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You guys all know how important first impressions are in game-we spend a lot of time working on our clothing style, fitness, body language, speech, openers, etc., in an attempt to maximize our attractiveness to women in the first moments they see us. First impressions tend to stick and are hard to change.

But have you thought about the best way to make a good impression at that critical moment when you enter a venue? Remember-although we rightly criticize women for the many ways in which they are dumb- women’s innate social intelligence is higher than ours, and they pick up on subtle social cues that men often miss or don’t realize they are giving off. In particular , women are like bloodhounds in sniffing out a lack of confidence or betaness in males, since this pertains to the male’s mate value, and this instinctive ability has been honed over eons of evolution.

The next time you are in a social venue-a bar, club, or party, stand where you have a good line of sight toward the mass of the crowd and the door. Watch what happens when males enter the room and walk through it-what you will see is many of women check them out. You have to look closely; the assessment is done quickly and subtly. That’s how long you have to make an initial impression- perhaps a second long glance out of the corner of her eye.

So what do you do? Here’s my technique. First, I slow down. As I approach the venue entrance, about 100 ft away, I consciously slow down, repeating to myself, “Slow down, slow down.” Once I feel that I am walking slowly enough, I slow it down one more half click so that I feel that I’m walking a bit too slowly. This is the correct pace. Then I check my posture-back straight and chin up. My rule, garnered form observing myself in the mirror, is that if my chin feels level it is too low, if it feels slightly high, it is level, if it feels almost too high, it is just high enough.

If you need to show your ID, have it out of your wallet and in your pocket already. Digging around for it at the door doesn’t look good. Don’t face the doorman directly as he’s checking your ID, you don’t want it to look like you are supplicating for his permission to enter, turn away a bit and glance inside quickly to get your bearings. When he hands you back your ID, shove it in your pocket, and get inside quickly, you can put it in your wallet later.

Walk inside like you fucking own the place. Slowly, and either a straight face or a slight smirk. I prefer the smirk myself- women find this intriguing. Don’t gawk around! This is key; the king doesn’t look at the crowd, the crowd looks at the king. Use your peripheral vision- the male brain is a hunting brain and is very good at spotting eyes looking at you even if just a quick glance. Try it and you’ll see what I mean.

I am a sniper approacher and prefer not to approach immediately, so I try to avoid making eye contact with girls on entry- I do this by looking slightly above the heads of the crowd so that I won’t lock eyes with any girls who are staring at me. Why? Because I believe that if you and a girl lock eyes you better approach her either right away or very quickly, otherwise she will tag you as beta. And if you get in a staring contest with a girl and you break eye contact first, you can forget it- a girl is not attracted to a guy she can win a staring contest with. If I do happen to lock eyes with a bangable girl, I stare her down with a smirk and sometimes a wave, a wink or a “Hey” if I am close enough and continue on. This shows the girl that you are not afraid of her and sets up an approach a little later on.

As you walk through the venue, note in your peripheral vision which girls are giving off IOIs. One glance isn’t enough-that just means she has carried out the female instinct to assess a strange male. Look for the following: second or subsequent glances, tracking you with their eyes, suddenly sitting or standing more upright, straightening of clothes, stroking or flipping of hair, leaning over to whisper to friends.

Post up at the bar in a casual and relaxed way- don’t look like you are begging the bartender for a drink. When you get your drink, put your back against the bar and your drink at your waist. You hopefully have identified a few girls who already have some interest in you. Now take a few minutes to assess their approachability and that of any other bangable girls, but be low key about it, don’t stare around the room in an obvious way. Your entry is now done and you should move on to the approaching phase.

If you are skeptical that you will get more female attention by walking in slowly and cockily, I urge you to try it for yourself. I bet you will notice a lot more women staring as you as if they are thinking “Who is this guy?” which is exactly what you want.

Note –this technique is intended for guys who are solo or in groups of two or three and who play more of the aloof, mysterious guy game. The” high energy party guys who take over the bar” is a different type of game entirely.

Post: #2

Swingers... scene where the group enters the bar.

Post: #3

I've never seen that film in its entirety. Tried looking for clips on Youtube and the only relevant scene I got was the "Kill the bunny" scene lol

Post: #4

To this day, I hear "here comes the story of the hurricane" whenever I enter a bar:

Post: #5

Bump. Strong post.

Keys to entrance:

No fumbling for ID.
Banter with bouncer.
No worrying about cover. Pay it and walk in.
Smirk or smile.
Slight head nod with this music.
Big, strong stride.
Straight to the bar for a drink or to the bathroom.
Immediately recon the bar and determine base of operations.

Post: #6

This is how you do it... Old School.

Post: #7

This works even better if you lock down a spot and know some of the people even if it's just the bouncer. Have social proof right off the jump and you can skip over most problems. You are above the rules.

-Skip the line
-Don't have to pull out your ID
-No Cover
-People greet you as you're walking in

If you have that the confidence with the big stride, slow walk and head bob will all come natural.

Post: #8

(02-05-2013 04:58 PM)MrXY Wrote:  Walk inside like you fucking own the place.

This. I just keep this in mind and everything else follows naturally.

Ask yourself, how would I behave if I owned this place?

Post: #9

(02-05-2013 04:58 PM)MrXY Wrote:  When you get your drink, put your back against the bar and your drink at your waist.

The Beer Shield is a college-born social tactic that young men pick up in dive bars and house parties. It is a fallback technique akin to a security blanket that should be shamed out of men.

Keeping a beer close to your chest is a sign of insecurity. It’s no different from playing with your phone in a bar. It tells the other people around you, “Hey everyone! I’m awkward and have no idea what I’m supposed to be doing with myself right now!” It signals desperation and confusion to the opposite sex. More importantly, it’s counterproductive to an approach mentality.

Don’t believe me? The next time you’re out at a bar take a look around. The guys with their beer shields up won’t be talking to women, or if they are, it won’t be very long. Beer Shields make you less sociable while working against you. All they do is add yet another barrier between you and the rest of the women in the room (that’s not even including bitch shields).

Relax, set the drink down. Hold it to the side or below your waist if you like. Dangle your bottle or use it as a prop as you speak. Be nonchalant and carefree. There’s nothing interesting or cool about a guy who raises and lowers a beer in front of his face like a monkey.

-Gmac

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(08-16-2015 07:52 AM)TheNookieMonster Wrote:  

(02-05-2013 04:58 PM)MrXY Wrote:  Walk inside like you fucking own the place.

Ask yourself, how would I behave if I owned this place?

Post: #13

Good post OP.

If I'm solo, I imagine I'm just in town on a business trip but wanted to get out and meet people. Not that I pretend to be on business with people, but that's my mindset.

Because going out solo can feel strange (to you and others). But going out solo out of town on business is normal.

Post: #14

(08-17-2015 08:11 AM)Aquiles_Baesta_Parada Wrote:  

(08-16-2015 07:52 AM)TheNookieMonster Wrote:  

(02-05-2013 04:58 PM)MrXY Wrote:  Walk inside like you fucking own the place.

Ask yourself, how would I behave if I owned this place?

Steadicam shot is a classic. So much game concentrated in that one scene.

Post: #15

(02-05-2013 04:58 PM)MrXY Wrote:  Use your peripheral vision- the male brain is a hunting brain and is very good at spotting eyes looking at you even if just a quick glance. Try it and you’ll see what I mean.

Nice article but I'd like to point out that peripheral vision, due to human physiology, is rather bad. Visual acuity and resolution decreases steeply with increasing eccentricity from fovea. In other words, if you fix your gaze at an object in a distance, what you can see in your temporal/nasal fields will be blurry and requiring moving your eyes to the object to see it clearly, especially to perceive such a small object like human eyes.

You can test it for yourself - fix your gaze straight on and have someone move curvilinearly towards the front of your face some book/newspaper with a big print title on it from a distance of 3 feet. You'll be surprised how small eccentricity we have to perceive with acuity and high resolution.

It only seems like you, as a human, have good overall vision. It is so due to eye movement, image information interpolation, which is esentially patching up what you can't see (for example, the blind spot or scotoma which is a part of human anatomy where optic nerve attaches to the retina gets no information - essentially within 12–15° temporally, your eyes are blind, hence the name - blind spot and you can test it for yourself too - fully extend your arm with a thumb point up and slowly move towards the centre - around 12–15° from the centre, it will disappear!), and visual cortex making fancy tricks. In short, according to the most recent science, vision is a constructive process, not passive absorption of "what is out there".

This is why, for example, the same girl can be perceived by you as more attractive under influcence of alcohol and/or due to different concentration of neurochemicals on a given day or night. If you add human brain's neurobiological properties, individual differences in perception (different people see different colour spectrum - it's like with papillary lines - the only difference is we can't measure subjective experience of perception), socially conditioned cognition (Eskimos perceive more shades of white than an average European), different light sources, light spectrum absorption and emission depending on the surface, light's dependency on the medium it travels through and myriad other properties, it will become quite obvious that what we see is quite different from what is out there and to make it even worse, every person sees things a bit differently as well.

Post: #16

Excellent post Mr XY.

Agree with everything you wrote. Entrance is becoming a speciality of mine.

Post: #17

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