...

About the rewarding, I didnt want to sound condescendant but thats really what I see. "Hope it lives your expectation", "wich is great !" , "good to hear from you", "thanks", "tell me how its doing", I simply never use those, especially if you are not sure of the interest of the girl... You were making a second attempt right?

Good point Chaz, but a girl asking me "Are you doing well?" is already a red flag to me... (boring plain talk)

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One thing that looked like a double entendre was her mention "You should have asked me-- you could have had a private teacher."

Surface-wise that's suggestive and sexy--maybe if you've been ignoring her, but things were salvageable, that would have been the time call her on it? Like "Good idea how about a private lesson Friday?"

Or, it could have been a veiled dig? The subtext being "You've blown it by ignoring and humiliating me, now you won't get any."

I think at some point maybe you made your disinterest TOO obvious and she felt like she lost face, especially with her friends if they discussed the situation like you tooled her. I think there's a balance between try-hard and being aggressively and totally indifferent.

Maybe another female paradox?-- They want to wonder if they've got you but also to be able to tell their friends " He's really into me."

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Though many painful experiences I've found chicks somehow manage to sugar-coat rejection to the degree it's basically unrecognizable-- unless you start watching what they DO instead of what they SAY.

What she's doing- is not writing back; which speaks much louder than words.

I produce independent movies, with little funds, and I deal with this constantly ( and understandably because I can't pay much). I have to harass actresses again and again-- they KNOW my status is relatively low, but they know theirs is too-- so they HAVE to get back to me eventually because no one else is hiring them at all, even for free, and my scripts are actually pretty decent.

When they DO get back to me, it's all flowery shit they can't possibly mean or I wouldn't have had to email them three times to get a response. Women think sweet talk is being nice, talk you or I would think of as totally insincere and even insulting.

With sex, there's ALWAYS another guy waiting, she just doesn't have to get back to you ever if it helps her maintain her [possible fantasy] self-image as desirable.

I hope I'm wrong-- if you get back with her please post and tell us how you did it.

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You showed to much interest. I would not have messaged her first. Then if she messaged me i would keep it real short and quick and make out like im very busy and have alot going on. Exciting things ect ect.

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guys dont waste much time or play games when it comes to women. by u messaging her and sending lengthy convo's it was clear indication of interest on your part (atleast in her eyes).

once she deleted me i would have never messaged her, and if she messaged me i would make her feel that she is not worth my time or energy or on my level. not in a mean obvious way but in one where she can take a hint.

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(10-04-2010 06:04 PM)rumguzzler Wrote:  I dated this girl for about half a year before we went our seperate ways when she left to go traveling - I reckon she fell pretty hard for me.

A small detail indeed.

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Damn. Never would've thunk it.

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I think you guys were right!

New piece of info came to light today that basically confirmed you in your filthy PUA-suspicions

Welcome to chum-city!

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elaborate! lol

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