Post: #1

Here's a situation I often find myself in (about 20 instances so far). I'm in the pub running my usual group game and a good connection is being established with one of the girls. She then casually asks a logistical question like "where do you live" and "how will you get back home, there are no more trams". Usually I just give a direct answer, i.e. that I live nearby just 5 min away by foot. (I also have a motorcycle parked right in front of the pub, but I keep that as an element of surprise for later)
Despite her interest, I never manage to bring any girl home. They always leave with their friends, raising insurmountable objections to my afterparty proposals. Not even grabbing something at fast food, with her friend included, appeals to them. Even if I promise to order in Hindi (while being European myself). Basically, as soon as I try to take over the lead and get them anywhere out of their pre-determined path, they suddenly get all rude and alienated.
Any suggestions on how to capitalize on her logistical questions?

Post: #2

They're just not interested.

I know that sounds blunt mate, but after 20 or so similar outcomes from the same situation, the odds of it being the girl that is the problem is slim.

What do you define as a good connection?

Post: #3

(03-09-2013 07:36 PM)DBCooper Wrote:  What do you define as a good connection?

I've had both physical and verbal connections going on:
<> There have been cases where she's immediately curious about me and bombards me with personal questions, so we end up having a very good conversation.
<> We grind on the dance floor.
<> We escalate until a kiss.
<> I befriend the whole group, then talk in private with a girl of my choice, and everybody approves of our little thing.

After 30 min grinding, when she leaves with her friends and goes home without me, I bet the first thing she does is change her drenched panties

Post: #4

The issue is you're giving them a straight answer...
When they ask this again reply with ANY one of these below:

I live in the north pole, I rent a room from Santa Claus
A few blocks away from you ( with a cheeky smile )
I live in an apartment above the pub

Post: #5

(03-10-2013 06:41 PM)kinjutsu Wrote:  The issue is you're giving them a straight answer...
When they ask this again reply with ANY one of these below:

I live in the north pole, I rent a room from Santa Claus
A few blocks away from you ( with a cheeky smile )
I live in an apartment above the pub

Ok let me try that next time. While we're at it, how would you respond to this little shitteset:
The interaction is going great and things are getting intimate. Now she says: "I like guys with beards", while I happen to be clean-shaved that time. I replied with "that's an easy wish to fulfil! how about we meet next Tuesday for a drink?" she agreed, and then obviously flaked.

Post: #6

(03-11-2013 02:50 AM)alphanov Wrote:  

(03-10-2013 06:41 PM)kinjutsu Wrote:  The issue is you're giving them a straight answer...
When they ask this again reply with ANY one of these below:

I live in the north pole, I rent a room from Santa Claus
A few blocks away from you ( with a cheeky smile )
I live in an apartment above the pub

Ok let me try that next time. While we're at it, how would you respond to this little shitteset:
The interaction is going great and things are getting intimate. Now she says: "I like guys with beards", while I happen to be clean-shaved that time. I replied with "that's an easy wish to fulfil! how about we meet next Tuesday for a drink?" she agreed, and then obviously flaked.

You're just complying to her wish then. I would probably respond matter-of-factly with something like "I like girls who are tall" (if she's short) or "I like blondes" (if she's brunette). Something that's obvious to her that she's not.

Or just agree and amplify and say something like "Yeah, me too".

Post: #7

(03-13-2013 01:16 AM)Gator Wrote:  You're just complying to her wish then. I would probably respond matter-of-factly with something like "I like girls who are tall" (if she's short) or "I like blondes" (if she's brunette). Something that's obvious to her that she's not.

And what kind of reaction do you expect her to give afterwards? I think she would just say "we are not meant to each other then!"
Actually, I noticed that every time I say anything negative, it poisons the conversation. Top it with some negging and teasing, and you can kiss that pussy goodbye

Post: #8

There is an old blog post from last year about how to deal with shit test:
Agree & Amplify OR Escape & Evade.

Agree with her and take it to a ridiculous level or change the subject to something absurd.
My go to "neg" is to comment on her hair or chest size.
If she's blonde say you like brunettes.
If she's small chested say you like busty women...or if she's busty tell her you like smaller chested women...watch the hamster spin on this one.

Post: #9

(03-18-2013 03:02 PM)kinjutsu Wrote:  There is an old blog post from last year about how to deal with shit test:
Agree & Amplify OR Escape & Evade.

Agree with her and take it to a ridiculous level or change the subject to something absurd.
My go to "neg" is to comment on her hair or chest size.
If she's blonde say you like brunettes.
If she's small chested say you like busty women...or if she's busty tell her you like smaller chested women...watch the hamster spin on this one.

So what is she supposed to reply to your neg? The French girl will just get upset/offended and tell you to go approach that other girl three meters away who fits your taste better.

Post: #10

Usually when you use a "neg" you have a smirk or a sly grin on your face so she knows you're joking around with her.
If she takes it too seriously then walk away. You don't need that sort of drama during the 1st conversation.

Post: #11

(03-18-2013 03:42 PM)kinjutsu Wrote:  Usually when you use a "neg" you have a smirk or a sly grin on your face so she knows you're joking around with her.

It's kinda lame, she just mentioned quite seriously that she likes beards, and all of the sudden I'm supposed to put on a smirk and say "yeah? and I like blondes! (standing there with a grin waiting for her reaction)"

Post: #12

@alphanov

Why do you care what she thinks?
Indifference my friend.
Are you looking a solution for this problem or just trying to justify staying in your current situation.

How about you go out try the advice in the thread then report back before you try to break it down and find flaws.

Post: #13

(03-18-2013 04:10 PM)kinjutsu Wrote:  @alphanov

Why do you care what she thinks?
Indifference my friend.
Are you looking a solution for this problem or just trying to justify staying in your current situation.

How about you go out try the advice in the thread then report back before you try to break it down and find flaws.

I've tried this attitude during my first 300 or so approaches and got zero bangs. If I'm indifferent, attraction won't spontaneously happen just because I'm there throwing negs at her. I can't recreate the exact situation, but I am indeed reporting a reaction I would expect based on all my previous attempts at negging.
What reaction do you get? "Omg, you've negged me, let's fuck!"?

Post: #14

"I'll tell you later."

Post: #15

(03-10-2013 06:41 PM)kinjutsu Wrote:  I live in an apartment above the pub

LOVE this one. Used it an an electro show a couple weeks ago. They came all the way from NY to Chicago to see the show, so it hit em extra hard to point upwards and say "I live up there"
Even if they know it's a complete lie, it turns the situation playful
.

Post: #16

(03-19-2013 04:43 PM)Cyclone Wrote:  

(03-10-2013 06:41 PM)kinjutsu Wrote:  I live in an apartment above the pub

LOVE this one. Used it an an electro show a couple weeks ago. They came all the way from NY to Chicago to see the show, so it hit em extra hard to point upwards and say "I live up there"
Even if they know it's a complete lie, it turns the situation playful
.

Yeah, I tried this one, it gets them laughing (I'm saying "I live on the 3rd floor" to make it sound more real). Finally a solid advice!

Post: #17

Why the fuck would you promise to order in hindi?

Thats a mistake right there.

Post: #18

(03-20-2013 06:04 AM)silverbullit Wrote:  Why the fuck would you promise to order in hindi?

Thats a mistake right there.

I probably radiate an aura that I can speak a bunch of languages because they often ask "so how many languages do you speak?" How can I now display my value without bragging and without trying to impress her? I haven't figured out a really good way... I just give a sort of direct answer, mention Hindi, then they go "no shit" mode, then I say "how about we grab a dinner at the Indian restaurant, I'll order in Hindi". How's that a mistake?