Post: #1

This topic may be but that Slaughter broad that bitches about not having it all writes a predictable article boostering for kitchen bitches:

http://www.theatlantic.com/sexes/archive...picks=true

Quote:As women are experiencing the satisfaction that comes from a professional career, men should also get to know the joy of investing in home life

"is this beta"


The whole article, however, is obviously hamsterwheel justification of one lifes choices, trying to counter the fact that Slaughter missed the boat on finding a beta provider and instead got stuck with a beta kitchen bitch. If a beta dont have bucks, what good is he?

Quote:Memories of our early gender-role reversal in the kitchen came to mind this week as I read Lisa Miller's article "The Retro Wife" in New York Magazine and some excellent follow up commentary. Miller's piece is subtitled "Feminists who say they're having it all--by choosing to stay home." It opens with the story of Kelly Makino, a New Jersey stay-at-home mom and self-professed feminist who grew up wanting to be first a CIA operative and then a CEO but decided to leave the workforce after she had her second child. Nothing surprising there, but her rationale got lots of people buzzing. Here's an excerpt:

The maternal instinct is a real thing, Kelly argues: Girls play with dolls from childhood, so 'women are raised from the get-go to raise children successfully. When we are moms, we have a better toolbox.' Women, she believes, are conditioned to be more patient with children, to be better multi-taskers, to be more tolerant of the quotidian grind of playdates and temper tantrums; 'women,' she says, 'keep it together better than guys do.'

Her hubby on the other hand:

Quote:When my husband, Andy, and I were first together as a couple in the early 1990s, before we were married, we started giving dinner parties. While growing up I had resolutely avoided learning to cook (or to do anything else domestic). But coming from a Belgian family I was an inveterate foodie from birth, and in graduate school I at least learned how to put together a decent dinner. Andy, on the other hand, had not progressed far beyond graduate school minimalism in the kitchen, so I set him to work as a sous-chef, following various recipes.

It quickly became apparent that my vaunted multi-tasking skills (taking a phone call, jotting notes to myself on something I was writing, making a list for the next day, and chopping vegetables all at the same time) compared very unfavorably with his single-minded focus on getting the culinary job done. After only a few times together in the kitchen he firmly took over the role as head chef. H's is now the cook-in-chief not only for dinner parties and family holidays but also for whenever the kids need dinner on the table. (I remain m a decent baker and cook a mean breakfast, but otherwise I cheerfully cede the ground.)

Post: #2

(04-06-2013 04:24 PM)Exactaking Wrote:  This topic may be but that Slaughter broad that bitches about not having it all writes a predictable article boostering for kitchen bitches:

http://www.theatlantic.com/sexes/archive...picks=true

Quote:As women are experiencing the satisfaction that comes from a professional career, men should also get to know the joy of investing in home life

"is this beta"


The whole article, however, is obviously hamsterwheel justification of one lifes choices, trying to counter the fact that Slaughter missed the boat on finding a beta provider and instead got stuck with a beta kitchen bitch. If a beta dont have bucks, what good is he?

Quote:Memories of our early gender-role reversal in the kitchen came to mind this week as I read Lisa Miller's article "The Retro Wife" in New York Magazine and some excellent follow up commentary. Miller's piece is subtitled "Feminists who say they're having it all--by choosing to stay home." It opens with the story of Kelly Makino, a New Jersey stay-at-home mom and self-professed feminist who grew up wanting to be first a CIA operative and then a CEO but decided to leave the workforce after she had her second child. Nothing surprising there, but her rationale got lots of people buzzing. Here's an excerpt:

The maternal instinct is a real thing, Kelly argues: Girls play with dolls from childhood, so 'women are raised from the get-go to raise children successfully. When we are moms, we have a better toolbox.' Women, she believes, are conditioned to be more patient with children, to be better multi-taskers, to be more tolerant of the quotidian grind of playdates and temper tantrums; 'women,' she says, 'keep it together better than guys do.'

Her hubby on the other hand:

Quote:When my husband, Andy, and I were first together as a couple in the early 1990s, before we were married, we started giving dinner parties. While growing up I had resolutely avoided learning to cook (or to do anything else domestic). But coming from a Belgian family I was an inveterate foodie from birth, and in graduate school I at least learned how to put together a decent dinner. Andy, on the other hand, had not progressed far beyond graduate school minimalism in the kitchen, so I set him to work as a sous-chef, following various recipes.

It quickly became apparent that my vaunted multi-tasking skills (taking a phone call, jotting notes to myself on something I was writing, making a list for the next day, and chopping vegetables all at the same time) compared very unfavorably with his single-minded focus on getting the culinary job done. After only a few times together in the kitchen he firmly took over the role as head chef. H's is now the cook-in-chief not only for dinner parties and family holidays but also for whenever the kids need dinner on the table. (I remain m a decent baker and cook a mean breakfast, but otherwise I cheerfully cede the ground.)

That last paragraph reminded me of something I saw in the movie Donnie Brasco.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=47o482D_1Vs