RE: Help Me Game This
What exactly is your question? How to handle the dude or how to game the girls?
I will answer both.
First, the dude, be friendly with him, get him on your side, you don't need enemies in your complex, next time you see him just nod your head and say - "whats up bro". Chat him up, tell him you are working, ask him about himself. Just be friendly and social. Sometimes, the more evolved man has to be the first one to behave in a civilized way. If he is 6'6 240lbs, you don't want to fight him anyways.
Next time you see him around say - "bro, i saw you the other day but i'm not sure what you were saying, i don't speak french, i was working on my computer, my name is alpha". Just be cool and calm and civilized.
Next, the girls, if they live in the same complex as you, you will see them alot. Just start by saying "hello" "where are you guys from", how long have you been in Canada?",, stuff like that. Chat them up but don't be to aggressive. You will see them again. Just build some familiarity and comfort. Get on a first name basis with them. This is the first step. Just establish yourself as a cool, friendly, funny, guy. (This should take 2-4 weeks)
Then, zero in on the one you want to go for. Try to see which one is giving you "indicators of interest". Is one of them smiling at you more so then the other ones. Is one of them more flirty with you then the rest? Talk to them, get to know them, go "elderly style" at first. If you establish yourself as cool with the entire group, they will help set you up with the one you like and/or the one who likes you. Be friendly with all of them until you figure out which one you are gonna focus on.
They probably could use some guidance on where to eat, where to grocery shop, where to do laundry, where to catch the bus, and stuff like that. Offer you opinion and get them talking. Present yourself in a strong way, dress sharp, and be well groomed.
Once they know you a little bit and are comfortable talking to you, you can be a bit more aggressive. Share a smoke with them, offer them a beer. Have a party and invite them. Always be looking for "iois". Sooner or later, you will catch one of them looing at you in a way that lets you know she likes you. When that happens you can focus on her. Try to develop a connection with her. Try to spend some one on one time with her. Walk to the store together, do laundry together, share some food with her, something "innocent" like that.
Once you have developed a little friendship and connection with one you like and who you sense likes you, then you can step it up a bit. Invite her over to watch a show, invite her for a drink on the balcony, invite her to play tennis or something.
Exchange numbers and start to text with her. Cultivate this "friendship"
Then, the last step is to get her isolated and drunk. If she commits to coming over to see you all by herself then she is ready. But, don't force it, kino-escalate in a natural way with some light touching, then when she starts to touch you back, you can go for the make out. It will help if you guys have had a few drinks first, of course.
This is just a general timeline that I have presented, but, you always have to be ready for opportunities to take shortcuts in this process. For example, tomorrow night, you are talking to one of them and she says "we are so bored, we wanna drink and dance but we are too young to buy beer". Take advantage of that situation and invite the over for drinks.
Or, lets say next week, your friend is having a party near school, invite them. Be ready for these opportunities when they present themselves. My timeline is only a general guide, if you can get one of them drunk and isolated this weekend, then by all means go for it.
Here is the short version of my answer..
Be social, get them comfortable around you, have a little fun with them, get them drunk, get one of them alone, start the kino-escalation. Ignore the dude or better yet, befriend him.
(This post was last modified: 08-23-2012 09:34 PM by Giovonny.)
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