Post: #76

Maybe because they are coworkers, bosses, or subordinates, and I have to hear about it at work. I get the don't give a damn about what people think mentality, but I can't help but care about my reputation at work. Having a good image at work is something I am trying very hard to maintain. I am fairly well known in doing what I do in my community, and I don't want to mess that up.

Post: #77

Listen, definately don't take this the wrong way but for me it's not an acceptable excuse to worry about what my colleagues, friends or subordinates would think about me if they saw me out alone. The only possibly plausible excuse is if I think my career would suffer if my boss saw me, but I don't see why that would have any negative consequences.
Especially if he sees me out, pretty much sober, and just minding my own business?

If they think or say something about it, I just think "fuck them". I've been somewhat of a lone wolf all my life. Actually a lot of the time people in groups bother me because of their stupidity and lack of focus. I have a "take it or leave it attitude" where I really don't care what they think about me. I don't need anyone them for anything.

But yeah, sometimes I too might fall back and become insecure about it. But it is a really liberating feeling to not care what anyone think of you, be it the beautiful woman in the bar or some colleague at work. To be above their opinions of you.

Post: #78

(02-13-2012 02:37 AM)anewtypedude Wrote:  Maybe because they are coworkers, bosses, or subordinates, and I have to hear about it at work. I get the don't give a damn about what people think mentality, but I can't help but care about my reputation at work. Having a good image at work is something I am trying very hard to maintain. I am fairly well known in doing what I do in my community, and I don't want to mess that up.

I got you.

As a general rule of life, if things are ok with you, they will be ok with them.

You might just have to "mind over matter" this one.

Or find some low profile places where you won't run into them.

Post: #79

Not giving a fuck about what other people think is probably the biggest hallmark of a player who regularly goes out alone. This can be something you already have, or something you build up by facing whatever fears you have about it and doing it anyway.