(12-03-2012 08:52 PM)germanico Wrote: (05-21-2012 07:45 PM)thedude3737 Wrote: If you're a random joe shmoe, throwing around generous tips generally does very little for you.
It's worth every player's time to establish some very solid connects and friendships at restaurants and bars. It can save you money and be a good DHV over time.
Great info.
Now, how would a random Joe Shmoe go about establishing solid connects and relationships in the bar and restaurant business?
Whay would be the best course of action?
There are several ways. Obviously the first and foremost is to work in the industry. But assuming most people don't, there are several important things to follow. I would give the following advice for the sole reason of establishing connections in the nightlife industry, not for gaming bitches:
Go out on weds and thurs nights. If you go out on weekends and try to shmooze up a floor or bar manager they simply won't have the time to interact with you or remember you.
Do something like the following: bring a few friends to a venue and order a couple bottles of cheap prosecco or red wine. This is just for the sake of hanging with the guys. Ask to speak to the manager; ask for his card and give him yours. Fluff things up a little. Even if you're a clerk at Blockbuster you can tell him you're a "Manager at a media distribution company" or some bullshit, tell him you really enjoyed the venue and you'll send further business there. Follow up with an email, something nice like, "Hey Bob, just wanted to drop you a line and thank you for your hospitality on Wednesday night. The guys and I will be back for sure." Shit like this goes a long way, trust me. Don't expect miracles overnight but do stuff like this often enough and you will see doors being opened and rounds of drinks getting comped.
From here, you can talk to your friend Bob the Bar Manager and say, "Hey we were thinking of trying out a new venue in town, any recommendations?" If you've played your cards right, Bob might respond with something like, "Yeah, check out X-bar downtown. Talk to Steve and tell him I sent you." So you do that, talk to Steve, and repeat the routine. Follow up email, thank Steve for his hospitality, you'll send more business there, etc etc etc.
Just be cool about it, don't bullshit too much, don't act like an entitled ass. I can honestly say after working in quite a few high end venues that restaurant managers deal with complete ASSHOLES all day long. The nicer you are, the more mature, professional, courteous, and cool you are, the more you'll stick out. No need to tip crazy, but keep it at 20%. The restaurant staff will see you and be relieved, "Ah cool, here comes so-and-so. He's always normal, polite, and tips well."
Don't hit on the bartenders. Quick way to build a negative stigma. If she's obviously into you then go for it. If you've gotten to the point where you're hanging out with a restaurant manager on their time off, have become that good of friends with them, THEN you can say, "Hey that blonde bartender is pretty cute, she taken?" And gauge their response. Some managers are protective, others don't give a shit.
This is the sort of thing that builds with time. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. I can get into pretty much any club in L.A. without paying a cover or waiting, but I can't get VIP access. I'm not that high up on the ladder. Sometimes I go out and my entire bill is comped, other times not. Managers and staff come and go quickly. I might be a VIP at a bar and then 3 months later then entire floor staff turns over. I might check out a new venue and turns out I know the bar manager from 3 years back and now suddenly the first two rounds are free.
Just start networking and build it from there.
P.S. this shit works wonders in Vegas. Last time I was there I had a manager friend make me a reservation at one of Mario Batali's restaurants (I used to work in his restaurant group). After my meal I talked to the floor manager and she sent me to meet the door manager at Lavo, who let me right in and got me two free drinks. When I was done there I chatted him up and he set me up at Tao. Walked right in past a huge line of dudes who had to pay to get in. I didn't know any of these people previously. Just gotta say the right things to the right people, talk the talk a little, and be cool.