Post: #1

Girl I've been seeing for months just asked me if "I would be mad if she bought a sex toy". Sex is still regular, though she usually initiates because after all it's the same pussy. I'm wondering if there's something more to this.

Post: #2

Does she suck dick?

Post: #3

I don't know why she would bring it up unless she wants you to feel ashamed/inadequite. Judging from your unenthusiastic description of your sex life with her "She initiates because same pussy" sounds to me like you aren't giving her a very spirited dicking which may leave her feeling unsatisfied.

Post: #4

(09-21-2016 07:08 PM)General Stalin Wrote:  I don't know why she would bring it up unless she wants you to feel ashamed/inadequite. Judging from your unenthusiastic description of your sex life with her "She initiates because same pussy" sounds to me like you aren't giving her very a very spirited dicking which may leave her feeling unsatisfied.

It's not the intensity of the dicking that's the issue, it's the frequency. I see her a few times a week now (I spent my off hours doing band shit) instead of every day. But I am still laying the pipe well, she squirts all over my sheets. I asked why she wanted one, her answer was "Because I miss you".

EDIT: I am assuming it's not for use while we are fucking but for use during my absence.

(09-21-2016 07:06 PM)Suits Wrote:  Does she suck dick?

Yes, enthusiastically.

Post: #5

Meh. The reason she is bringing it up is most likely because she wants you to feel bad about not seeing her as much as usual. Ignore. Even if she's not bluffing and actually gets one she'll still prefer real sex. Sex is psychological for women - a dildo can never replace that. A man can be really horny but jerk off and in the end it's the same and we aren't horny anymore.

Tell her to get a double ended one so you can use it together.

Post: #6

She's comfortable with you to start sharing her "freaky" side.

The wrong play is to think this is a reflection on your manhood. If you freak out, she'll downgrade you as sex option, maybe boyfriend track.

If you ramp it up...

Lots of guys are afraid of unleashing the sex tiger for obvious reasons.

This is the square thought process

1) Dildo now, minor league hockey team gangbang next.

And

2) Then I'll lose her

A square has
- a false sense of security and
- an over inflated idea of the value of sex for her and for him
- an under inflated value of kink.

A player knows she could be fucking her boss and his secretary during her lunch break and he'd never know. The player is not under any illusions as to what he's dealing with.

Two key moves
- don't be intimidated
- don't judge

Best way to do both in a proactive way is to hit the sex shop together.

Ask if the staffer if the store has a "try before you buy" policy.

WIA

Post: #7

(09-21-2016 07:10 PM)Red_Pillage Wrote:  

(09-21-2016 07:06 PM)Suits Wrote:  Does she suck dick?

Yes, enthusiastically.

Then buy her a sex toy.

Post: #8

WIA with the gold advice. Thank you.

Post: #9

"I'm wondering if there's something more to this." The majority of women I know have vibrators and masturbate with them at least occasionally. I mean, it was bit shocking in my blue pill younger years. But I don't even ask anymore. I just know that's the way most women roll.

It's pretty normal for a girl to have a toy and nothing to feel threatened about.

If you are wondering what her motivation is, ask her. Right after you are done bangin her out, ask:

"What's with this sex toy you were thinking about getting?"
"Why do you want it?"
"When will you use it?"

You said she asked if you would "be mad" if she bought a sex toy. This is her way of asking permission but also indicating she might do it anyways if you don't give the OK.

The way to frame this is you quiz her about the sex toy, her motivation, usage and whatever you want. And then... you give her your "permission".

If you are a bit of a Dom, like I am, you take it a bit further. You only give her permission to use it when you give your OK. Like when you are at band practice and she is at home and horny, she has to text you and wait for you to give the ok. Don't fail to respond too many times, though, because that will mess things up bigtime. If you are feeling horny one night, tell her she can't touch play with it and she has to wait for you. OR that she has to do something else before she can use it.

Look, basically you aren't sexually satisfying this girl. She is horny and wants more than you are giving her. Instead of going out and jumping on the cock carousel she asks your permission to get a toy so she can stay satisfied while she is loyal to you. You've got it pretty good (as long as you actually like this chick). Don't blow it by being a threatened beta prude with her. You're golden and you don't even know it.

WIA... "try before you buy" policy? Gross.
Every sex shop I've been in they pull out the toy from the packaging, put batteries in it to verify it works, and tell you there is a NO RETURN policy. Sure, buy a refurbished lap top. But what chick would want to buy a returned used vibrating dildo??

Post: #10

Stop over-thinking it. This is a actually a good thing.

Post: #11

When dating my last girlfriend, I bought some toys about a year in. I'm pretty sure I got the idea from a thread on here.

I bought one of those remote control vibrators (don't buy the cheap Chinese version on eBay, I made that mistake) and a small butt plug.

If we were going out in public, I'd tell her to put the vibrator in and I'd have the remote on me. I could turn it on or off whenever I wanted. It's great for foreplay and a little bit of exhibitionism for girls who are too shy/proud/embarrassed/etc. to fuck in public.

If I was working late and she was home, I'd text her and tell her to put the butt plug in. I'd either set it up for anal, or just fuck her normally while she kept it in. Either way, she loved it.

Red_Pillage, it doesn't matter what toys or how you use them. As long as you remain in control of the situation, it's going to increase the quality of your sex life and ultimately make her more into you.

Post: #12

Either buy her the clone-a-bone or get a buttplug that you can use during sex. Preferably both.

Semi related but I also highly advocate owning a liberator.

Post: #13

(09-21-2016 10:54 PM)Easy_C Wrote:  Either buy her the clone-a-bone or get a buttplug that you can use during sex. Preferably both.

Semi related but I also highly advocate owning a liberator.

I second the liberator. Tomorrow I'm gonna have the opportunity to see if I can get two girls on it at once.

All these guys keep talking about butt plugs. Guess I'm gonna have to look into one of those for the ladies. Anyone want to enlighten me on the appeal?

I just looked and didn't find a sex toys thread on here. Anyone got a link?

Maybe OP should do some research into toys and take the lead with his ladies sex toys adventures.

Post: #14

A good third of the girls whose places I ended up at after a first date in the past year had a whole drawer full of 'em already.

Not exactly saints, some of these online girls you can pull home after two hours.

Post: #15

Don't ask me for the appeal. I havr no idea why but a lot of girls love having one up their butthole during sex.

Post: #16

(09-21-2016 11:16 PM)XPQ22 Wrote:  A good third of the girls whose places I ended up at after a first date in the past year had a whole drawer full of 'em already.

Not exactly saints, some of these online girls you can pull home after two hours.

To clarify, it's not that I was weirded out by chicks having sex toys. I've banged plenty who do. It just tripped a potential red flag alarm because she brought it up out of nowhere. I responded with WIA's suggestion. Her reply: "God I want you to fuck me so hard rn"


I think that means all is well. Haha.

Post: #17

(09-21-2016 10:01 PM)wi30 Wrote:  When dating my last girlfriend, I bought some toys about a year in. I'm pretty sure I got the idea from a thread on here.

I bought one of those remote control vibrators (don't buy the cheap Chinese version on eBay, I made that mistake) and a small butt plug.

If we were going out in public, I'd tell her to put the vibrator in and I'd have the remote on me. I could turn it on or off whenever I wanted. It's great for foreplay and a little bit of exhibitionism for girls who are too shy/proud/embarrassed/etc. to fuck in public.

If I was working late and she was home, I'd text her and tell her to put the butt plug in. I'd either set it up for anal, or just fuck her normally while she kept it in. Either way, she loved it.

Red_Pillage, it doesn't matter what toys or how you use them. As long as you remain in control of the situation, it's going to increase the quality of your sex life and ultimately make her more into you.

This. It doesn't matter as long as you control the situation.

The remote control ones are great for foreplay if you're out to dinner or a show.
Vibrators are great to have in a her pussy while you bang her in the ass, feels great for you.
Lots of girls love being banged with a butt plug in as well.

IMO the only thing you should never do is let a girl use a sex toy as a replacement for your cock. If that happens it's game over.

Post: #18

I had a girl told me she uses her toys to "keep me out of trouble", i.e., when she wasn't in a relationship, to keep her from riding the cock carousel.

Post: #19

I agree with WIA she is hinting at you to raise the levels up.

But I also agree that you can do more. Some girls are in fact nymphos and need sex or stimulation daily. So you still might not be giving her enough dick.

But now the ball is in your court to ramp things up and get her into your sex frame (I call stable). If she likes things kinky and rough then you gotta be chocking and smacking this girl around. Maybe learn to tie up her hands and shot as well whIle you fuck.

Have to see what her comfy limits are to see if you enjoy or feel the effort is worth it each time. You get a balance going where she pleases you more for a return of her man completely dominating her and then things should still roll healthy.

But be mindfull. She dropped that dildo line for a reason.

Post: #20

(09-22-2016 07:55 AM)kosko Wrote:  I agree with WIA she is hinting at you to raise the levels up.

But be mindfull. She dropped that dildo line for a reason.

Completely agree ... was in a similar situation in the past but was naive and didn't understand what she was hinting at. I acted all butt hurt and took it personally instead of being cool and stepping up my game. Nowadays I don't let this kind of thing bother me.

As suggested go with her to the sex shop but remind her that she should choose carefully as she has got to accommodate you in her "other" hole

Sage advice from WIA and kosko.

Post: #21

news flash, she already has several.

she just wants you to up the freak level.

create some rules. tell her you own her pussy and she's not allowed to use her toys until your dick is in her mouth.

Post: #22

(09-22-2016 07:55 AM)kosko Wrote:  I agree with WIA she is hinting at you to raise the levels up.

But I also agree that you can do more. Some girls are in fact nymphos and need sex or stimulation daily. So you still might not be giving her enough dick.

But now the ball is in your court to ramp things up and get her into your sex frame (I call stable). If she likes things kinky and rough then you gotta be chocking and smacking this girl around. Maybe learn to tie up her hands and shot as well whIle you fuck.

Have to see what her comfy limits are to see if you enjoy or feel the effort is worth it each time. You get a balance going where she pleases you more for a return of her man completely dominating her and then things should still roll healthy.

But be mindfull. She dropped that dildo line for a reason.

And taking things up a notch is more than just
- anal
- bdsm
- swing clubs

Sexuality is vast.
And girls get turned on by the weirdest things.

If you're being really real, girls like to go to spas, get massages, and all that type of stuff - it's pseudo-sexual.

They are literally using their environments and others to put them into a sensual mood. I see this all day. All day the women in my office are pumping their emotional states. All Day, Every last one of em. Young and old. It's the internet browsing, the phone games, the gossips and conversations.... state pump, state pump, state pump.

For example - Women are more vulnerable to sweets - not just because sweet things taste good - but there's an emotional component. Chocolate especially.

So when you're thinking about taking things up a notch with your chick - recognize that her level of sensation is way higher than yours - and she's constantly trying to make herself *feel*, and often times it's feel good.

Your bangs can get ritualistic - candles, incense

Your bangs can be out in public, maybe getting caught

Costumes

Role play

It's not just about P into V, but it's on the mental level. (this is in the same vein as the stuff we're talking about in the Lounge on how to sell the chick the dream via Instagram/Snap Chat)

WIA

Post: #23

^ One time I broke up with a girl, but then kept seeing her off and on for a while and we'd have sex. I told her "You know, we're not really supposed to be doing this...but we have such a good sexual connection. I think it'd be a shame to throw that away, you know? So we should just have our own private thing"

She seemed to like me even more than when I was her main guy!

But by now the reasons for that should be fairly clear...

Post: #24

(09-21-2016 06:59 PM)Red_Pillage Wrote:  Girl I've been seeing for months just asked me if "I would be mad if she bought a sex toy". Sex is still regular, though she usually initiates because after all it's the same pussy. I'm wondering if there's something more to this.

She wants orgasms when you are not around. Why would you ever be against this. What she's really asking is both your permission but also indirectly to go *with* her shopping. I did this last week with a plate, it turned out awesome.

Next step after she gets one is have her invite a cute friend around.

Post: #25

To go with what WIA. Girls want AN EXPERIENCE when they fuck. They want AN ADVENTURE. They want it to be EXCITING.

You can fuck her the same way every time that's guaranteed to get her to cum 10 times while you only do once. But it's repetitive and boring even though it's effective.

To make it exciting you have to mix it up and be creative. Push her against the wall, pull her panties down and fuck her. Do it the bathroom/changing room of a store. Do it at the movie theater. Do it outside. Do it in a car. It's endless how, where and when you can do it.

So go to the store with her and look at toys that will give her AN EXPERIENCE when she fucks you and not just a nut.