Post: #1

I was hanging out with a buddy Tuesday night, talking about girls and due to a recent failure the conversation shifted to girls I "should've" banged. When I say this, I don't mean girls that I should've pursued harder (or at all), I mean girls that I had in bed, half naked or more, and somehow dropped the ball.

As I started to think back further, I became more and more frustrated with myself for all the girls I let slip away, probably because in each instance I didn't push hard enough to get sex. Then once the moment had passed, future chances were diminished due to potential awkwardness or the loss of that "spur of the moment fun" feeling. Hell, even my first girlfriend I should've banged on the first night we hung out, and then after that it took me over a month to get more than a freakin' handjob!

So, step one, of course, is recognizing the issue. Step two is fixing it. Should I be pushing harder? I feel any girl that is willing to take some or all of her clothes off in any bed with you, is probably DTF. Is there some trick I'm missing? Is there something in Bang I should read that really covers this? Help! I want future regrets to be rooted in banging every girl, not in letting so many slip through my fingers.

My only other theory is I had a lot of one nightstands in college, and rule of numbers suggests that I'd have girls flake out too? But that sounds like a lame reason, and I think I can fix this problem and be happier with myself.

Post: #2

Dude if a girl is naked in your bed and is not DTF, then you need to politely ask her to leave. I'd say 95% of the time they are, and if you're not having sex, it's probably because you fucked up. Just be aggressive, but not too aggressive, I used to be way more timid, and like you had lot's of opportunities pass by, just because I was being a pussy. We're trying to fuck pussy, not be pussies, you know what I mean. Lead the interaction, take off her shirt, bra, then work down to the panties. I still get token resistance from some girls, but it's obviously bullshit, like "I'm not going to have sex with you", while I'm fingering her in my bed taking off my clothes. Another thing, I was always timid about taking off girls clothes, and getting naked myself. Always make sure you get these girls nice and horny with foreplay, lot's of making out, kissing/sucking/licking their necks/ears/breasts, I can think of a few times where the girl gave lot's of LMR and had I reverted to my beta ways would have given up and taken it slow, but not any more I just push through it an get them so horny that they give in. I think if you do the opposite of being to timid and try to go straight for sex right away, you could blow opportunites, by not easing in a little more slowly.

Post: #3

Ya, I'm sure what I've got is token resistance, and I just need to plow through that with more foreplay. Pretty much affirms everything I was thinking, just a lack of aggression (sigh, being a pussy) on my part. I've never been timid about taking off any girl's clothes, or my own though, I just didn't want it to ever seem like I was raping the girl, but that's mainly because I can be a re-tard at times.

On the plus side, it won't be an issue next time.