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Quote:Have you ever looked back at an ex-boyfriend and asked, how did I ever date that person when we were so obviously incompatible?

It's not necessarily that you were incompatible...then. According to a survey conducted by Match.com over the past year, your tastes have simply changed over the years.


Men must possess certain qualities to be considered "the perfect man," and those parameters change drastically as women age. In the survey, called "The Ages of Man," what women want from their relationships with men is broken down according to age range.

"[The research] also disproves the notion that standards drop later in life, as women over 55 were shown to be most picky about who they date," a Match UK rep told Yahoo! Shine.

The results of the study are summarized below. You can see the full study results here.

Age 18-24:

Women's main concern in their late teens and early twenties is that their partner gets along with their friends. "47 percent said they would look for a relationship with someone their friends would approve of."

"This is a very relationally social time in a female's life. I refer to it as the 'fit into me' stage. Women want men who will fit in to their lives," Dr. Karen Ruskin, a licensed marriage and family psychotherapist, told Yahoo! Shine. "A key way to fit in is to be viewed positively by one's social network, and to have shared interests. It is less about future and more about what feels good right now."

Also, women this age are far more likely to date a man in better physical shape than them, but shared tastes in "books, music, and film," are extremely important.

Age 25-34:

At this stage in their lives most women are focused on their careers, but physical attraction and sexual compatibility are most important. They also consider a man's level of "ambition" to be important. Two-thirds of surveyed in this age group say this is a key trait.

"This is the 'can you add value or will you take-eth away' stage. Women are starting to think about having kids someday and they certainly do not want a man who is mooching off of them," Dr. Ruskin explains. "They want someone who can be a partner with them so that their children can have the life they want their children to have, and so that they can have the lives they want to have."

Age 35-44:

Older men become more attractive to women in their late thirties and early forties, according to the study. This could be because they are looking to settle down and start a family, says Dr. Ruskin. "Women are mindful of their biological clocks ticking, which is why they want someone established, stable, and successful." They are no longer dating for attractiveness, for fun and to see where it goes, or for social fit with friends, she says.

According to the study, "73 percent said they would be willing to date someone more than five years their senior," and a man's manners at this age is essential. "Less than one percent of the women surveyed said they would date a man with bad manners."

Age 45-54:

The key word at this age is security. "95 percent of women said they were looking to find a partner with whom they felt secure." Women are also less picky at this age than at any other age, but still look for a man with a high income, which is always important to women no matter their age. Fascinatingly, 54 percent of women said they'd be interested in dating a younger man.

Age 55+:

Intelligence and personality comes to the forefront in later life. Women look for men who share their values and have a good sense of humor. Sexuality doesn't fall by the wayside, however. "45 percent of women strongly agreed that sexual compatibility was important to them in forming a relationship at this age." Women over 55 are pickier about their partners than at any other time in their lives.

"They are tired of the irritating little day-to-day ticks and feel it is not worth it to spend time with someone if the entire interaction from start to finish is not pleasing." Dr. Ruskin says her patients over 55 years old aren't really interested in companionship unless it's a perfect fit.

Of course, the ideal relationship is one that grows and changes with you. If you're lucky, the man that got your attention in your twenties with his good looks is the same man that makes you laugh in your fifties.

http://shine.yahoo.com/love-sex/women-82...00175.html

Post: #2

This is shit.

Post: #3

Interesting take on younger girls.

Quote:Age 18-24:

Women's main concern in their late teens and early twenties is that their partner gets along with their friends. "47 percent said they would look for a relationship with someone their friends would approve of."

"This is a very relationally social time in a female's life. I refer to it as the 'fit into me' stage. Women want men who will fit in to their lives," Dr. Karen Ruskin, a licensed marriage and family psychotherapist, told Yahoo! Shine. "A key way to fit in is to be viewed positively by one's social network, and to have shared interests. It is less about future and more about what feels good right now."

Also, women this age are far more likely to date a man in better physical shape than them, but shared tastes in "books, music, and film," are extremely important.

First, the shared tastes thing is bullshit. If you can make them laugh, that shouldn't be much of a problem.

But the social fit part is interesting, and I think there's a lot of truth to it. Looking back on my approaches, dates and lays, it seems like younger girls flaked less when I had met their friend and won their approval. That might mean having a solid convo with their friends, or helping them out in some way. For the same night lay, you may be better off ignoring her friends entirely. But if the SNL is not possible, and you want to hear from her again, you may need to charm her friends a bit. Not too hard in theory, but it's a bitch entertaining several girls in loud environments. Talking to one girl and her friend is pretty doable, any more than that is annoying.

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Any report that asks a woman what she desires, and then presents that information as fact=blue pill.

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Kenny Powers unofficial study on what a man's idea of the perfect woman as they age
Age 15 - death
Young, hot, likes to bang.
Case closed.

Post: #6

Lets decode this in woman speak

Quote:Age 18-24:
Women's main concern in their late teens and early twenties is that their partner gets along with their friends. "47 percent said they would look for a relationship with someone their friends would approve of."

He needs to be hot and he needs to be popular. I compete against my friends by playing the hot boyfriend game. I will also hook up, even if its only for one night, with the popular guy and its ok if other people know. His social status is my validation.

Fuck me lead guitarist, FUCK ME!

Quote:Age 25-34:
At this stage in their lives most women are focused on their careers, but physical attraction and sexual compatibility are most important. They also consider a man's level of "ambition" to be important. Two-thirds of surveyed in this age group say this is a key trait.

I need to settle down now and I deserve only the best. Who cares if I am 10 pounds overweight? I have a degree in marketing, Im a sassy girl and I am independent and successful. Cant they hear me roar?

I will not deviate from my 100 point checklist, although being the liberated girl I am I will continue to fuck the hot guys who cross my path, we are equality now! I will not be giving up my career for family either, no woman became CEO by giving her career up for 5 years while she raised children. Ill be managing career and family together.

Quote:Age 35-44:
Older men become more attractive to women in their late thirties and early forties, according to the study. This could be because they are looking to settle down and start a family, says Dr. Ruskin. "Women are mindful of their biological clocks ticking, which is why they want someone established, stable, and successful." They are no longer dating for attractiveness, for fun and to see where it goes, or for social fit with friends, she says.

Holy shit! WTF happened? Where has my life gone? No men are looking at me anymore and its only the older guys over 40 who seem to want me! I dont get this. I am smart, confident, independent and I have a succesful career. Im the ultimate catch. So what if I have a bit of pudge on me, real men are attracted to strong women like me regardless! Why wont a man settle down with me now and why cant these guys just grow the fuck up already? Where have all the real men gone?

With modern medicine I can have children into my 40's, whats the big deal anyway? I guess I am going to just have to start settling for the average older guys, even if I am not that attracted to them. Shit, if its this bad already, Ill be done if I am not married within the next 5-6 years. I guess Ill have to take the first one who comes along and figure out how I can explain it to myself and my friends. These are meant to be my child bearing years!

I need to make a plan quickly. My career is not going to well truth be told and its not what I expected it to be. I actually hate my job, its boring. These men would be lucky to have me in their life though, and if I can find any guy with a decent job Ill quit mine so I can have kids instead.

That will make me much happier anyway. Yes, lets drop the checklist down from 100 points to 50. I need to be realistic with these guys, after all these years I have realised that no one is perfect.

Quote:Age 45-54:
The key word at this age is security. "95 percent of women said they were looking to find a partner with whom they felt secure." Women are also less picky at this age than at any other age, but still look for a man with a high income, which is always important to women no matter their age. Fascinatingly, 54 percent of women said they'd be interested in dating a younger man.

Work is so shit, I cant go back now. I have been out for too long anyway and the glass ceiling killed me because of the boys club, thats why I was jaded with it all. I think it would be better if my man could just support me and Ill take a more traditional role now for good now perhaps.

I dont know if I am happy though, I see all these younger hot guys looking at me and I just know that I could be having more fun on my own. I dont think this relationship is working anymore and my husband is not making me happy. If we split, I should be ok, because Ill get the house at least and with him earning more than me and the support I gave him over the last 10 years, I would be entitled to a decent alimony payment. We have just grown so far apart and I dont really know him anymore. He is not the man I married. Sally and Susan are out all the time and they seem to be having so much fun.

Also, I could swear that bastard husband of mine is...

Quote:Age 55+:
Intelligence and personality comes to the forefront in later life. Women look for men who share their values and have a good sense of humor. Sexuality doesn't fall by the wayside, however. "45 percent of women strongly agreed that sexual compatibility was important to them in forming a relationship at this age." Women over 55 are pickier about their partners than at any other time in their lives.

This is not even worth it. Hahahahah.

Post: #7

... aaaaaaand Hooligan_Harry wins this thread. Well done.

Post: #8

I'll summarize the article for you guys:

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unlike men who as they age can create more wealth, gain more experience, knowledge and ultimately be more marketable to the opposite sex women are different

since men largely value a womens worth by her beauty which correlates strongly with her age she is a depreaciating asset. as women age that reality becomes more transparent and hence they begin to reassess their value and come come to the conclusions mentioned above for their age brackets.

Post: #11

In other words, never fuck women over the age of 24. You get less, but it costs more.

Post: #12

I wonder how the results would look in other cultures.

In SEA you get women with baby rabies ready to settle with an older man while in their early twenties, and they don't all want to go through a career phase. Some don't even want to go through a party girl phase.

It's changing though, and both the career and party girl phase is growing in popularity. But at least here you have your choice of options.

Is that true in the west too? I hear the rural or midwestern girls also sometimes just avoid career and party girl focus, and skip ahead to the baby rabies phase.