Post: #26

Everying you asked about is already contained in my post. But your most recent posts have confirmed my suspicion you're only fucking fatties and sluts off the internet, which makes the problem a lot more obvious. Do real game and aim for hotter girls.

As for your girl. Yeah it's "on her" but girls are emotional and can't be expected to make their own decisions. If you're not fucking her, and you're not going to, you should take responsbility as a man and drop her. Stop hamsterizing and challenge yourself.

Post: #27

(12-26-2017 01:28 AM)churros Wrote:  Everying you asked about is already contained in my post. But your most recent posts have confirmed my suspicion you're only fucking fatties and sluts off the internet, which makes the problem a lot more obvious. Do real game and aim for hotter girls.

As for your girl. Yeah it's "on her" but girls are emotional and can't be expected to make their own decisions. If you're not fucking her, and you're not going to, you should take responsbility as a man and drop her. Stop hamsterizing and challenge yourself.

I'm not sure why you seem defensive and antagonistic.. As if I've somehow triggered you, and now you want to bait me into qualifying myself to you or otherwise seeking "wise old papa's" approval. Not how I roll, dude.

Post: #28

I took the time to write you legitimate advice. You should appreciate that and stop getting butthurt when you hear something that displeases you. This board is not a safe space and does not exist to validate your life choices.

Post: #29

I always welcome discourse. But it's boring and counterproductive to try to have a conversation with someone who fails to engage with the bulk of content, and instead reiterates their same banal platitude, albeit with the venom of a toddler not getting their way.

Post: #30

(12-26-2017 12:44 AM)AffNomad Wrote:  

(12-25-2017 08:16 PM)Fisto Wrote:  Everything here I can relate to.

I’m going to be 40 soon.

I am presently banging around 8-10 girls regularly average age about 19 or 20.

Some are genuinely good girls that I’d like to date long term and they are enamoured.

I have also been pondering how to “have it all”, meaning a family but plently of variety.

My drive has not settled down at all and I think it’s a blessing and a curse.

The same thing that gives me the drive to smash new women keeps me strong and looking good but it also keeps me from being happy in a monogomous relationship.

I did what you did also at 27. Had a girl I really loved but didn’t enjoy fucking her at all (previously I did) to the point 4-6 weeks would go by and I’d have to bang her to keep her from going off the rails.

I don’t know if it’s sex addiction or the coolidge effect or what. I think most of the time I do this stuff to see how far I can push things.

It’s “fun” but I wouldn’t say it’s fullfilling.

Last night for example I had a 19 year old Puerto Rican girl come over who would be an excellent entry in the boobs thread. She left at 9:45 and a 20 yr old girl who could be in the Asian thread came over and spent the night. (It is pretty standard for me to have two or more women in a 24 hour period) most days of the week.

It was fun but really I was dead tired after work and just happy to smash them so they’ll stay in my harem a little while longer (it had been a little over a week since I saw both and I sensed they were about to go elsewhere)

I have been asking myself recently “is this all there is”?

When I was in my 20s I would have killed to be where I am now in terms of women and lifestyle.

The Lizard of Oz has a thread about how all men should eventually settle down and marry (I’m on my phone otherwise I would link to it) and at the time I disagreed. Now I’m not so sure.

These are powerful words. I can very clearly see my life following a trajectory that brings me to where you are.. and from where I am now, it's more or less what I think I'll want.

What ended up happening with the girl you loved when you were 27? Have there been more like her? What's your general outlook on the likelihood of monogamy now, both philosophically and personally? How for you until you lose interest in one girl?

And maybe that is all there is for a certain subset of guys biologically wired to inseminate en masse as their reproductive strategies. And maybe there's nothing wrong with that, even if it does mean that legacy needs to be defined in terms of business success and philanthropy. I just know that the way I am now, I'd be miserable in a monogamous relationship with kids.

Very much agree on 19-20 being a fun age. Really can't relate to them about anything at all and generally find them semi retarded, but I hang out with them to fuck, not talk about futurism or the chemistry of cooking.

I'm not able to find the Lizard of Oz thread, but would love to read it if you can find it.

Had it bookmarked:

"Almost All Men Should Eventually Marry And Have Kids" by the Lizard of Oz

Post: #31

I'm 40 now and my desire to fuck random whores has never been higher.

Live your life for you, today. Don't worry about what you'll want tomorrow. Maybe you'll wake up and decide you want to settle down and have a family. Maybe you won't. Cross that bridge when you come to it.

Some of us just aren't built for the family life. I know I'm not.

Post: #32

Yeah OP, what I meant wasn't necessarily implying a lowering of testosterone, but a certain maturity that comes with age. Some men get it sooner, some later. I hope to reach it not too late, to focus more on work and less on sexual exploits, but I recognize that I have little free will when it comes to that.

I hope to be a responsible 40 year old though.. [email protected] you degenerate.. leave some for the young bucks lol

And yes OP, your cock does become rather sore when you drill a girl all night while not having been well rested in the first place, you should try it.

Post: #33

The only "solution" for this I think is to stop fucking so many women. Too much of anything is addicting, even if it doesn't feel like it in the moment. It's addiction when you feel regret after doing something, but you keep doing it anyway.

Basically, I think fucking random sluts gets old after a while and although it provides you that momentary pleasure it's fleeting. What worked for me for a while was to challenge myself and seduce the "good" girls and make them do things they thought they'd never do and told me beforehand they'd never do, but now that has gotten boring too. Others have suggested tantric sex or other ideas, but you'll get bored of those eventually.

The only thing that has helped a bit is to limit the number of girls. Do you really need to cum every day? If you don't have sex for a week your girlfriend is going to start looking more and more attractive; if she's still not attractive after a week, wait a couple weeks.

I have a girlfriend and although I normally enjoy her company and we have a good sex life, I definitely get bored of her too. A new girl on the side every once in a while increases my sex drive, boosts my confidence, and also makes me feel like I'm the catch in the relationship; however, it also worsens our relationship because if she doesn't bend to my will then I'm that much closer to saying "fuck it" and moving on to the next one.

My somewhat happy medium at the time is to stick with my girl, but fuck a new girl every two to three months. This allows me to get horny enough that she is still attractive to me, but also gives me a bit of variety and increases my horniness. I'll probably bore of this at some point, but for now it feels a bit more meaningful working on a relationship with someone than fucking 100's of tinder sluts.

Post: #34

(12-26-2017 12:44 AM)AffNomad Wrote:  Wow, am so grateful the quality of responses.. what an awesome community. Thanks to everyone for sharing your wisdom and stories.

(12-25-2017 05:08 PM)Lermontov Wrote:  How many hours per week on average can you spend seeking new sexual partners? Like when you go on those cravings and have sex with 3-7 sexual partners in a week? And for those slow phases (1-2 new partners) ? To be considered an addiction, it has to have negative consequences on your life. Getting many strangers to come at your place and fucking them without a condom is a pretty high risk behavior in my opinion. I personnally don't think we're on the same level that the an healthy ''alpha Imperative To Fuck'' and the Coolidge Effect initially observed on rodents. It looks like an addiction to me, but than again only you know the effects of that compulsive behavior on all the other spheres of your life.

About the LTR I don't know... For me it is weird to imagine a sexless relationship like that but I can totally understand how you can feel emotionnally attached to your partner. I'm in a 5 year LTR myself, we live together and I still feel very physically attracted to her and although we've had our problems regarding a mismatched libido (mine is stronger), we have sex almost everyday now after all those years. I wouldn't have the energy nor the willingness to seek new partners every week and to engage in unprotected sex with them, even though I know I could pull it off. You are arguably a very extroverted and ''sociosexual'' person on top of everything.

Thanks for sharing your story.

It really depends.. when I'm in full on fuck mode it can easily be 4-8 hours/day. Basically will prioritize it and won't stop until I either get a confirmed girl coming over, beat off 3 times, or it's very late at night and I have to admit defeat. I work for myself so it's not like I'm getting in trouble at work, also do well for myself so not like I'm losing my business over this. But ya, this preoccupation can eat into time I could be spending bettering myself as a man doing things like working out, reading, or taking steps to scale my business further. Of course when faced with a business challenge I'm struggling with it's very tempting to go to pursuing sex.

And ya, I suppose it's high risk... ish. I've gotten chlamydia once, non-permanent warts once. I'm an objective 8 looks wise (ex model) and 9-10 when factoring in job/lifestyle/intelligence/game.. and while I shoot for 7's+, I have zero qualms fucking a 6, or 4/5 if they're all I can find. Plus I'm pretty sly about the raw dog aspect. Pretty sure that when all these girls say "I seriously never do this.." that most of em mean it and I'm the exception.

So in your LTR, even after 5 years, you're just as into her? Do you have to think about other women in order to cum?

Thanks for sharing your story as well.

Yes, I'm sexually as into her after five years. I don't have to think about other women in order to cum or get it up. I might rarely fantasize about some random attractive woman I crossed path with when we have sex but it's more the exception to the rule.

I just can't relate with other guys on the forum who have good sex with an attractive woman a first time and don't feel like banging her again. When I have sex with someone I'm attracted to and the sex is at least okay, I feel like having sex again and again with that same person. And if I continue I bond with the person, and still want sex frequently.

I had a year between my second and third (current) LTR where I had a relatively high notch count, but it was for the sake of satisfying my libido as I was truly looking for a LTR with a beautiful and quality woman. The variety and the sex were fun and I learned much, but in a way it was emotionally exhausting for me. I see guys on the forum having like 50 notches a year and the thought of searching, meeting and having sex with that many women kind of drains me. I guess I'm an introvert.

Post: #35

(12-25-2017 12:32 PM)AffNomad Wrote:  I'm in front of the screen 7-14 hours/day but get 80% of my productivity done in probably 5. Usually. Some days I'm online 15 hours and effective every minute of it.

(12-25-2017 03:16 AM)AffNomad Wrote:  I go on/off craving lots of sex, during "on" phases it'll be 3-7 girls/week, frantic compulsion for more more more, hard o think about anything else. Slow phases more like 1-2.

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Also at this point, I'm not turned on by a girl after 1 time having sex. Maybe 2-3x, but typically we're talking 1 and I'm completely over it.

Congratulations on those truly unbelievable numbers