Post: #1

I have gotten a lot of useful information from this forum and I came across something interesting recently that I thought could be of use here. May seem a bit obvious but it served as a useful reminder for me.

Basically this is about getting yourself out of the traditional conversation mode (ie. where are you from, where do you work, bla bla bla)

If anyone else has tips on how they individualize the conversation and set themselves apart, feel free to use this thread. Thought it might be interesting to see where this goes:

Here are the 4 things a woman NEEDS TO FEEL by the end of the conversation to get her invested:

1) She needs to feel that you got to know her

If you ask what she is interested in, find out why. Don't just accept that she like yoga and say "that's cool". Ask if she gets stressed out very easily and uses it to calm her down or if she is a calm person in touch with her emotions (example).

Find out what kind of person she is, what her passions are, and what she values

2) She needs to feel like she knows something about you

Not things like what you do for work, etc...

But things like you are; sincere, authentic, genuine, light, fun, easy

This needs to be done subtly through joking around, telling her about your goals, being genuine with her.

When you say you are interested in something (film), explain why and how it makes you feel

Like most of us on here, when you bring up that you are living away from home instead of leaving it as is, it should explain how you are really adventurous and always like trying new things that push you out of my comfort zone (example).

3) She needs to feel that you see her as a unique person

-Compliments about her style/choice
-If she is a great listener
-"i think it is amazing that ____" about something she said about herself

4) She needs to feel that you, yourself are special

There needs to be a value exchange. If she feels like she will not get anything from hanging out with you, she won't bother.
Have an attractive lifestyle through cool interests, fun adventures, attractive hobbies, languages..

I think this can be conveyed subliminally too by; having a playful attitude, being bold and unphased by her actions, directing the conversation in ways no other guys normally would, etc...

Again, basic but perhaps a good reminder as I sometimes find myself getting caught in stagnant conversation.

Cheers!

Post: #2

I saw the same list of 4 things on a podcast / interview this week

Did we watch the same interview?

Post: #3

We did, I was just jotting notes down because I thought it was good so I figured I'd post it here.

Post: #4

(08-20-2012 09:09 AM)gandt Wrote:  We did, I was just jotting notes down because I thought it was good so I figured I'd post it here.

That's cool but don't forget to cite the source of people might think you are passing somebody else's stuff as your own which is definitely not cool.

Post: #5

(08-20-2012 09:37 AM)JJ Roberts Wrote:  

(08-20-2012 09:09 AM)gandt Wrote:  We did, I was just jotting notes down because I thought it was good so I figured I'd post it here.

That's cool but don't forget to cite the source of people might think you are passing somebody else's stuff as your own which is definitely not cool.

Ok, gotcha. It was from sashapua.com.

Post: #6

(08-20-2012 01:54 PM)gandt Wrote:  

(08-20-2012 09:37 AM)JJ Roberts Wrote:  

(08-20-2012 09:09 AM)gandt Wrote:  We did, I was just jotting notes down because I thought it was good so I figured I'd post it here.

That's cool but don't forget to cite the source of people might think you are passing somebody else's stuff as your own which is definitely not cool.

Ok, gotcha. It was from sashapua.com.

Haha oh that guy, he was on this site for while before he got banned for using it to advertise his site/misc. trolling.

Post: #7

In a similar vein: http://www.bakadesuyo.com/is-there-a-sho...-a-romanti

Post: #8

(08-20-2012 06:00 PM)RedBull Wrote:  

(08-20-2012 01:54 PM)gandt Wrote:  

(08-20-2012 09:37 AM)JJ Roberts Wrote:  

(08-20-2012 09:09 AM)gandt Wrote:  We did, I was just jotting notes down because I thought it was good so I figured I'd post it here.

That's cool but don't forget to cite the source of people might think you are passing somebody else's stuff as your own which is definitely not cool.

Ok, gotcha. It was from sashapua.com.

Haha oh that guy, he was on this site for while before he got banned for using it to advertise his site/misc. trolling.

I'm not trying to promote his stuff, just thought this particular item was useful.. Don't agree with a lot of his stuff.

Post: #9

i wrote a thread about similar topic, MY FAST DARK TWISTED ROAD TO INTIMACY (in my sig)

Post: #10

(08-21-2012 03:12 AM)XXL Wrote:  i wrote a thread about similar topic, MY FAST DARK TWISTED ROAD TO INTIMACY (in my sig)

Really great thread XXL. Definitely supports my view and is something I am moving toward. Will PM you in a bit..