Post: #1

Hey playas, I posted this over at Roissy's blog, but those comments degenerated into something else completely:

My office complex is now owned by a local University, who decided to move their Graduate programs into two of the four buildings. The main consequence of this is that there is now a shared cafeteria. Yes, you read that correctly – myself and 1,000 of my fellow corporate slaves eat alongside a couple hundred 20 – 24-year-old supple grad students. I’ll leave the specific University nameless, but the graduate programs housed here are nursing, speech therapy and the like, meaning about 90-95% of the students are female.

I’m a decent looking guy, and most days I dress to impress. However, most of these girls are eating and talking with each other in large groups (5-10 each), which is making it hard for me to approach.

What should I do in this situation? What are some good openers, and when should they be deployed? In line paying for my grub seems like a good place, where I can flash some bling and comment on their choice of meal. This is a HUGE untapped resource that I MUST exploit!

Post: #2

Dude just go for it, I know it's always good to have some tact, but at a certain point there's never going to be a perfect situation and opener. It's something that myself and a lot of guys get caught up on, when you see the perfect girl you want to talk to, but your mind's drawing a blank trying to think of the perfect opening line, and then poof, she's gone and you don't see her again.

You got the right idea, situational openers are an easy and convenient way to open a chick, you're next to her in line for food, look for something to comment on, she's wearing a woven bracelet that looks like it from Oaxaca, ask her about it, it could lead into a great conversation, or maybe she's carry a book, ask her if it's any good, etc., etc. It's amazing how there can be so much "material" for us to work with, but sometimes we just fall short, can't think of anything to say, or just get anxiety and psych ourselves out. Other times, I'm scanning the girl like a computer trying to think of something to say, but there really just anything clever to comment on or say, in this situation, unless it's someone you will see somewhat regular, you can always just initiate convo with something friendly like "hows it going, are you a grad student, etc."

Anyways, I'm pretty much just stating the obvious here, you know what you got to do, and got your work cut out. Just don't be that obvious sleazy guy that approaches girls like a machine, and tries to be overly direct or hitting up every girl and their mom for a phone #... If these are girls that you'll see on a regular basis, then maybe it's a good idea to "plant some seeds", start friendly and indirect, if she shows any interest through body language or IOIs then continue to initiate convo with her every time you see her, build on each convo, and build comfort, as well as step up flirting and sexual innuendo, after a few weeks you may find yourself eating lunch with her, taking her out on dates, and tapping that ass.

Post: #3

(09-07-2010 09:51 PM)Maniero Wrote:  What are some good openers, and when should they be deployed? In line paying for my grub seems like a good place, where I can flash some bling and comment on their choice of meal. This is a HUGE untapped resource that I MUST exploit!

Make sure that you don't get in line unless it's behind a girl that you want to talk to. Meal choices are an awesome neg. I have been doing that recently in fast food lineups. If I am at McDonalds, which is rare, I might say something like "You know McDonalds is bad for you, right?"

Post: #4

"Dude just go for it, I know it's always good to have some tact, but at a certain point there's never going to be a perfect situation and opener."

Well said. Listen to some Young MC: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xgja0dHn1...re=related

The longer you wait, the more you will choke.

Like one Ese from East Los once told me: "Don't just think about it holmes. Do it!"

(When he told me that it wasn't in regards to girls, it was something way more sinister, but the quote still applies here.)

Post: #5

Definitely open with something situational/natural, even if it's something as simple as making a comment about her lunch.

Post: #6

Hehe well depends, maybe you should actually pick up something about what it is they study, start with some mediocre chicks and get alot of info about the educations, so you can come of sincere and interested in how long they are and make subtle yet intriguingly correct observation, also putting their value down in a scientific manner..

I had this talk with a girl I had seen in my study, kinda cute, but nothing special, I just saw her after several years abscent and asked her about her study, not because I was overly interested, but because its always nice to know alot of chicks, who see you as a nice guy.
She switched to medicine from molecular biology and at some point in the conversation she goes "its alot better" "I go oh really, my doctor friends whine pretty hard about the life a new doctors" topic closed.

Money isnt as good a status in academics revenues especially ppl studying are insecure as hell and will cling to anything superior... get a PhD and even though the wagers is kinda lousy compared to the work put into obtaining it, you will get my point.


I love uni chicks

Post: #7

(09-07-2010 10:11 PM)OGNorCal707 Wrote:  If these are girls that you'll see on a regular basis, then maybe it's a good idea to "plant some seeds"

Totally agree with this. Grad girls are a pretty close knit group. If one of them get's the creeper vibe the news spreads like wildfire. Just take your time make conversation, plant seeds, and when the vibe is right invite her out. If you spot her away from her friends then make a bold move.

Or if you're on the level just start joking with her and her friends in the cafe and take it from there.

Post: #8

Did you say that this is a recent change? That is, until now, your cafeteria did not contain these students? In fact, until now you were having a jolly good time until these students INVADED?

I'd go with this one, playfully. Ask one of them casually if there are any more such huge invasions being planned (i.e. more incoming departments), as you are seriously concerned about there being any space left for the corporate slaves! In fact, you can mention how company productivity is slowing down because all your coworkers are just thinking about these chicks all day.

Of course, any old approach will work here. Say hi, get a friend, share a table with 2 chicks, comment on the food, the facilities, the faculty, the dichotomy between the hopeful students and the jaded corporate worker, blah blah. Just don't come off as the creepy guy who tries talking to all the girls - get into one of their groups first.

*Disclaimer: don't take any pickup line advice from me too seriously. Often I get carried away with non-PC comments and go overboard to the point that the chicks think I'm weird - I just can't bring myself to care half the time unless she's really really hot. You have a great chance at the "I don't shit where I eat" line here!

Post: #9

Yeah, this is a recent change.

I feel like its hard to not give off a creeper vibe in this situation, basically because the majority of the corporate stiffs these girls see are 50-year-olds and IT guys from India.

I've been making a point to have my car windows down in the morning blasting Top 20-type music as I roll into work and stop for all the girls crossing the parking lot. Thinking maybe once I actually go up to one of these hotties they'll recognize me.

Post: #10

"I've been making a point to have my car windows down in the morning blasting Top 20-type music as I roll into work and stop for all the girls crossing the parking lot. Thinking maybe once I actually go up to one of these hotties they'll recognize me."

I don't think blasting "Top 20-type music" is going to get the girls to notice you, and if so maybe for the wrong reasons, in my experience girls like that kind of music when they're dancing at a club, but if you're bumping Lady Gaga and Katy Perry in your car, they'll probably think that's weak. I like to bump my music full blast when I roll around town, but that's just how I roll, I do think that sometimes guys that do it, may look a little "try hard" like they are trying to get noticed.