Post: #176

I would also do PM especially for people with Aspie kind of problems that I have suffered in the past. I think game is all good if you're a normal but shy guy but where there are major social awareness problems it needs special strategies to help.

Post: #177

Here is an idea. Everyone can try.

I want to tell you the last story from yesterday and the one I am most proud of. It's the one where I didn't pickup the girl.

A fairly attractive blonde girl walked into the Starbucks. As she look around we briefly locked eyes for a moment. I could immediately tell she was attracted to me on some minimal level. She got her drink and went to sit at the only open table available which was two tables down from me. There was a college guy studying at the table between me and her. To talk to her my only option was to get up and walk over to her table. I did just that but she was on her iPad looking up something so I just continued on the bathroom. On my way back as I was approaching her I noticed the college guy checking her out. I slowed down...was he going to make a move? I knew if I did he wouldn't and I am always willing to step back from girl if a regular guy is willing to approach her. So I decided to give him a chance and just continued back to my table. It took him about 15 minutes but he did eventually opened her by asking about her perfume. They had a good five minutes chat and I thought it went well but then he suddenly ended it and thanked her for the perfume info. I was perplexed. Why didn't he close her? I tapped him on the shoulder and asked him. He was like, I know but I don't think she was interested in me. I said, she was interested in you believe me. You should have asked her for number. Here was a good looking, buff, tattooed up college guy who was afraid to close a girl. This happens all the time. Guys will approach a girl and then talk themselves out of closing her one way or another. It drives me nuts! Finally, some older guy came and sat down with her. From the conversation he was some friend of the family. Definitely no sexual thing happening here. I told the college guy this and he agreed. I said well, now it's going to be more difficult to close her but I tell you what. If you don't do it, I will. He now had a carrot and stick. He packed up because he had to leave but just sat there trying to find the courage to do it. I told him exactly what to say. (Tell her you have to leave and it was nice meeting her and lets stay in touch.) He sat there. I said to him, if you allow her to walk out of here you will regret it for the rest of this year. Even if you ask her out and she rejects you, you won't feel as bad as you will if you don't plus if you don't I will. He knew what I was saying was true and I knew he was close to doing it. Suddenly the girl got up and started to leave. He didn't know what to do. I could see the panic on his face. As she was leaving she turned back and said bye. I told him, go. He jumped up and went after her. He asked her for her email address to send her some information about some class. She was a bit confused but give it to him. As she walked out she looked back at me, wondering what role I had played in all of this. The guy came back and got his things. He was both relieved and proud of himself. He said, thanks man for pushing me. I am going to email her sometime this week. I said to him, not this week tonight. He smiled and left and as I watched him walked out with his head high and proud I remembered when I use to feel that way...

I do this all the time. Everywhere I go. I consider it a public service, and for me, it's more fun than picking up girls. And I would encourage everyone on here to at least try it once. I hope I see one of them again, so I can find out what happened.

Post: #178

I can get in with all you ATLiens.

I don't think I'm qualified to be a mentor but I'd
Definitely make a good accountability partner or member of a support system.

Post: #179

(06-15-2014 01:22 PM)Cobra Wrote:  

(08-13-2013 05:12 PM)Cobra Wrote:  I could use some help; I'm in Chicago ... approach anxiety is my enemy even though conversational and social ability is not.

(08-17-2013 04:43 PM)Nomad77 Wrote:  Have you read this information on this thread and any books?

I realized I posted this a little while back. Back then I had just begun to take the red pill and wasn't ready to answer this question or show what I've been doing myself. However, Since then, I have improved a lot myself regarding mindset, lifestyle, approaches, dress style and reading material. I have also made a proactive effort to meet as many members as I can and have spoken with quite a few on the phone especially Giovonny who has been very gracious with his time. The journey continues.

My main go to's have been this forum, Bang, Day Bang and Alpha Playboy (CMQ). I'm a somewhat open book on the forum regarding what I've done and my approaches are logged into the approach thread. So I'm doing the work.

I'm in the Chicago area and willing to drive a few hours to meet if any of the experienced cats can help with game and can observe me and let me observe them. I even go to the NYC area quite a bit. In July, I may even be able to fly out as well if it works with people's dates.

In return, I can offer style tips and point you to the right deals, especially regarding blazers/suits. I even would be happy to go shopping with you, try shit on, let you know how it fits and maybe head to a tailor if that's necessary. Also can provide lifestyle advice for younger cats (resume, interviewing etc.) and assistance regarding the Accounting/Finance Industry including any information I can get through my network I built up if you're into that.

Attempting not to sound like a broken record again.

I realized something. I should be offering more in return to an experienced member of the forum that has the knowledge to observe and critique me. From an experienced player's standpoint, they would be making a conscious and active effort out of their normal routine to help me, even having less of a good time in the process. That's worth something more.

So let me add that I would be willing to compensate people for their time. I was actually looking into boot camps for this but I'd rather pay a forum member for one on one coaching. Problem is I'm not able to find too many experienced cats in the Chicago area that also have the time. Those that have given me the time, I've appreciated a great deal.

So let me say that I'll travel as well but shorter distance is obviously easier. Some place like NYC would be easy as I have family there.

I'm at about 60+ approaches. Some people suggest I wait for coaching until my intermediate game gets better. Problem is, I don't even know what that would be like. What I'm saying is that I may already be close to getting there. I don't have glaring social inadequacies and I'm a fairly outgoing social person. So with a few minor tweaks and consistent application of those tweaks over time, I am confident I can get there. I can feel it. I could just use the help. I've really been holding back believing that I'd be putting myself out there too much. BUT that's the spirit of game AND the forum. Likewise, I'll never know unless I ask.

I'm already reaching out to those I've met or know already. If you don't have the time, that's completely cool.

I have documented a subset of my approaches in the approach thread if someone wants to take a look. Also my threads, posts and rep points will speak for themselves.

So, those that want to develop an aspiring player that's willing to pound the pavement and work for it, please reach out to me through PM. Chicago or NYC preferably, but anywhere for that matter if we can make it work.

Post: #180

I'd like to talk to someone about hitting a slump in my game. I have been in a sexual dry spell for most of summer (the horniest month ) with many failed attempts from girls who turned out to be false positives andd I feel like my logistics and my aggressiveness has plummeted to zero, along with family problems. I went from having a lot of success to NONE. I'm not being a troll but I'm hitting a slump that has me worried and I know it's aggressiveness and follow up.

I am taking action:

Started hitting the gym hard again
Meditating
Approaching at least one girl a day
Working towards getting my own place

You can pm me if it's necessary.

Post: #181

If you don't find anyone let me know.

Post: #182

I was reading Roosh's book and I got upset with myself that I haven't been putting out enough road work. He would go out to clubs and just watch his prey and open and qualify.

I haven't done this enough and I need to start hitting up solo bars/clubs (since I'm now mobile) and checking out the market there.

Initially upon moving to the States my biggest thing was finance cos my mentality just doesn't work with simpering to the lizards when my own shyt isn't in order.

Slowly, with the help of el mechanico, it's starting to fall into place. I've had a decent amount of hits with minimal work put in. I do want to put in some graft (work) and maybe expand my branch to other types so I can mention some strategies etc.

I will say that my target niche is hugely in my favour so my results may not be realistic compared to those in a market that is indifferent to them.

Post: #183

I am new here and would appreciate it if anyone has time to mentor me via PM...
I am 25, graduating in a month or so and moving out of my parent's house. Finally I am getting some logistics so I am going to step up my game. I never had an influential masculine figure in my life to talk about girls. My friends are mostly betas in LTRs with 5s, and virgins, so I am alone in my game journey.

Post: #184

Go ahead and PM me any questions you have.

Post: #185

Is there any one in Houston, who is willing to mentor me on this, I have had the same issues like nomad77 pointed out about closing the game and getting the girls number...a lot of times I wait too long and don't make an approach and lose the opportunity. some help would be really nice. Thanks

Post: #186

(07-09-2014 12:56 AM)iceman111011 Wrote:  Is there any one in Houston, who is willing to mentor me on this, I have had the same issues like nomad77 pointed out about closing the game and getting the girls number...a lot of times I wait too long and don't make an approach and lose the opportunity. some help would be really nice. Thanks

I can, but the problem is when I tried sending you a PM it would not let me. Says PMs are disabled for you. Enable PMs first.

Post: #187

Okay I'm trying to figure it out how I can activate it!

Post: #188

(07-07-2014 12:44 PM)simondice Wrote:  I'd like to talk to someone about hitting a slump in my game. I have been in a sexual dry spell for most of summer (the horniest month ) with many failed attempts from girls who turned out to be false positives andd I feel like my logistics and my aggressiveness has plummeted to zero, along with family problems. I went from having a lot of success to NONE. I'm not being a troll but I'm hitting a slump that has me worried and I know it's aggressiveness and follow up.

I am taking action:

Started hitting the gym hard again
Meditating
Approaching at least one girl a day
Working towards getting my own place

You can pm me if it's necessary.

Talked to simondice the other day about what was going on. In the end, I was getting mentored lmao. Honestly if you have the vibe and attitude to even mentor me on one of your down days I think you're fine. Just need a bit of optimism.

At the moment I do need a mentor to talk too a bit more about some personal emotional issue I've been having as of late. Also I'm open to any guys who need mentoring on their frame of need help with some base game. I'm always down to help.

Post: #189

Great video from Elliot Hulse on why we men need mentors, thought this would be a good place to post it

Post: #190

Anyone in the philly area able to meet up and shoot some shit? I could use some help with inner game.

Post: #191

I think I need more mentoring in career choices and getting motivated (which has been fucking hard as of late).

Post: #192

I could really use a mentor, doesn't have to be local.

Post: #193

I could really use a mentor. As you can tell by my posts, I'm really contemplative about all aspects of my life -- particularly, women, game and self.

I don't want to give away too much of my history; but I have a history of stress and OCD, which debilitate my mind when I dwell on women. I am in the process of tasting a ton of girls, but I currently rely on different to take my mind off of women I enjoy rather than to experience different women for the appreciation of experience. If someone understands what I'm saying, personal advice would be appreciated.

Post: #194

You can either post questions directly on here on feel free to communicate with me or someone else via PM.

Post: #195

At the moment I need a mentor in the lifestyle department as I've just graduated from uni and have no clue of what to do next, i.e. travel, get a job etc. and could do with someone who knows what they're talking about, and just need help figuring out some sort of plan of my next steps.

Any help would be useful and maybe I can help you out somehow.

Post: #196

(08-05-2014 12:32 AM)Nomad77 Wrote:  You can either post questions directly on here on feel free to communicate with me or someone else via PM.

Thank you, Nomad. I will write up something and PM you. Much appreciated.