Post: #11676

Thanks for the advice and agree on moving on. Obviously I'll still see her every week so I assume I should just act like how I normally did before this or should I just make it strictly staff/guest from here on out? Personally I'd say former since the latter reeks of hurt.

Post: #11677

There was an old Patrice O'Neal bit, talking about what women want vs. what men want, and he says something along the lines of:

"I don't need a girl who can read. If she can't read, I'll teach her. I'm looking for a girl not a teacher."

"...if she can't drive, I'll teach her to drive. I'm not looking for a chauffeur."

Can anyone find this clip? I quote it all the time but I can't remember where it's from. Thanks in advance

Post: #11678

Numbers game.

Post: #11679

Forgot to post this. It happened one day before Xmas eve. A crazy night which ended up with my own auntie commanding me to pick up chicks, my tooth broken, a lot of booze and a random chick in my bed.

I was in my hometown and I go to the ONLY nightlife spot in the town. A small bar but to my surprise with a good DJ, hot chicks but meathead guys drunk off their heads (welcome to Poland). I was with my auntie and uncle from South America - the only foreigner in this bar. So my uncle starts buying me shots, beers and I’m too drunk. I feel sad cos my Latin girl just left to go home to her country after such a good time.

My auntie sees my sad face, slaps me and says: stop being sad, pick up some chicks! In shock, I speak to her husband (my uncle) who tells me I can get any girl in this bar.

So I dance and drink my beer when he pushes my glass bottle - my tooth breaks. Luckily it’s barely noticeable. So then I dance with a blonde Polish girl with blue eyes but she’s a 5... (my drunk ass didn’t care) fast forward to dancing and conversation I convince her to take a taxi home with me.

Before the taxi she says: let’s go get some beer at the gas station. So we did. We ended up at my house - I found out she was was 26 and I 19 - I told her I was 21. I get her in my bed and she dresses down to her panties - I thought I’m gonna get my Polish flag. I start kissing her neck, rubbing my boner on her but she keeps saying no no no. I fall asleep, at 7 am she takes a taxi and says goodbye. I couldn’t overcome the LMR...

Post: #11680

Went down south to visit my parents for the holidays. My pop took me to a breakfast place that he regularly hits up during the week.

We are served by a pretty cute girl with some big tits. Very sweet southern girl.

A little while later, we finished our breakfast and waited for the check.

A different waitress returns with the check and directly says:

Her: "Hey, I have a question for you..."

Me: "Fire away"

Her: "How old are you?"

Me: "29, why do you ask?

Her: "Well, one of the servers was wondering if you were single"

Me: "Haha is that so..."

Her: *Giggles* "Yea, she was helping y'all out earlier. Do you live around here?"

Me: "I don't, I live up in xxx"

Her: "Awwww, well that sucks."

Me: "Well, tell her I'm flattered, and maybe I'll see her around the next time in town."

Her: "Ok, sounds great!"


The woman who originally helped us out was peaking out from the kitchen the entire time the interaction was taking place.

My pop was sitting there with a big shit eating grin the entire time.

If I was going to get back down there in the near future, I would have gotten her number, but I'm not going to waste my time texting a woman who lives 500 miles away. Either way, it felt good to have had that interaction.

Post: #11681

^ how long were you going to be in town for? not enough time for a quickie date/bang?

Post: #11682

(12-26-2018 07:12 PM)robreke Wrote:  ^ how long were you going to be in town for? not enough time for a quickie date/bang?

Unfortunately, I just got back today. It was my last day in town and my pop wanted to take me out to breakfast before I left.

Post: #11683

With my current solid logistics and at least a moderate level of game, I've never managed to bang a bartender despite their being a good number of them within walking distance of where I live (and certainly having tried...and having had "some" social proof).

I always thought it would continue to elude me, that I'd have to really put in a lot of effort and become far more masterful at game to bang a waitress, much less a bartender.

I've been super rusty with game since getting out of a relationship earlier this year, but have slowly been starting to shake the rust off.

Well, I'm on bartender #2 now after discarding bartender #1 (#2 is much hotter). I've heard from/about multiple guys (including attractive ones) that work with her or work at a related bar that were trying their best and couldn't make anything happen. Pretty confidence inspiring.

I was out with her the other night and we ran into this pretty hot bartender chick who is the sister of a guy I know who I could never get to give me the time of day before. She saw me and clearly put 2 and 2 together and made effort to say hi to me. I gave her barely a head raise to acknowledge her and she was totally taken aback. I laughed.

America, fuck yeah!

Post: #11684

I've been seeing a 22 year old Ukranian FOB, solid 8, giving me lots of love, unbelievable sex and smart.

She thinks we're exclusive. I like her but I don't like her enough for long term and I can tell she's getting attached. I'm getting worried on how and when I'm going to drop this bomb on her. I'm not in a rush to end it, but I have a lot of options right now that I'm trying to entertain and I just don't want to be tied down to a chick that I know I don't have a future with.

I've never broken up with a girl before, I just don't know how do to it.

Post: #11685

(01-02-2019 12:34 AM)Graft Wrote:  I've been seeing a 22 year old Ukranian FOB, solid 8, giving me lots of love, unbelievable sex and smart.

She thinks we're exclusive. I like her but I don't like her enough for long term and I can tell she's getting attached. I'm getting worried on how and when I'm going to drop this bomb on her. I'm not in a rush to end it, but I have a lot of options right now that I'm trying to entertain and I just don't want to be tied down to a chick that I know I don't have a future with.

I've never broken up with a girl before, I just don't know how do to it.

Have you tried easing back the contact and attention?

Not responding to as many texts or calls, having alternative plans so you don't see her as often?

Post: #11686

(01-02-2019 08:51 PM)Remington Wrote:  

(01-02-2019 12:34 AM)Graft Wrote:  I've been seeing a 22 year old Ukranian FOB, solid 8, giving me lots of love, unbelievable sex and smart.

She thinks we're exclusive. I like her but I don't like her enough for long term and I can tell she's getting attached. I'm getting worried on how and when I'm going to drop this bomb on her. I'm not in a rush to end it, but I have a lot of options right now that I'm trying to entertain and I just don't want to be tied down to a chick that I know I don't have a future with.

I've never broken up with a girl before, I just don't know how do to it.

Have you tried easing back the contact and attention?

Not responding to as many texts or calls, having alternative plans so you don't see her as often?

I don't want to do it now, but I have considered that as the best course of action. The "fade out."

I just feel so bad, I don't know how women can do this without a conscience to guys they've dated for years. I just met this girl...

Post: #11687

(11-28-2018 03:06 PM)DigitalNomad Wrote:  One of the things in Roosh's new book was too watch an episode of Seinfeld every day.. check out how triggered these millennials get watching it.. fucking nuts. I'd be able to tolerate that Morgon chick for all of about 20 seconds.

They didn't really ask her for a final thought. Probably because they just threw her in there for extra crazy.

Post: #11688

Hi all

I'm trying to find the shit test topic but I couldn't find it, so I'll post here

What is the shit test response to "you must go back to your girl / girlfriend" or "you should find another girl, you must have many" etc?

Thanks

Post: #11689

(01-06-2019 03:56 PM)the_ox Wrote:  Hi all

I'm trying to find the shit test topic but I couldn't find it, so I'll post here

What is the shit test response to "you must go back to your girl / girlfriend" or "you should find another girl, you must have many" etc?

Thanks

Just dealt with the latter a few days prior.

"You must have too many"= Too much playa with not enough provider. In other words, you macked on her too hard and didn't sprinkle in the comfort game she needs to see you as anything more than a meathead trying to get in her pants.

Depends on your natural game style how you respond. I'm a charmer so for something like that I'll flash her a mischievous smile, fake like I'm hurt and tell her that she's the only girl for me with a smile. Will disarm this shit test every time if you have the frame and do it right.

The other one seems more situational.

"You should go back to your girl"= This one I've not heard before, but if you're opening too many extended sets in close proximity to each other, you've got a greater chance of coming off like a creeper if your vibe isn't right.

Best way to adjust is pick your spots. Avoid opening chicks right on top of one another, especially if you're going to slow burn one girl over the course of the night.

Post: #11690

TLDR; GF got upset on New Years Day. I got out of the car and went home. I left her alone for a couple days. I wrote her a message wanting to keep distance. She broke up with me over text then confirmed in a phone conversation. I gave her stuff back. We haven't been in contact for 2 days. My heart is heavy. I plan to keep no contact. I don't want to take her back.

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Just lost the 28 year-old Mexican girl I've been with for the last 10 months.

She got mad because I didn't shake her Dad's hand upon leaving her house on New Years Day - I had simply waved and said goodbye. He was watching football and didn't stand up and extend his, so I thought it wasnt a big deal. She started giving me a lot of attitude about it as we walked to the car and she continued as we were pulling out of the driveway. Annoyed with her antics, I told her I'd rather spend the day alone, so I got out of her car and went home alone and didn't contact her for a few days.

On day 3, I messaged her and said it would be better to still keep some distance. She messaged back telling me she wants to break up. I immediately called her to try to patch things up.

She cried and complained about my behavior and said she didn't want a man who treated her that way. I heard her out and tried to console her as my throat went dry, trying to sweet talk her off the ledge so to speak (without begging or trying to 'convince' her).

Finally, I felt like I had chased enough and asked point-blank if she was sure about wanting to end it.

She haltingly uttered 'yes'.

I told her that there's now nothing more to say. And without a hint of desperation or distress, I told her I loved her, that I adored her, and then ended the conversation telling her that I would have her things ready to pick up.

Maybe it wasn't the 'right' move strategically, but it felt good to speak earnest from the heart without being pathetic.

Early the very next morning I decided to drop her belongings off inside the gate of her house and messaged her to let her know. She messaged to thank me, and since then no contact from either of us.

We had a good thing going, or so I thought. She sewed a pillow case for a xmas gift and also wrote me a decorative note declaring 'all her heart's love' for me. The week prior to the break up, she had picked me up from the airport and doted on me for several days. No fights, no conflict, and a girl in love by the looks of everything.

The last couple days I've been reeling and I've been lifting weights, journaling, walking through the city, and reading through break-up threads on this forum.

I'll keep with the 'no contact' -- if there's anything I can do right with a girl it's that.

I can acknowledge that I mostly fucked up on this one. I also acknowledge that a girl whose really in love will crawl through broken glass to make things right with a man she loves. Was it too much aloofness with an affectionate girl or did I lose my shine? Who knows..

Great girl, but she had some red flags and I don't intend to go back.

Looks like I'm back in the game again.

Post: #11691

Arafat, keep your head up brother. You will come out of this stronger.

I have to ask though - as a Latina, she's very predisposed to being high drama. It sounds like you know this. She is probably going to contact you back at some point. Are you going to maintain no contact?

Or are you going to charge it to the game and start looking elsewhere?

Post: #11692

(01-06-2019 08:43 PM)arafat scarf Wrote:  TLDR; GF got upset on New Years Day. I got out of the car and went home. I left her alone for a couple days. I wrote her a message wanting to keep distance. She broke up with me over text then confirmed in a phone conversation. I gave her stuff back. We haven't been in contact for 2 days. My heart is heavy. I plan to keep no contact. I don't want to take her back.

So she wanted to break up because you wouldn't shake her dad's hand? That's stupid. Good riddance to her, I say. You don't need to put up with petty shit like that.

Post: #11693

(01-07-2019 09:58 AM)[email protected] Wrote:  Arafat, keep your head up brother. You will come out of this stronger.

I have to ask though - as a Latina, she's very predisposed to being high drama. It sounds like you know this. She is probably going to contact you back at some point. Are you going to maintain no contact?

Or are you going to charge it to the game and start looking elsewhere?

Thanks for the words of encouragement. You're right, tough breakups steel you for other tough breakups.

I'd say her contacting me is a coin-flip at this point. She knows that I had a few former exes contacting me while we were together, and she may be too proud to join that group.

Either way, maintaining no contact is generally always the best move and in time, the only thing she'll get is the same thing my other former lovers get: tepid, neutral responses to happy birthday and holiday texts.

Can't take her seriously at this point after the love declarations and the immediate break-up. Also, she's got some other red flags, she's 28 and fast reaching her sell-by date, so not gonna take her back. The effort seems better spent on personal projects and enjoying younger, hotter, tighter for a bit.

It still stings though. The breakup happened about 3 days ago and I'll wake up in the middle of the night with a racing heart and feel heavy at times during the day. Things were going well between us, I've always kept good frame, and there seemed no reason to brace for impact.

And yeah, gotta charge it to the game. I'll get back into a groove, get back my momentum, and for now just some light flirting with other girls.

(01-07-2019 09:58 AM)[email protected] Wrote:  So she wanted to break up because you wouldn't shake her dad's hand? That's stupid. Good riddance to her, I say. You don't need to put up with petty shit like that.

It was due to (a) her perceiving me as not showing proper respect to her family but even more, (b) going absent on her for a few days and suggesting to continue the distance. She said that she'd had enough and that she doesn't want a man that handles problems this way. But when a girl makes the decision to leave you, sometimes you don't know what reasons truly tipped the scale.

Post: #11694

You may feel sad but you don't want to raise kids with such an immature woman.

Post: #11695

This should reinforce just how conditional a woman's love is despite her pleadings to the contrary.

You are correct in that you won't truly know the REAL reason for her actions. Also agree that a woman who is really into you would put in more of an effort to be conciliatory, especially having some time to reflect.

However, you mentioned "red flags" (besides her age which you knew from the start) did you choose to ignore them initially?

Post: #11696

(01-07-2019 02:42 PM)MY DETROIT PLAYAS Wrote:  This should reinforce just how conditional a woman's love is despite her pleadings to the contrary.

The way this one unraveled so unexpectedly is going to leave a scar. But I still love these girls!

(01-07-2019 02:42 PM)MY DETROIT PLAYAS Wrote:  You are correct in that you won't truly know the REAL reason for her actions. Also agree that a woman who is really into you would put in more of an effort to be conciliatory, especially having some time to reflect.

However, you mentioned "red flags" (besides her age which you knew from the start) did you choose to ignore them initially?

I never truly ignored them. More like deciding to indulge in her girliness and femininity despite them. I allowed myself to become infatuated, while keeping her at arm's length and knowing what I was getting into.

Played with fire, now lightly burned, but it was worth it.

She had her charms and virtues and they were enjoyable while they (we) lasted.

Post: #11697

+3 for the week

Friday, 22 year old middle eastern/indian, 7

Saturday: 24 year old Persian, 7, maybe a personal 8

Monday: 22 year old blonde, 8

I'm still spinning my Ukranian "relationship," but she's been flaky/giving me problems so if 2/3 of these convert into plates then she's gone.

Post: #11698

The world is turning to shit.

Your average girl in 2019...

I just finished banging a cute latina girl. Easy vibes and easy close. Likely she may been slutty but I didn't get that slut vibe 100%.

Okay so I bust inside this girl (ooooops oh well)... And I also bust in her mouth. Keep in mind I am coming off a one month plus no fap so I probably almost drowned the girl lol.

Okay, so I try to not be a dirtbag and ask for her number to hang again. We met at a bar so we didn't know each other prior. I didn't really care for the number as I get cold sweats when I do bust inside girls these days.

"I can't give you my number as I have a bf"

Lol ... Okay so I get a get out of jail card for dumping the load in her..

"He knows I'm out and we made an agreement I can have fun tonight as it's my friends Bday"

... It's her special day... not yours...

Her friend was key as I opened her first and then found a random to game her when I realized she could host us all. But the coolant if my latina to even try to make her friends day about her and give her a reason to be a skank.

Nonetheless my latina kept harping about how her dude chose hockey over her tonight. I still was so disappointed with it all. Not even disappointed in her, more for her dude.

The game is messed up if some dudes think that situation is okay.

She was a great fuck. I wanted to get that third bang in but she had to bounce to go get home to her man... Yikes.

Post: #11699

edit, wrong thread

Post: #11700

There is nothing new under the sun, episode 95

Exhibit A: Todd Valentine video critiquing Ryan Gosling's game.

At 3:54 a wild shit test appears, and Todd discusses how to reframe it. "Instead, put the pressure back on her."



Sound familiar? Yeah, 2000 era Mystery (probably 2008?)

Exibit B: "Hoop theory" (3:00)