Post: #1

So my mother's god-daughter (I have no blood relation to her of any kind, she is the daughter of my mom's best friend from high school. I'm going to still get a salvo of Alabama jokes, that's cool)...

She's (MGD) about 10 years younger than me (legal, not by much). She has been into me since she has been old enough to know she was into men. She has been suggestive in the past. Not aggressive, but every time i go home from college she wanted to see me and the IOIs were obvious to everyone except (i think) my mother and her mother. Fast forward to my birthday a couple of weeks ago (Saturday). My mom came to town with MGD in tow. My mom decided to take a nap after my birthday lunch, but being young and energetic I took the MGD to the pool.

For some reason I decided to go HAM on the Kino. I pretty much did everything but kiss her at the pool. When it started getting dark I took her back to my place, and finally made out with her for a very long time. She wasn't ready for anything more than kissing and me groping and grinding on her (I'm almost certain she is a virgin). In any case, we got dressed and went back to the hotel where my mom was. We continued the weekend as usual. Other than kissing a couple of times when my mother wasn't looking. As far as I know my mother still thinks she is like a little sister to me (and here come the Alabama jokes).

The reason this gets complicated is because she is playing in a soccer tournament this weekend, and has had some issues with the team and an ex boyfriend. My mother, the woman that raised me up to be the beta orbiter mangina feminist suck up that it has taken me a decade to transform from, decided to send MGD a big surprise bouquet of "good luck/atta girl" flowers on my behalf. They have not arrived yet. She wants me to take credit for this. It's a pretty beta thing to do, and I have a couple of worries:

(1) I actually want to bang this girl. My mom has done on my behalf something so anti-game I probably would have had the intuition to not do it even before I discovered game.

(2) I'm worried that MGD will see it the way most chicks would see such a gesture, and think I'm a creeper. I've done a pretty good job of establishing my alpha credentials, but this could be a big enough fail that she thinks I'm going creepy, oneitis stage 5 clinger. Everything we did in my apartment could go from something she wanted to do, to me acting inappropriately. Potential consequences include her telling my mom that I tried to take advantage of her and shit like that.

The good news: I have not done anything illegal, and even if I bang her I'm not doing anything illegal. No statutory rape or Chris Hansen jokes apply (a year ago they would have) However I am in a situation that I'm worried could cause all sorts of issues with my family (and MGDs family).

What should I do?

Post: #2

The phrase "don't shit on your own doorstep" comes to mind. This could really come back to bite you.

When I first got some game skills it was like an awesome weapon I wanted to try out on every girl I came across. It was a very quick learning curve to realise that's not always a good idea, and there are definitely girls out there you shouldn't bang just because you can. Where it's family (?!) or tight social circle, I wouldn't be taking risks like that.

From my understanding of what you wrote, I would stop escalating the situation and have an honest chat with the girl about either why it's a bad idea to go forward, or why a public LTR might be an option. I think any other relationships could look like "grooming" to an outsider, given the age difference and family situation.

Post: #3

Call the girl and tell her about the flowers and that you didn't send them. Make it lighthearted along the lines of "you won't believe how ridiculous my mother is"

Stop gaming the girl and let her down easy-hopefully this will prevent complications

Recognize that you brought this shit on yourself by gaming an inappropriate girl-not because of her age, but because of her closeness to your family circle

Post: #4

Tell her, "My mom is the best boyfriend you'll ever have"

Post: #5

Tell her what happened and then tell her something tongue in cheek like "cause you know if I sent you something it would be a guy singing a telegram, this half ass bouquet shit is not my style".

Post: #6

Oh and I couldn't disagree with Rocket more. Phrases like "don't shit where you eat" are for guys with no balls. What's the worst the fallout could possibly be? Your mom and her friend have a little feud? Your mom get's upset with you for what? Being a man? It's not like you can lose you job. Fuck that, I'd bang her.

Post: #7

(06-06-2012 04:32 PM)Fisto Wrote:  Oh and I couldn't disagree with Rocket more. Phrases like "don't shit where you eat" are for guys with no balls. What's the worst the fallout could possibly be? Your mom and her friend have a little feud? Your mom get's upset with you for what? Being a man? It's not like you can lose you job. Fuck that, I'd bang her.

Agreed. Don't shit where you eat is just something guys tell themselves to avoid feeling like losers for not moving on girls around them.

What's the worst outcome of everyone in your life finding out? Never as bad as you think.

Post: #8

Agree with above. Bang. And always remember, when in doubt listen to Akon, i.e. "doesn't matter had sex."

Post: #9

The guys above me have got it right. Clarify that you didn't send the flowers, then go for the bang. Alternatively, if you think that the consequences of you fucking her would be too severe, still clarify that you didn't send the flowers; preferably in a humorous manner.

Post: #10

Oh man, your mom is cockblocking you hah. My mom would NEVER do shit like that. She knows for one I would not let it slide, but also my mom is a old school biker chick so she wouldn't do something like that anyways.

Also, if you fuck her, it's not your fault. Your mom and her friend should know better. My mom and her friends already know what will go down if they bring some fresh little 18 year old girl around me. But then again, our moms seem to have raised us differently so my mom knows the score. Your mom probably still thinks of you as the beta you were, where as my mom knows I'm going to try to fuck any 18 year old girl in my sight lol. My dad had 6 kids with 6 different women so she expects it out of me. Like father like son.

Follow the advice above. Hit her up and make a joke about the situation. Then tell her to come back to your place after her game and make sure you have some Boones Farm on ice!

Post: #11

I ended up going with silence. No texts, no calls. I decided that unless she reached to me I was going to remain silent. The reasons for this are (a) we don't live in the same city. She lives in my hometown, I live where I went to college and (b) I figured if she just got the flowers without otherwise hearing from me she assume my mother sent them without me even knowing about it. I thought this was probable enough because she knows how my mom is, and that I'm an insufferably aloof asshole. We also had an understanding that I wasn't going to call or text her unless we were in the same city.

She ended up texting my mom and telling her to thank me for the flowers. I'm fairly certain she knows it was my mom, that I'm too busy pursuing summer school chicks to send her flowers.