Post: #1

http://shine.yahoo.com/love-sex/girlfrie...00690.html

"It's not every day that you see a fit guy dating a bigger girl.

So when my girlfriend Gloria Shuri Nava wrote an essay about being overweight and dating a fit guy for Yahoo! Shine, I expected some controversy. What I didn't expect were people talking about our relationship all over the world—even the ladies on The View had an opinion!

Living in Scotland, I saw the story before Gloria— it went live while she was still asleep in San Fransisco. In just a few hours, it got a crazy number of comments (today, there are almost 12,000) and shares on Facebook (3,000 and counting).

Gloria and I deal with prejudice on a daily basis, so we had braced ourselves for an onslaught of harsh comments. But surprisingly, the first batch was overwhelmingly positive. There were notes of encouragement from other plus-sized women and thinner men who said they found nothing odd about us as a couple.

Then the negative comments started piling up: "She is a pig." "[Together] They look like a number 10" and "I guess her guy is into BBWs-Big, beached whales."

My knee-jerk reaction was to protect Gloria. It's funny: When someone says something disparaging about me—about my ginger hair or pale skin or Glaswegian accent—it doesn't bother me. But when I read cruel comments about Gloria, they get under my skin. I hated the idea of her excitedly waking up to read the article and then reading the mean comments. But that girl has thick skin. She realizes that those comments say more about the people making them than they do about her. Instead, she focuses on the fact that, in going public with our story, she's hopefully making things better not just for us, but for other couples who feel ostracized.

I've always dated bigger women. They're who I find attractive, the same as some prefer blondes or women who are petite. Yet society says this is strange - well, I think that's strange. I remember back in 2010 when I told a friend I was falling for Gloria and she replied, "You can't say that, Ali—that's mean. Don't joke about that." When I said I was serious, she said, "I just never expected it, because you're so into going to the gym everyday, and what you find attractive is the opposite of you." Why do people say, "Opposites attract" when a couple has different personalities, but in regard to physical differences, it's considered unusual?

The fact is Gloria and I have so much in common. We feel the same way about our families - they are the most important people in our lives. Our parents taught us the value of hard work and good morals, and how we should conduct ourselves and treat other people. We also share an idiosyncratic sense of humor —we find things funny that other people don't. But whereas Gloria can be controversial in her humor and get away with it (anyone who's watched her videos on her YouTube channel Glowpinkstah, knows what I'm talking about), I can't. I'm awkward in that sense.

While I fell hard for Gloria after getting to know her, I'm not going to lie: I was initially attracted to her because of how she looks. When I came across her picture on Twitter, I was drawn to the shape of her face and her smile—she has such a captivating smile! And her eyes have this amazing sparkle to them. She is just so incredibly beautiful. When people say Gloria's lucky, I say, "I'm the luckier one."

After I saw her photo, I started reading her Tumblr posts. In one, she wrote that she longed to meet someone with whom she could have a friendship with first, then hopefully that would blossom into love. That intrigued me, because I'd always wanted the same thing.

Still, I never thought we'd fall in love. People may say, "You can't fall in love over the Internet," and I probably felt the same way before it happened to me. For a while, I second-guessed my feelings. I've not met her, so I don't know what she's like in person-can this really be love? But when you're with someone who understands you in every way possible, you know it's real.

That first time we met was when I came to visit Gloria in San Francisco, two and a half years after we began talking. As soon as I stepped off the plane, I felt like I was arriving home. I was so nervous-not scared, but anxious with anticipation. I had wanted for so long to feel her in my arms, to give her a hug. It was even better than I'd expected. As soon as I hugged her, I felt completely safe, relaxed. It didn't feel like I was meeting her for the first time - it felt like we had been apart for a really long while, and we were finally being reunited.

Now I'm counting the days until I move to California to pursue a PhD in Clinical Psychology. Gloria also decided to lose weight and I support her because she wants to and in the long run, it's a good thing for her health. But in terms of our relationship, there's no need for Gloria to become skinny.

People ask if Gloria and I are going to get married. I will say this: I've always felt that the best marriages are between people who are best friends. Having that foundation is everything. The advice I give to others is that you should always look for your best friend, because things could flourish and lead to something you might have never expected. It may actually take you by surprise that what you've always looked for might be right in front of you."

Post: #2

Quote:"But that girl has thick skin."

Post: #3

Quote:I was initially attracted to her because of how she looks. When I came across her picture on Twitter, I was drawn to the shape of her face and her smile—she has such a captivating smile! And her eyes have this amazing sparkle to them. She is just so incredibly beautiful.

No positive features below the first chin?

"I'd hate myself if I had that kind of attitude, if I were that weak." - Arnold

Post: #4

This boy has mental problems or is riding the hamster directly into the ground.

Post: #5

Is Ali a Scotch name?

Post: #6

...No words can express how much of a gender sellout this guy is.
Now every land whale and her friend will be thinking they deserve a fit looking guy...

These are the end of days my friend.

Post: #7

what do you mean this twig is a fit guy? as in he isn't morbidly obese or that he knows when to stop when he's ordering at a McD's drive thru?

Post: #8

He's mentally ill.

Post: #9

Stop talking bad about mentally ill people. I just figured he was gay and using the fat chick as his beard.

OK I remember this story: they met online and live far away from each other. I am guessing the guy in this article has very poor social skills.

Post: #10

I know this well built 6'0 guy, really good face......bangs fatties and ugly chicks when he is way better than me.
I tell him " you get girls appraoching you, why go for fatties ?" and his response, " I am more attracted to the personality of the girl, your being too judgmental of my standards, I don't judge you" .
Common blue pill thinking that frustrates the hell out of me and makes me feel bad that someone like him is selling himself short.
I did not go further because there is a respect for boundaries you have and I suspect he actually has a thing for fat chicks, but too embarrased to admit it.

Post: #11

Only in America™

Post: #12

The happy couple ...


Here's her Tumbler: http://glowpinkstah.tumblr.com/

Post: #13

Good for him. Say what you will about the decline of the Western civilization and I will say this: the more guys going for the fatties the better if it means fewer guys out of the real market.

Post: #14

The guy is an 8 and she is barely a 2.

He is spitting on his own masculinity.

Post: #15

Let's break down this male hamster, shall we?

Quote:But whereas Gloria can be controversial in her humor and get away with it (anyone who's watched her videos on her YouTube channel Glowpinkstah, knows what I'm talking about), I can't. I'm awkward in that sense.

Guy lacks confidence.

Quote:Still, I never thought we'd fall in love. People may say, "You can't fall in love over the Internet," and I probably felt the same way before it happened to me. For a while, I second-guessed my feelings. I've not met her, so I don't know what she's like in person-can this really be love? But when you're with someone who understands you in every way possible, you know it's real.

Falls in love over the internet - this is lesser beta and omega territory.

Quote:That first time we met was when I came to visit Gloria in San Francisco, two and a half years after we began talking.

Talks to girl online for 2.5 years before meeting her. Do I even need to elaborate on how little sexual choice this guy has that he would go this route?

Quote:As soon as I hugged her, I felt completely safe, relaxed.

Not comfortable in his own skin. Needs a woman to feel 'safe' and 'relaxed'???

Quote:Now I'm counting the days until I move to California to pursue a PhD in Clinical Psychology.

Moving to where the girl lives. Normally, I'd count this against him, but he is moving from Scotland to California, so we'll call this a wash.

Quote:Gloria also decided to lose weight and I support her because she wants to and in the long run, it's a good thing for her health.

Gloria has figured out what a loser her boyfriend is and has decided to get in shape to upgrade.

Post: #16

It's productive to learn from other men's mistakes. Obviously, this guy is massively selling himself short. It's analogous to a high IQ son of particle physicists choosing a lifelong career as a Walmart cashier.

The one thing that really annoys me about this guy is that he's obviously trolling other men by bragging about his gf and making it into a political crusade.

But in the end, he's an adult man and can make his choices. Moreover, as bizarre as his choice is, there's also something perverse about demanding that other men choose their mates based upon other guys preferences.

Post: #17

(07-16-2013 11:43 AM)assman Wrote:  

Quote:Gloria also decided to lose weight and I support her because she wants to and in the long run, it's a good thing for her health.

Gloria has figured out what a loser her boyfriend is and has decided to get in shape to upgrade.

After using him to get her 15 seconds of fame.

Post: #18

One of her posts:

YOU CANNOT TELL IF A PERSON IS UNHEALTHY BY THE WAY THAT THEY LOOK.

Ok now that I have your attention I will elaborate

I can’t express enough how ok I am with being a big person. The only reason I want to lose weight is to keep a healthier lifestyle than I’ve had before. People who don’t know me (and sometimes people who DO know me) think they know more about my body and health than I do. If you are not my doctor, then don’t try to diagnose me.

I had a check up recently and my doctor was like “Oh get some blood work done." She wanted to see if my health was ok so of course I was ok with that. So I was like lalala *walks in to the lab, gets my blood drawn, and leaves* then I got my results a couple days later… I do NOT have diabetes, my cholesterol is LOW, my blood pressure is EXCELLENT, and everything else is within RANGE and NOWHERE NEAR THE DANGER ZONE.

When I got my results I just smiled to myself because:

1. I already knew I was perfectly fine.
2. People should really mind their own business cuz like it says up top YOU CANNOT TELL IF A PERSON IS UNHEALTHY BY THE WAY THEY LOOK.

Everyone has their off days/weeks/months in their “diets" and I know for sure if someone asks me if I wanted animal fries I’d open my mouth and let them gravitate towards me… but I maintain, for the most part, a very healthy diet. I’m just FAT. I like FOOD. But I never let myself get back to square one. So just keep that in mind!

The End <3

Post: #19

This is what drives me crazy about some on the left. The constant self congratulation. OK, your gf weighs more than you, happy life. Nope, they have to write about how above it they are and pat themselves on the back.

If you wanna troll the left just tell them that negatively judging your lifestyle choice of fucking hotties is bigotry.

Post: #20

http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2013/06/1...and-whale/

Post: #21

Quote:1. I already knew I was perfectly fine.
2. People should really mind their own business cuz like it says up top YOU CANNOT TELL IF A PERSON IS UNHEALTHY BY THE WAY THEY LOOK.

Go run a lap around your kitchen and see how long it takes before you're seizing up on the floor from an asthma attack, because surly those big macs have all but crushed your wind pipes.

Post: #22

Does he even lift

Post: #23

Which one of these is not like the others?

Post: #24

He "met" her over twitter......

Post: #25

He's gay and she makes a great beard.