(09-29-2013 05:47 PM)iknowexactly Wrote: The money-vs-free-time argument will never end, and there are only individual answers suited to each person's values. We're both right--with regard to what we each want out of life.
I agree with you here.
(09-29-2013 05:47 PM)iknowexactly Wrote: Many people say bust ass and retire at 35-40, and that would be my second choice and a good one for most people I believe, but even that has drawbacks-- I was able to live a musician lifestyle in my 20s, and didn't work a full time job in my life until I was 33. Then I busted ass for about 17 years to get a minimal survival income.
That sits about right with me, there is no way to go back later in life to a lazy, job avoiding, guitar playing 20s-- I'm happy I did it. However, I am jealous of childhood friends who were more conservative, made money, had kids, etc. But I wouldn't do it myself.
Sure these are life choices that may be informed by our circumstances and ambitions, and if you do not come from wealth, it may cause you to take a chance that does not pay off financially, but it was still the choice that you wanted to make and to live with based on the information that you then had available. There is nothing wrong with that, and we are each molded by our various kinds of life choices in the persons we are or become.
(09-29-2013 05:47 PM)iknowexactly Wrote: There's no question from my point of view-- I've never had a job I liked, whenever I was sitting somewhere being told what to do, I was clearly feeling "I wish I was somewhere else" every fucking moment. For me ( and I speak only for myself) a full time job is basically equivalent to suspended animation-- it is not living, it is a worthwhile life only for a specific period after which life will begin again.
If I had to work a full time job my whole life, I would rather not even be born. It is just like being a machine to someone like me.
Most people have far more tolerance of sitting somewhere for several years, sometimes even decades, to avoid any chance of poverty.
We each have different tolerance levels regarding this, and the dynamics of the workplace changes from generation to generation, and may also depend on your starting points. Sometimes we can learn toleration for something that we did not previously do and even appreciate some of these kinds of changes in our activities. To each his own, I suppose because sometimes some people will not find any appreciable value in adapting. I grew up in rural living and thought that I wanted outdoors and no desk-ridden type jobs, but it ended up that my thoughts changed as I entered the work force and as I looked at my options. I spent more than 20 years in student and office jobs.. which resulted in a lot of desk work, which I grew to like, which may not occur for other guys – and surely these kinds of changes in me have had benefits and costs… which ultimately I learned to appreciate and even to enjoy what positives I could find in the situation that I was in.
In no way would I consider such to be death… that seems to be a mental framework more than anything, and ultimately, I believe it is valuable to be able to adapt to our surroundings – however, yes, we have less need to do these kinds of adapting as we become older… and maybe even if we become financially independent – another reason to attempt to become financially independent (meaning having a passive income that is great enough to cover all costs in order you do not have to work if you do not want to).
(09-29-2013 05:47 PM)iknowexactly Wrote: I don't know how old you are, but for someone into sex and music, there are always exceptions like weightlifter guy mentioned above, but for most people quality of life declines quite a lot after 50, and I've noticed it's even worse at 55. Casanova planned on ending his biography at 50, because he felt that his likfe was not enjoyable after that.
I’m in my early 40s; however, I had already noticed some slight declines in energy and sex drive since my mid-30s (let’s say about 10 years of declines and some did not become noticeable til later), and I try to stay positive in my thinking because I expect the declines will only get worse – even though I strive to maintain certain activities in my weekly-life to attempt to address energy and libido issues, including tweaking my activities related to stress, diet, exercise and sleep.
(09-29-2013 05:47 PM)iknowexactly Wrote: Most people don't tell you this stuff because they are ashamed in some way about getting old, or feel it's not worth it to tell you something depressing when there's little to be done about it except the obvious "live healthy" advice.
It surely is good to hear various perspectives about the aging effects on different people, and certainly, we know that all 60 year olds are not alike, and that is due to a variety of factors including some things that may not be completely controllable or even knowable.
(09-29-2013 07:44 PM)MikeCF Wrote: Neither of you have any personal experience with test injections and are just parroting ignorant doctors and scientists - who for many years said taking testosterone was dangerous and could kill you. That lie didn't work so now they say, "Oh, your T levels don't decline that much, anyway. Why take test? Grow old gracefully."
Also, personally, I am getting the sense that RawGod and LizOz are talking hypothetically rather than from experience – or at least any explanation of experience about the aging process is not very extrapolateable (word?) to the general public of RVF forum readers. Kind of pie in the sky about decline is no big deal and manageable etc. etc.
Nonetheless, I really do not believe that testosterone supplementation is a solution for all guys in their 40s and 50s and later or even a wide majority of guys in these age groups. Surely, there may be instances in which testosterone supplementation is good for some guys, and there may be some science to support that supplementation is good for some guys.. I have read some of these, and I remain unconvinced that testosterone supplements is a good solution or even that it should be amongst the first choices of solutions for lowering energy and/or lowering libido until maybe some more natural attempts have been attempted first. My sense is to go natural to the extent feasible with attempting to increase energy and sex drive to the extent possible with natural methods, and that is why sometimes it is discovered that the isolating of a supplement from its original source loses some of its measurable benefits. For example, if possible, it probably would be better to obtain omega 3s from eating fish rather than supplementing with oils or pills.. getting the good thing from the natural source is better for the body and to leave the body to do its own thing… the body is a complicated mechanism that can frequently adjust itself with natural solutions.
Also, I may be contradicting myself ; however, I am actually thinking that when I go to SEA in February, I am going to start to try out Cialis – and in that regard, I do not know if I am contradicting myself too much here… and some may say that a testosterone supplementation would be better than taking a drug. I may need to look into researching more into these possibilities in the coming months (or even the coming year), so maybe MikeCF, I will be coming around to your way of thinking.. not sure, yet…
(09-29-2013 09:49 PM)RawGod Wrote: I would regard TRT as a brute force mechanism which lifts testosterone levels in isolation, while age-related libido and health decline is much more complex. Still I would have no hesitation in injecting for life when I get older, if the benefits outweigh the costs.
RawGod: I agree with this part of what you are saying – that declines in energy and sex drive is complex, and we should not necessarily rule out supplements and/or medications. However, I hear some of your characterizations of your own experience to be a bit too pie in the sky for my thinking and your depictions do not really account for some additional declines in energy and sex drive that may vary for guys in their 30s and beyond (and may or may not be perceptible to the guy experiencing some declines that are coming about slowly).