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Breaking in new beliefs and the light at the end of the tunnel
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Breaking in new beliefs and the light at the end of the tunnel
As a preface, I didn't write this thread to look for validation or congratulations from other people for my first success. I wrote it because I wanted to share an extremely humbling experience I had because today I woke up a new man. This is to show the new guys that game is not some magic power that gets women to sleep with you after you put a moderate amount of work into it like other things in life. Its hard. Its on its own level in terms of willpower and determination. Unlike most things, you won't get good at it just because you invest time in it. You literally have to invest and experience the emotional pain of feeling like society's reject before you get to the rewards.

That's the cold, hard truth about this shit. If you're not prepared for that, you're never gonna get good at this. Now here's the story.

I've been in the game for eight months now going through what many would call "the pain period". I walked up to girls during the day in front of their friends to hit on them and embarrassed myself constantly to build confidence. I went out to bars and frat parties alone because my friends didn't have the balls to talk to girls with me. Before last night all I had to show for the work I put into pickup was a single 5 minute makeout with a moderately cute girl (the first time i kissed a girl in my life). It was incredibly demoralizing to put so much effort into something and not see it change a thing in my life for two thirds of a year. I started to doubt that I had any power over myself (even after I went on a 4 month super diet last summer and lost 80 pounds).

Last night was intense. I went to a frat party and two different bars with some friends and I made out with three or four different girls. Two of them were 7s and one of them was a 9. I was approaching like a madman doing caveman game and even the girls that wouldn't makeout with me were laughing hysterically at the vibe I was putting out. I got a positive response in some way from about 90% of the girls I approached and I would've probably had more makeouts if I gave the girls more time to get comfortable around me by socializing before I went sexual. I almost pulled the 9 back to campus alone but she refused to leave without her friend.

As amazing as last night was, today I woke up shaking. Literally scared shitless. My entire life I had such a strong belief that I could not see myself as a sexual being and that was shattered in a single night. It was probably the strongest belief I've ever had about anything. My brain didn't know what to do or how to handle having that belief broken. My body chemistry is so fucked up right now that I might not even go out tonight on a saturday. I need a few days to let my brain process that what happened DID actually happen before I can really enjoy that success.

So for all the newbies, that's what the game is about. Reconstructing your strongest beliefs about yourself through humbling emotional stress. If you're avoiding facing the pain of doing that you aren't changing no matter how much you approach women. It was a painful eight months avoiding my fears and lying to myself that I was changing when I wasn't.
04-14-2012 03:42 PM
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RE: Breaking in new beliefs and the light at the end of the tunnel
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04-14-2012 07:47 PM
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RE: Breaking in new beliefs and the light at the end of the tunnel
Take a rest and reflect, but don't get too comfortable. I didn't see any mention of a good fuckin' in that post, but that's OK. It sounds like you had your sorta...red pill moment. You knew it was there, but you finally took it and it kicked in. Remember that this is a constant process that has -nothing- to do with women. This is about removing the layers of social stigma and bullshit fed to us by the media, friends, family and academia that attempts to deny human nature.

If you learn nothing more, learn this: We are all just monkeys. We are nothing but animals who have learned to communicate very, very efficiently. Next time you watch people, ignore their words and pretend they're apes. I guarantee you'll learn more watching "Monkeys" than you will listening to them.
04-14-2012 07:51 PM
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RE: Breaking in new beliefs and the light at the end of the tunnel
Nice. Its like you have this realization of a new self you´ve been trying to build and it came to frutition. I would force myself to go out today though. That new high might give you that don´t give a fuck attitude that will say bye bye to your virginity.
04-14-2012 10:55 PM
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RE: Breaking in new beliefs and the light at the end of the tunnel
I know the feeling you're talking about. Happened after my first SNL and the first time I raw dogged a dirty slut. The SNL made me realize I did have the power and need to work on it if I want to get what I want. The slut made me reflect on all of the girls I've known and changed my perspective of women.
04-15-2012 12:08 PM
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